A Ten Year Old Could Do A SAHM's Job

[debrand]

Or so says Michale Pearl. It is sad how he doesn't realize that he is insulting the women in his life.

By the time he is ten years old he should be doing the work of a man, and the ten-year-old girl should be able to replace her mother entirely, caring for her or others when they are sick.

nogreaterjoy.org/articles/pacification-parenting/

On one hand, they tell women that remaining home with the children is important and noble, but on the other hand, they believe that a ten year old could replace the mom.

[Guest Anonymous]

How are they expecting a 10 year old to do a SAHM's job. They would have no life experience, not enough maturity etc. I don't know who Michale Pearl is but I hate him already :lol:

[debrand]

How are they expecting a 10 year old to do a SAHM's job. They would have no life experience, not enough maturity etc. I don't know who Michale Pearl is but I hate him already :lol:

I agree. The Pearls are evil and believe that beating a child training a child will produce miniadults who are perfectly obedient.

[Guest Anonymous]

I agree. The Pearls are evil and believe that beating a child training a child will produce miniadults who are perfectly obedient.

Yay! Because everyone wants their child to be a miniadult by the age of 5. (Duggar's and being buddies would be a great example here probably.)

[Visionoyahweh]

But, in about eighteen years, we will expect them to be totally autonomous souls fully responsible for themselves. That’s one crazy eighteen years, and who is sufficient for these things? Many kids are not ready to take responsibility when the time comes. Most are still not ready at thirty. Over half of the population never becomes productive members of society. They expect someone else to assume responsibility for their happiness—parents, government, labor union, spouse, or others. When life falls apart it is someone else’s fault. They make the perfect socialists in a welfare state that is presiding over its decline.

Maybe that's the half that are kept as oppressed SHAM/SAHDs? (I'm assuming he means someone with a Job as being productive, not that housework isn't an incredible amount of work).

[Deleted03]

Maybe that's the half that are kept as oppressed SHAM/SAHDs? (I'm assuming he means someone with a Job as being productive, not that housework isn't an incredible amount of work).

ahahah well this is called reproductive work, and it is considered "unproductive" by economists and not computed in the economy... :P so funny.

[debrand]

Maybe that's the half that are kept as oppressed SHAM/SAHDs? (I'm assuming he means someone with a Job as being productive, not that housework isn't an incredible amount of work).

Notice that he wrote labor unions as an example of something bad that makes people dependent.

[camdendayton]

Notice that he wrote labor unions as an example of something bad that makes people dependent.

I saw that debrand! I was thinking that's a new one.

:shifty:

[deelaem]

Could do and should do are two very different things.

[ophelia]

Although it's all about having as many kids as possible and defeating any kind of BC or abortion, the fundies once again show how little their affection towards children actually is. And Michael Pearl is the worst one when it comes to hating and abusing kids.

They should all reconsider having children, instead they should start to adopt grown ups that are willing. Since they can really accomplish the job of homemaking so that those 'hardworking' brood mares can do what they love most: reproduce, write blogs and go on and on about how much they hate women and children.

[tropaka]

...and a 10 y/o boy should be able to do a man's work? Maybe he wants to send kids back into the mines....

[cindyluvs24]

Maybe kids could do Duggar jobs, but... A ten-year-old could do my husband's job teaching microbiology? Or litigate? And thank you Mike, for pointing out that the mom's job could be done by a kid. So, what's the years of training to be a keeper at home for? Way to use that logic. Big dummy.

[Lillybee]

Does anyone know what happened to Rebekah and Gabe? 7xSunday is no more.

[Koala]

Does anyone know what happened to Rebekah and Gabe? 7xSunday is no more.

They applied Michael and Debbie's life principles and ended up with no money. Last I heard they couldn't even afford to power their home and Gabe was writing letters to the sheeple begging for money. I'm gonna take a wild guess and say they didn't pay the domain fees.

[ladypuglover]

I'm sorry but a 10 year old child can not do the work of a SAHM or home owner. Can a 10 year old repair a washer or water heater? How about rehang a wondow or paint the living room. Sure they can paint the living room in soda but not paint. How about hanging a new fan in the bathroom or bedroom? Make sure there is 3 hot meals every day? How about pay all the bills, grocery shop or make a budget? Would a child know what to do when someone gets sick or if a salesman comes to the door? What if the dishwasher started throwing up waste water across the room? Or the fridge quits working or smoking? What about grease fires? And what about when all these things are happening all at once?

I'm all for children learning things for their adult life but no way would I allow my 10 year old to use a deep fat fryer or use the lawn edger. I may have him start a load or fill the dishwasher and run it and put away the groceries but somethings he isn't ready for like bills, exploding water pipes, or running of the home. Hell, I'm his 41 year old mother and I'm not ready for adulthood when the toilet decides to do a return to sender.

Childhood is so fleeting and they have so much to learn but there are right ways and wrong ways to teaching things to children. If the Pearls are doing it or telling how it should be done then it most likely is the wrong way. The only advice I will take from them is to do exactly the opposite of their teachings.

[Antigone]

HELL to the no, Mr. Pearl. :snooty: (okay, that didn't sound right on here, but in my head it sounded perfect...maybe because you can't really put facial expressions and gestures through here that well.. hmm)..

Kids should be kids. 'nuff said.

ETA: Ladypug, you said it all.....so took it out so there would be no repetition.

[doggie]

so is this 10 year old going to use plumbing line on the little ones and themselves????

[AmyP]

Could do and should do are two very different things.

this

[chaotic life]

I was a very mature girl. I was babysitting children by 11 years of age. By 12, I was the primary cook in my house, and yes I cooked for my babysitting gigs too. I had two regular babysitting gigs every week and others that hired me at least a couple times a month as well. By 14, I was left overnight with my charges, feeding, bathing and putting them to bed.

Yet, my cooking skills were limited to about 4-5 meals. I once spilled grease in an oven and panicked and threw water on it, remembering that it needed baking soda because it was grease after it flared out of the oven. And, on occasion my infant charges would scream for hours and I would call my mother to find out what ELSE I was supposed to do to try and help calm them down and settle them to sleep.

Technically, I *could* do the work of a SAHM. However, I required back-up, adult support, and could have used some adults in my life not dumb enough to put me in that position. I wouldn't have made a GOOD SAHM back then. But, I could have attempted it. Never, ever could I have been the SAHM then that I am today as a grown woman.

Michael Pearl is simply an idiot. He doesn't care if he insults the women in his life.

[DCmilly]

Is it possible that a ten year old could cook or sew or look after a younger sibling. Sure...but very few mothers or fathers would let them do that without supervision because while they could carry out the tasks it would be very unlikely that they would be able to consistently handle all the dutes of a SAHM and handle unexpected emergencies because as a 10 year old they would not be able to handle the constant stress and they would not have the good judgement of a SAHM. And that isn't to say anything bad about a 10 year old...it just goes to show that the Pearls didn't have any clue about parenting or how the minds and bodies of children develop.

[silverspoons]

I live next door to a strict asian family who came to america after living in povety and , opened a family business. With the economy the way it is the parents can work up to 20 hours a day. They expect ALOT from their kids. A six year old does their laundry by themselves from washing to folding and putting away. When the kids were young after school most days they would go to the business. When the oldest was 11 the kids started to come home after school. Yes they could cook, clean, and do their homework on their own but they did need my husband and I to help sometimes(for rides to the store, schoolprojects, minor medical questions). One thing that stood out is when the now oldest who is 13 years old cooks, it is the same easy meals (like the Duggars) over and over. Lots of times I make extras and bring it over to supplement the same 5 meals they eat.

Even though they are all great students, polite, and mature, it is sad to see the lack of understanding of personal relationships and some common sense issues. I don't think every 10 year old *needs* a mother to do "mom stuff" but every 10 year old needs a mother figure in their lives.

[gustava]

Is Pearl going beyond emotional incest?

[tropaka]

This is also just another example of lazy parenting...train your kid so you can sit on your ass when they're 10 (at least in terms of housework)....this man is ridiculous and it's a shame people are stupid enough to follow him (and his wife).

[Whydoyouask]

Heck I'm 30- some years old (darn close to 40) and have trouble doing SAHM 'work' most days and my kiddo is almost 12 years old. I must be a total failure.

[boysmom]

I believe that 1 relatively mature 10 yo can do the basics, feed the baby, make sure it doesn't get hurt. But what about the child-rearing part? Stuff like stimulating language. Will a 10 yo speak to the child frequently, recast incorrect grammar, sounds, etc, to make sure the baby learns to speak well? Will a ten year old read books and practice the animal sounds and counting? Will a ten yo plan nutritious meals that taste good to ensure decent nutrition? They aren't capable of all that. Raising a child is so, so, so much more than feeding them and changing diapers. He seems to be thinking only of that, and cleaning. Why do so many men that being a

SAHM primarily involves vaccuming and scrubbing toilets? The child-rearing is the job, the rest you fit in when you can.

And I agree that both are hard, SAHM and WOHM, both are parents. I think that being a WOHM is harder personally, always having to divide yourself.