Jump to content
IGNORED

Modest is Hottest?


backyard sylph

Recommended Posts

I'll confess I grew up in the 1970s and 80s, and so I have found the recent skittering from low-cut jeans that show more panty than line to a sort of puritanical view of fashion I see lately to be exhausting and annoying. By the standards of the people we discuss here, I am not a moderate dresser. I wear spaghetti strap sundresses all summer long, and don't go in much for sleeves in the winter. When I was a teen and young adult, I loved loved low cut backs, or back cut-outs, and now as a middle-aged person, I'm a little disappointed cleavage is not currently in style. It's my main asset these days. ;-) However, I really don't care how anyone else dresses—aside from jeans that always looked on the verge of leaving their owner—as long as they make some effort to clean their shoes, and recognize that some situations call for a bit more effort than others. Extreme reasons for their choices, though, tend to bum me out.

https://medium.com/@joelherbert/modest-is-hottest-is-not-in-the-bible-49b58ed1fdf6

I just realized that my sort of wishing for cleavage baring could be seen as a specific desire to look, well, desirable. And then I realized it was ridiculous of me to worry about whether someone else thought that.

I just like certain kinds of clothing balance, both formal and informal in the artistic sense, and also I am uncomfortable being too covered up for too long. I'd never enjoy being a nudist, but would fit happily in the land of short, light, loose freedom of dress all year round. I would do well on an island that Joel McCrea found himself stranded on after a boat accident.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Cleavage is always in style :my_biggrin:

"Modest is hottest" confuses me greatly - isn't the point of modesty to NOT be hot, to make your looks unattractive or covered up so men don't look at you and lust?  If you're trying to avoid making men lust wouldn't "not hot" be the goal? 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

If they mean "hottest" as in sweating due to wearing excessive clothing during the summer time, then yes, Moddest Is Hottest!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

"Modest is Hottest" is a fundamentalist Christian brainwashing and propaganda tool. While fundies parade it around as "girls should respect themselves," it more closely resembles the same purpose of a gum or candy wrapper: if you are unwrapped, you are unhygienic and damaged goods.

 

The article @backyard sylph linked to is good, it doesn't touch on the root of what makes this philosophy so insidious.

 

17 minutes ago, nomoxian said:

 

If they mean "hottest" as in sweating due to wearing excessive clothing during the summer time, then yes, Moddest Is Hottest!

 

That too! :pb_lol:

Link to comment
Share on other sites

It's pretty gross that they are literally sexualizing modesty.

But you can sexualize anything at all, of course. (totally sfw.)

Link to comment
Share on other sites

1 hour ago, backyard sylph said:

But you can sexualize anything at all, of course. (totally sfw.)

"uuh"  I need Jesus water to wash my eyes and repure my purity again. Jk 

as personally, I am pants type of woman (and I have been since childhood, my mother always though it was miracle if I agreed to wear a skirt) but when I do wear skirt it is either because I am attending a party or I am alone in my home. I also like to wear hoodies with zippers ( usually t-shirt or top underneath), this is motly because if it gets way too hot I don't need to hassle to remove a layer, simply open the zipper and tadaa. 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

On 7/14/2017 at 2:18 PM, tsukinokawa said:

"uuh"  I need Jesus water to wash my eyes and repure my purity again. Jk 

as personally, I am pants type of woman (and I have been since childhood, my mother always though it was miracle if I agreed to wear a skirt) but when I do wear skirt it is either because I am attending a party or I am alone in my home. I also like to wear hoodies with zippers ( usually t-shirt or top underneath), this is motly because if it gets way too hot I don't need to hassle to remove a layer, simply open the zipper and tadaa. 

I wear cardigans over my sleeveless tops in winter, for the same reason. No muss, no fuss, and also with less bulk than regular winter things. And frugal, too. Lots of ways to be frugal that don't involve having warehouse rooms full of random thrift store hauls, but that's another topic, I guess.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I think the concept of modesty is misogynistic because it places all the blame on women for wanting to wear what they want to wear, yet men do not have to take any responsibility for their thoughts and feelings. In high school, the boys were allowed to wear tanks with two- finger widths straps and the girls basically have to wear t- shirts because breasts. These same boys were allowed to show bare chest and not get in trouble. Why do women have to take all the responsibility for what a man feels when he looks at a chick?

 

 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Archived

This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.



  • Trending Content

  • Recent Status Updates

    • PennySycamore

      PennySycamore

      My niece is going to be a seat filler at this year's Academy Awards.  Seat fillers are asked to wear tuxedos regardless of sex/gender.  If you see a pretty young woman with very curly hair, it could be my niece. 
      · 0 replies
    • 47of74

      47of74

      Yeah, that's me.  Though to be fair I am trying to learn Italian and Spanish.

      · 0 replies
    • Kiki03910

      Kiki03910

      IT'S BASEBALL SEASON!!!!!
      ⚾❣️
      · 4 replies
    • mango_fandango

      mango_fandango

      It’s not supposed to be mosquito season right now but I still appear to have been bitten twice on the side of my foot. Bastards. I know I shouldn’t scratch but it’s so tempting… 😑
      · 0 replies
    • Therapy Outside the Box

      Therapy Outside the Box

      Hello,
       
      I'm brand new to this forum. It was suggested to me by former and outspoken Remnant Fellowship member (Natasha Pavlovich) that I join this forum and put out here what I do. She also warned me that no one on here trusts, or trusts easily, and that I'd likely be assumed to be a Remnant plant or spy until vetted and verified as not that. Fair enough. 
      In short, and in truth, I'm a psychotherapist with 25 yrs experience in Franklin TN (less than three miles from RF incidentally) with a special interest in working with people formerly associated with cults, cult-like or any and all high control intitutions. I'm especially interested in working with those desiring not only deconstruct, recover and learn to thrive post-indoctrination, but those desiring to recapture or cultivate an authentic sense of theology without walls, or spirituality with borders. 
      To date, I've worked with former Amish, Mennonite, LDS/FLDS, FOG, and a those representing a whole slew of evangelical, fire and brimstone fear/shame/guilt-inducing institutions.
      I am especially interested in working with former Remnant Fellowship and Scientology members. I view RF as basically Scientology without the budget. 
      I'll leave it there. Much more can be gleaned about me through my website: therapyoutsidethebox.com or IG: @ therapyoutsidethebox
       
      Peace,
       
      Chris Hancock, LCSW
      Franklin, TN

      · 3 replies
    • Kiki03910

      Kiki03910

      I have a friend with untreated autism and ADHD. I've tried so fucking hard to help. He refuses. It's a mess. I'm really really tired.
      · 0 replies
    • Kiki03910

      Kiki03910

      Making Jill Duggar's brownie recipe because why not stay up late.
      · 2 replies
    • 47of74

      47of74

      Party on aisle 15....

      Also no interest if fully paid in so many months.
      · 0 replies
    • WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?

      WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?

      Happy Supper Bowel Sunday!!  No, wait. That isn't right...
      Anyway, enjoy the game (or the half time show, or the ads)!
      And a very happy Sunday to everyone who doesn't care about the NFL! 
      · 0 replies
    • Kiki03910

      Kiki03910

      I'm a huge baseball fan. This year, MLB TV showed Liga Dominicana games in December and January and it was a fucking revelation. The players had so much fire and joy. The announcers with their charming DR accents were a blast, though I could hardly keep up with the Spanish. DItto the Serie del Caribe. As a White Sox fan, the MLB season is going to suffer by comparison. Te amo los Tigres del Licey!
      · 2 replies
  • Recent Blog Entries

×
×
  • Create New...

Important Information

By using this site, you agree to our Terms of Use.