LoraLynn, you make me sick....

[onlyorganic]

I remember her posting that the baby had been sick and for some reason the foster home she was in in Africa shaved her head. So LL wasn't the one who got rid of the hair.

[Guest Anonymous]

I'm very glad to have been wrong about the hair. LL sucks as a mother in just about every other way, though.

I am really annoyed by the way she fails to take personal responsibility for what happens to the children. So much of her writing is in the passisve voice "Mira didn't have a dress" instead of "We didn't think to get Mira a dress". Hell, if I had that beautiful little girl, I'd cut up my own outfit to make her a half dozen fancy dress outfits to choose from.

In last week's entry, (http://www.vitafamiliae.com/?p=4364) she writes abut how they were late getting up for church on Sunday because they stayed up late on the previous night, doing Mira's hair..... meaning actually they chose to keep Mira from her bed on Saturday night because they hadn't scheduled any daylight hours for doing her hair, and then they used her as an excuse when they trooped in late to church the next day.

[skankbiscuit]

I loathe people who do out of country adoptions so they can use their children as props. Sick.

[Ms A E]

This is a baby that LL's family adopted from overseas. The panic attacks are not a new thing and they seem to be quite severe, from previous blog entries. She is one year old and LL has not made any effort to understand the panic attacks (or many other aspects of the child's life). If a random stranger in a supermarket was unsympathetic to another child's panic attack, I might give them a pass but a mother who bought the child from its birth mother in another country should get a f*cking clue about how to raise her.

This. And to further clarify a statement by another poster, I work in infant mental health, and there is actually A LOT we can do to help something like the panic attacks being described in a child her age! - Starting with, helping her mother have some goddamn compassion, and thinking about her baby's experience. Seriously, this makes me sick. And I have no doubt that she did have a full blown panic attack - infant's are just as capable of emotions like fear as older children. (It's only more complex, socially mediated emotions, i.e. shame, that come on line a little later). It makes me even sicker that she apparently has these attacks quite frequently. I don't want to imagine how hard it must be to live in terror of riding in the car, and to know that when you scream, no one hears your cries. All I have to say is, if this sweet baby wasn't traumatized before she came to live with this mother, she certainly is now.

[CanadianHippie]

I think this about explains it all

And Willa cried. I haven’t the faintest idea why. She just did. She stood at my feet and wailed. â€Up! Up!â€

vitafamiliae.com/?p=3429

She is so wrapped up in her own little world she can't even figure out that a toddler coming up to an adult and crying "Up! Up!" wants to be picked up and loved on for a bit.

Yes, she figured it out eventually, but still?

[divadivine]

Free Mira!!!!!!!!!!! And Jinger and Hannie.... and the others, too! I'd love to have a sweet little girl like Mira to love on and buy pretty dresses for and get her hair done properly (we have many ethnic beauty shops in my area-- lots of mixed children, lots of families from my parish are from Africa, etc). Could I give her a big fancy house like LL? Nope, she'd have a tiny bedroom in an apartment, but she'd be happy and cared for and get real attention/quality time with someone who actually cared. I seriously want to slap LL. HARD!

[treemom]

I remember her posting that the baby had been sick and for some reason the foster home she was in in Africa shaved her head. So LL wasn't the one who got rid of the hair.

Her baby was quite ill before she left Ethiopia as I recall.

[NothingLeftToLose]

I have some kids, and some are adopted. She has to be one of the WORST ADOPTIVE MOM BLOGGERS ever!

This blog makes me so sad. I can barely read it without having some type of anger/sadness/emotional reaction.

I have a child who suffers from PTSD and has attachment and trust issues. He struggles so much with the grief he carries and the loss of his life before adoption....

LL is a cold-hearted bitch who is emotionally damaging Mira every second of every day.

[Milly-Molly-Mandy]

I have some kids, and some are adopted. She has to be one of the WORST ADOPTIVE MOM BLOGGERS ever!

This blog makes me so sad. I can barely read it without having some type of anger/sadness/emotional reaction.

I have a child who suffers from PTSD and has attachment and trust issues. He struggles so much with the grief he carries and the loss of his life before adoption....

LL is a cold-hearted bitch who is emotionally damaging Mira every second of every day.

Oh I wish someone would get her help. Both LL and gorgeous little Mira, who deserves so much more.

So sad when so many other FJ's cant adopt when this beastly women can.

[dianapavelovna]

Her Pinterest boards are full of luxuries that she covets.... http://pinterest.com/vitafamiliae/things-i-covet/

Nothing inherently wrong there... but for the way she treats her children.

Waitwaitwait - their last name is Fanning? They're naming their child Finn Fanning? Ew.

[galaxygirl]

You know, I've only been a mother for a week. Our daughter is not a big fan of car rides yet, so I ride in the back with her, talking to her and holding her hand to help her calm down. Which usually works, it's a really weird concept pay attention to the child and the child might calm down.

[Kelya]

A cousin of mine was adopted from Russia and would get violently ill in car rides. He'd been almost adopted once and then the family gave him up because of his car sickness, so he'd get ill, then panic about being sent back for getting ill. It was an awful cycle that took a lot of love, patience and carpet cleaner, but he's doing much better now. The adoption agency also warned them this was a problem with lots of children, because they never really routinely rode in cars! Everyone should have been aware of this before adoption so it just makes me ill.

[divadivine]

You know, I've only been a mother for a week. Our daughter is not a big fan of car rides yet, so I ride in the back with her, talking to her and holding her hand to help her calm down. Which usually works, it's a really weird concept pay attention to the child and the child might calm down.

Congrats on your new daughter :D

Maybe you could send LL some parenting advice as it seems she could use it!

My god daughter doesn't like to ride in the car at night- that would probably send LL over the edge.

[ophelia]

Free Mira!!!!!!!!!!! And Jinger and Hannie.... and the others, too! I'd love to have a sweet little girl like Mira to love on and buy pretty dresses for and get her hair done properly (we have many ethnic beauty shops in my area-- lots of mixed children, lots of families from my parish are from Africa, etc). Could I give her a big fancy house like LL? Nope, she'd have a tiny bedroom in an apartment, but she'd be happy and cared for and get real attention/quality time with someone who actually cared. I seriously want to slap LL. HARD!

how do they afford a big house?

[treemom]

Her husband has a real job, not the fundie maxwell style. He works from home though. And they went to college...which can help.

But since they are idiots to me..I am sure they are financed to the hilt.

[Koala]

I think they live pretty close to me. They have posted pictures of themselves in places that I frequent.

[Guest Anonymous]

You'll be pleased to know that Lora Lynn's feeling better! Hurrah!

So she's back to giving plenty of the mommy love she's so filled with to the rest of the kids she deliberately created and adopted, right?

Wrong! She's off on a day out with a pal to TALK about the kids she's deliberately created and adopted... close enough, yeah....

http://www.vitafamiliae.com/?p=4498

[lessa]

Ok, having learned they moved sometime in the last few years from Northern Va and he works from home I'm guessing he's a government contractor of some sort. Having a husband who worked for the Feds in IT as both a Govt employee and a contractor there is a lot of money to be had if you can stomach dealing with the red tape etc. He's happily private sector now. Should have checked to see where they moved South. I know there are several Govt hot spots for contractors, one of them being Huntsville in AL. Add in a lower cost of living and I can see where they can afford the toys.

[treemom]

Ok, having learned they moved sometime in the last few years from Northern Va and he works from home I'm guessing he's a government contractor of some sort. Having a husband who worked for the Feds in IT as both a Govt employee and a contractor there is a lot of money to be had if you can stomach dealing with the red tape etc. He's happily private sector now. Should have checked to see where they moved South. I know there are several Govt hot spots for contractors, one of them being Huntsville in AL. Add in a lower cost of living and I can see where they can afford the toys.

My husband likes private sector more as well. Although to be fair I think some of that has to vast amount of child porn he had to look at.

And there was a lot more money for him private sector.

[lessa]

My husband likes private sector more as well. Although to be fair I think some of that has to vast amount of child porn he had to look at.

And there was a lot more money for him private sector.

Do not blame your husband one bit. Sounds like he was doing important work, but emotionally horrible.

[hoipolloi]

Ok, having learned they moved sometime in the last few years from Northern Va and he works from home I'm guessing he's a government contractor of some sort. Having a husband who worked for the Feds in IT as both a Govt employee and a contractor there is a lot of money to be had if you can stomach dealing with the red tape etc. He's happily private sector now. Should have checked to see where they moved South. I know there are several Govt hot spots for contractors, one of them being Huntsville in AL. Add in a lower cost of living and I can see where they can afford the toys.

They live in AL, don't they - not too far from the Sanders compound?

[onlyorganic]

FJers will point out how LL was different because she went to public school and met Vitadad at college, but I see no difference between her and the other SAHDs who have courtships and a baby 10 months after the wedding date. As far as I can tell she's never held an outside job and surely college wasn't 100-percent free? It would seem to me she basically went to college to get her MRS degree.

[PBrooke]

But she is different because she had a taste of outside life. The SAHD's don't have the freedom of choice. The fact that LL, at least in some capacity, DID - and that she's apparently encouraging at least her siblings, if not her own children, to do the SAHD thing - makes her more akin to Michelle Duggar. That's what makes ME angry.

[onlyorganic]

Um, just was looking at the Sanders blog... they had a shower for LL. Really? This isn't baby #7 or anything...

[Letgo]

FJers will point out how LL was different because she went to public school and met Vitadad at college

What?!?!!? Isn't she a Sanders? How did she manage to go to public school and college? Plus, she does not live on the 'family compound' as the other married siblings do. I would guess that is because she is female. Is LL much older than the other Sanders kids and did this family become more conservative after she was grown? No one else appears to have actually attended a real school, let alone college. What happened with her?