Looking at pictures of men is the WORST.THING.EVER.

[Dev83]

Gotta love this. My soul is ruined because I like how Mr. Beckham looks in his underwear. Also, I am apparently "pulverizing my marriage". Heh.

createdtobehis31.blogspot.com/

Can I share something with you that troubles me? Okay, here goes....

Eye candy.

Yes, that's right. Eye candy. Pinterest is all the rage right now and, I will admit, I am a fan. I love learning new tips and tricks to better my home, my health, and finding fun activities to try with my kiddo. But I get disturbed when I see tweens, teens, young ladies, and - yes - married women pin pictures of male celebrities onto their boards. ---- Mind you, I'm talking about Christiangirls and women.

Remember when your Mom would say, "No more candy. It will give you a tummy ache"? We were taught from an early age that eating too much junk food was bad for us and could make us sick. It's definitely true! Too much candy = bad health. Too much junk food = low energy and an all-around BLEH-feeling! Now let's apply that spiritually.

Spiritually, ANY and all "junk food" makes us sick. It erodes our soul. It drains us of spiritual stamina. It puts our focus on earthly, carnal things instead of heavenly things. Keep in mind sin most always starts with the eyes. We see it. We want it. We take it. The Bible calls it the "lust of the eyes." (1 John 2:16)

You may be thinking, "Okay I see what you're saying, but I'm just pinning a picture of a good looking guy! No harm, no foul."

I beg to differ.

If you are single, this harms your perception of marriage and devalues men in general. Think about it. Take a second and picture your future husband pinning pictures of ultra-"gorgeous" female celebrities onto his Pinterest board. Picture him gawking and drooling over the skinny, barely clad, airbrushed models that he tags as "sexy" and "delicious." Would it bother you? Intimidate you? Hurt you? Make you feel less than perfect? Likewise. If you fill up your eyes and your mind with "eye candy" you will have little room for good, healthy, Biblical precepts. Proverbs 31:10 asks the question, "Who can find a virtuous woman?" In verse 12, it says that she (this virtuous woman) does her husband "good and not evil all the days of her life." Let me ask you. Is it virtuous to store up man candy, even while single? Is it doing your future husband good? Are you preparing yourself to be a noble and Godly wife while filing away images of "hot men" that you can (and no doubt will, as is tempting for us to do) compare him to? Think about it, girls. Be wise!

If you are married, this is a slap to your husband. In Matthew 5:27-28, Jesus talks about adultery and says some strong words. He said that if a man looks at a woman and lusts after her, he has already committed adultery in his heart. That goes for us, too! Wow...talk about serious! Proverbs 5:15 instructs husbands to "Drink waters out of thine own cistern..." What does that mean? It means stick with your own wife. And in like manner WE should stick with our own husbands, not only physically by not committing literal adultery, but in every way! Bring your husband honor by regarding him as the only lover of your heart and the only "candy" your eyes indulge in. Build your house, ladies. Don't pluck it down by foolishly allowing your eyes to drink in the shirtless, seductive-posing Hollywood celebs that you are not married to.

It all goes back to purity. Purity is more than being physically abstinent. It's so much more! And, believe you me, impurity has a knack for knocking down a single young person, and utterly pulverizing a marriage.

Simply put: Eye candy will make you spiritually sick.

[jesusfreak]

NOT according to Doug Phillips.

[nolongerIFBx]

Ummm, sorry, I was lust... I mean just looking :liar: at a picture of my celebrity crush and spend. . . I mean selfish wasting money to get to see him at an upcoming event and missed what you were saying.

[linnea27]

"drink water out of your own cistern"? That has to be the worst metaphor for monogamy ever.

[Dev83]

Also, I am confused, since I thought that only men were visual. Aren't we supposed to be emotional and hate the sex?

[debrand]

You may be thinking, "Okay I see what you're saying,

No, I don't see what she is saying. It is normal to feel attraction to people other than your spouse. I look at good looking men and women all the time. Many times my lust leads to happy time for my husband. For some odd reason, I've become enamored by watching Salma Hayek dancing on the table top in From Dawn to Dusk. I can't get enough of the youtube video showing that particular clip from the movie. My husband is not upset. He doesn't feel that I'm degrading him or Salma Hayek and he gets extra loving in the bedroom department. It is a win win situation for both of us and Salma Hayek has no idea. LOL

There is nothing wrong with having fantasies or admiring another person. What is wrong is acting on those fantasies when you've promised to be faithful. Being just an object to someone means that the person physically admiring you doesn't see you as a person with their own thoughts and ideas. You can admire another person's looks and understand that they have their own lives outside of your fantasy world.

[Jinger Jar]

Take a second and picture your future husband pinning pictures of ultra-"gorgeous" female celebrities onto his Pinterest board. Picture him gawking and drooling over the skinny, barely clad, airbrushed models that he tags as "sexy" and "delicious." Would it bother you? Intimidate you? Hurt you?

NO. Any other questions?

[debrand]

Also, I am confused, since I thought that only men were visual. Aren't we supposed to be emotional and hate the sex?

Maybe she should have a discussion with Tebow for trying to both defraud women and pretend he is Jesus. Oh wait. That rule only applies to women. So women can't be defrauded or defraud anyone but men get off scott free.

[Kitty]

NO. Any other questions?

Yeah, I'm supposed to be bothered by a single man being attracted to women who aren't me?

I swear, you'd have to be bloody psychic to have a proper Christian marriage.

[So Says I]

"drink water out of your own cistern"? That has to be the worst metaphor for monogamy ever.

At first, I thought it was a really ancient euphemism for masturbation! :lol:

[Minerva]

"drink water out of your own cistern"? That has to be the worst metaphor for monogamy ever.

Yeah... I mean, I think cisterns were once used to store drinking water, but nowadays the cistern is most commonly known as the part of your toilet that you sit with your back to. Eye candy won't make you sick, just as real candy won't when eaten in reasonable amounts. Drinking toilet water is the truly bad idea, here.

[jenny_islander]

He can "dance" with anybody he wants to because he "goes home" with me.

Now, if he were one of those guys who grew up with no sexual education whatsoever, so that he got his entire notion of what I was supposed to do in bed from porn, then I would have a problem with him looking at porn.

[Minerva]

This thread calls for some James Franco.

[Dev83]

This thread calls for some James Franco.

Mmmmm Hmmm

Pretty sure I just pulverized my marriage.

[duplessis3]

My husband just laughs. We have a photo of Aidan Turner (that was given to me for my birthday by my Aidan Turner Sister Wife) hanging in the living room, next to my father. And he put up the Being Human UK plates I made because he thinks it is funny.

[Anise]

At first, I thought it was a really ancient euphemism for masturbation! :lol:

It's a reference to Proverbs 5:15.

I'm guessing the author didn't outright quote the rest of the passage because it's a warning to men about adultery.

[PhiMuLady]

Maybe she should have a discussion with Tebow for trying to both defraud women and pretend he is Jesus. Oh wait. That rule only applies to women. So women can't be defrauded or defraud anyone but men get off scott free.

I have always had a giggly-high-school-girl crush on Tebow.

I'd love to defraud him, but I'd make him wear eyeblack while doing so.

[Bloo]

I don't really get turned on by pictures of men who aren't my husband. Oddly, I'm more likely to be turned on by still shots of women, though I consider myself more heterosexual than homosexual. Nothing compares to my husband's touch, though. Funnily enough, this combination suits him just fine.

[debrand]

I don't think that the Old Testament view of adultery was the same as ours. In the Old Testament, men could have concubines, multiple wives and war brides.

[alchemy]

Hmmm, I spend more than a few minutes a few browsing on the Arrow of Adonis tumblr, yet, despite all the impurity, my marriage is just fine and dandy.

[frumper-rump]

This thread calls for some James Franco.

ummm...can we please consider doing this in place of nail polish and cake when a thread goes off the tracks? :D

[treehugger]

ummm...can we please consider doing this in place of nail polish and cake when a thread goes off the tracks? :D

I second this.

Also, me looking at eye-candy (doesn't have to be men although I thoroughly enjoy that as well) does not hinder sexy times with the husband. He has no objections to my wandering eyes since his chances of sweet fellowship are greatly increased ;)

I think the blogger (I blame James Franco for making me forget who she is) doesn't realize that the vast majority of people are able to imagine/fantasize and then return to the real world. I do not expect my husband to look like Eric Bana and the fact that he doesn't hasn't been a marriage killer.

[Dysfundamental]

I have celebricrushes on any number of people---George Clooney, Idris Elba, and Rachel Maddow are probably the usual top three. The husband's a big Emma Stone and Rachel McAdams fan.

Pulverized! Our marriage is just mere shards!

[Dev83]

I have celebricrushes on any number of people---George Clooney, Idris Elba, and Rachel Maddow are probably the usual top three. The husband's a big Emma Stone and Rachel McAdams fan.

Pulverized! Our marriage is just mere shards!

Leave Rachel alone. She is mine. (Although my husband seems to believe that she would switch teams for him)

[Minerva]

ummm...can we please consider doing this in place of nail polish and cake when a thread goes off the tracks? :D

We shall call it "The James Franco maneuver".

Oh, and there's a lot of crotch in that photo of Tebow. I have been seriously defrauded.