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Fundie-lite blogs by wives whose husbands are in jail


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I'm saying fundie-lite because I haven't seen much serious evidence of fundieness, but it's somewhere on the scale. If not, I'm happy for someone to move it to chatter.

handbasketnotes.blogspot.co.uk/ - raided by the FBI for possession of child pornography, husband has since gone to jail, wife is absolutely sticking by him. At least two kids (though no evidence that husband produced CP using them or any other child). Blog entries are mostly about criminals'/prisoners' rights. Not much personal information - I think she's deliberately remaining anonymous (though has told friends and family). Occasional mentions of God and a pastor. Not sure how long he's in for - she seems not to have blogged about the actual court proceedings.

silverandsapphire.wordpress.com/ - this one is more obviously fundie-lite (a lot of 'I am where God wants me' rhetoric, Song of Solomon quotation on the sidebar). I think, though can't remember where I saw it (possibly the comments of the first blog), that he committed armed robbery. He's in for five years, apparently.

I'm all for sticking by Mr. Snowe when he does something stupid, but this is way out of my zone.

I feel pretty sorry for the s&s blogger. She's 24 and sounds young, out of her depth, and very lonely. The handbasket blogger, though, just doesn't seem to get that her husband has actually done something really, horribly wrong.

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There's also adustyframe.com, who blogs anonymously. Her husband is out of prison now.

There's also indianaprisonwife.blogspot.com, although he is now home as well and she stopped blogging.

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Wow, I completely forgot about Lizzie at A Dusty Frame. I will admit, I mainly followed her blog because I was curious what landed her husband in jail. And I was irritated that she complained all the time about being broke but didn't seem all that gung-ho about finding employment, because home-schooling was more important to her.

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Wow, I completely forgot about Lizzie at A Dusty Frame. I will admit, I mainly followed her blog because I was curious what landed her husband in jail. And I was irritated that she complained all the time about being broke but didn't seem all that gung-ho about finding employment, because home-schooling was more important to her.

She's pregnant now, which is kind of interesting. And, ya, I agreed about the seeming lack of motivation. She complained a LOT, too. I thought it was interesting she wouldn't say what her husband did to get put in jail. It obsessed me for a long time!

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I'm saying fundie-lite because I haven't seen much serious evidence of fundieness, but it's somewhere on the scale. If not, I'm happy for someone to move it to chatter.

handbasketnotes.blogspot.co.uk/ - raided by the FBI for possession of child pornography, husband has since gone to jail, wife is absolutely sticking by him. At least two kids (though no evidence that husband produced CP using them or any other child). Blog entries are mostly about criminals'/prisoners' rights. Not much personal information - I think she's deliberately remaining anonymous (though has told friends and family). Occasional mentions of God and a pastor. Not sure how long he's in for - she seems not to have blogged about the actual court proceedings.

silverandsapphire.wordpress.com/ - this one is more obviously fundie-lite (a lot of 'I am where God wants me' rhetoric, Song of Solomon quotation on the sidebar). I think, though can't remember where I saw it (possibly the comments of the first blog), that he committed armed robbery. He's in for five years, apparently.

I'm all for sticking by Mr. Snowe when he does something stupid, but this is way out of my zone.

I feel pretty sorry for the s&s blogger. She's 24 and sounds young, out of her depth, and very lonely. The handbasket blogger, though, just doesn't seem to get that her husband has actually done something really, horribly wrong.

The silver and sapphire blog wont last long. It only has a few posts and she's already a mess. She's a "perfectionist" that couldnt even dress herself for her "wedding?" I'll admit, prison wives totally fascinate me. I used to lurk (before FJ, of course) on prisontalk.com. The ability to be blind to the "sins" of their loves ones, especially the sex offenders, is something I simply cannot wrap my brain around.

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Is Prison Wives still on TV? It's on Netflix. There was some crazy-crazy on that show. I wish I could remember the names, but there was one where a man lived with a mannequin in the front window of his house and raised his stepkids while the wife was in prison.

Jane Bailey was another interesting one. She has a lot of prison wife blogs out there. She is still fighting the government to let her get pregnant by her husband (first degree murder)

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I'll have to check these out and see if any of them are one I ran across a couple of years ago. Can't for the life of me remember any names, but the father was in prison for sexually abusing one of the girls, I think. And mama is still standing by her man. *eyeroll*

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Wow thanks for these. I haven't looked at them yet, but I'm super interested in prison wives. Fundie prison wives and bam! two of my interests combined!!

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So this is from the handbasket blog, "Most sex offenders are first-time offenders and most do not commit another sexual offense." Am I totally misinformed? My understanding was that sex offenders were the hardest to rehabilitate, and in fact, I've read more than once that many experts say it's impossible to rehabilitate them. I'm no expert, but what I've read is so opposite of what she's saying. Have I misunderstood?

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I remember a thread about a fundie woman whose husband was in jail for possession of child porn (I think, it was definitely something to do with pedophilia) and she rabidly insisted on his innocence. I can't work out if the blog in the OP is the same one or not. I think that woman was American though.

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So this is from the handbasket blog, "Most sex offenders are first-time offenders and most do not commit another sexual offense." Am I totally misinformed? My understanding was that sex offenders were the hardest to rehabilitate, and in fact, I've read more than once that many experts say it's impossible to rehabilitate them. I'm no expert, but what I've read is so opposite of what she's saying. Have I misunderstood?

No, you're right. The author of that blog is blinded by denial. I read as much of it as I could stomach when GOMI covered it and I'm blown away that she was allowed to retain custody of her children given her rabid defense of their father.

There has been a lot of speculation that she is really a (male) pedophile and the blog is fake; as sickening as that is it beats the alternative.

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I remember a thread about a fundie woman whose husband was in jail for possession of child porn (I think, it was definitely something to do with pedophilia) and she rabidly insisted on his innocence. I can't work out if the blog in the OP is the same one or not. I think that woman was American though.

I'm reading now. I don't think it's the same one. This lady admits that her husband looked at child porn. I haven't finished reading yet, but so far as I can tell, she doesn't think it's that big of a deal. She keeps talking about how he's not dangerous b/c he never touched a child.

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No, you're right. The author of that blog is blinded by denial. I read as much of it as I could stomach when GOMI covered it and I'm blown away that she was allowed to retain custody of her children given her rabid defense of their father.

There has been a lot of speculation that she is really a (male) pedophile and the blog is fake; as sickening as that is it beats the alternative.

Wow. I just read her husband was sentenced to four years. So when he gets out, what will happen as far as his kids? He won't be able to be with them, will he?

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The silver and sapphire blog wont last long. It only has a few posts and she's already a mess. She's a "perfectionist" that couldnt even dress herself for her "wedding?" I'll admit, prison wives totally fascinate me. I used to lurk (before FJ, of course) on prisontalk.com. The ability to be blind to the "sins" of their loves ones, especially the sex offenders, is something I simply cannot wrap my brain around.

Being too lazy to go read these blogs right now, I do have to say that just because someone is in jail doesn't mean they are rotten to their core (except for sex offenders). Armed robbery doesn't make someone unlovable and circumstances matter. My dad spent 7 years in jail for armed robbery. He fucked up, I understand and he understands that. But there were a lot of circumstances. He was going through some pretty typical PTSD from Vietnam; he did 3 tours as a combat medic in the Iron Triangle. He is one of two medics from his platoon to survive the war. He became an alcoholic and then got laid off right before Christmas. He and my uncle robbed a Safeway with a sawed off shot gun which had no ammo and no firing pin.

Yeah, it was dumb and it was horrible for the people who had to live through it, but it doesn't mean he no worthy of being loved. Our Christmas presents that year were from the robbery. He spent seven years in jail, and, yes, my parents did divorce during that time. My father never committed another crime (other than peeing in a V.A. office but that was more of a civil disobedience thing), he sobered up and spent over ten years in therapy. So yeah, he fucked up, but it doesn't make someone undeserving of love.

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I think wit regards to these women who have a husband incarcerated and yet hang onto them is because they can't/won't/it's too painful to accept that what this person did was wrong.

They choose to live in this denial bubble and keep a positive mental image of this person instead of the true hard reality.

A guy that I knew and liked in high school went to prison and I still remember him as a nice, funny person instead of a criminal or evil person and I think these women are under the same spell. :(

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Wow. I just read her husband was sentenced to four years. So when he gets out, what will happen as far as his kids? He won't be able to be with them, will he?

I know in some states that the ban on being around children for sexual predators specifically excludes non-victim biological children. So yes they can still be around their children and live in the same house with them. :angry-banghead:

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She wants the sex offender registry abolished. I am just in shock.

She considers the viewing of child porn a victimless crime and doesn't think it should be illegal because cops, judges and all sorts of other people view it (when hunting and prosecuting offenders). She is a sick chick.

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I know in some states that the ban on being around children for sexual predators specifically excludes non-victim biological children. So yes they can still be around their children and live in the same house with them. :angry-banghead:

Several years ago I had a neighbor that was a RSO. When he was in his early 20's he had a child with his 16yo gf. He spent a couple years in jail after her parents pressed charges and later married (and divorced) the woman. By the time he moved near me he had remarried and had a young (3ish) daughter with the 2nd wife. Shortly after moving in he was given custody of his son (14) with the first wife. He had no restrictions on contact with the son but was forbidden to be alone with his daughter.

These situations can go any number of ways depending on the judge and PA. I hope that Hand Basket's husband is closely and strictly monitored. I have a lot of trouble believing that he stuck with just viewing CP and never acted on his desires with the children in his care.

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I used to lurk (before FJ, of course) on prisontalk.com. The ability to be blind to the "sins" of their loves ones, especially the sex offenders, is something I simply cannot wrap my brain around.

I used to lurk there too. My aunt had a thing for jailbirds, and after she died I started lurking there to try to understand what she saw in those guys, and there were a lot of posters there that were a lot like her... what was more shocking for me though were the women who started relationships with inmates that they didn't know before their inmate went to jail. Why marry a lifer who you met through pen palling? Why marry a death row inmate?

I don't think women should necessarily stop loving/supporting their men because they committed a crime... unless it was a crime against them or their children.

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On one of the prison wives show, the woman featured met her husband after he was in prison, and then he introduced her mother to one of his cellmates, and they got married too. It was...interesting.

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She considers the viewing of child porn a victimless crime and doesn't think it should be illegal because cops, judges and all sorts of other people view it (when hunting and prosecuting offenders). She is a sick chick.

A victimless crime?! What about the kids in the photos and videos?! :angry-screaming:

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A victimless crime?! What about the kids in the photos and videos?! :angry-screaming:

Her rationale is that if you look at a picture of a murder victim then it isn't like you are murdering them again so once the CP is made the damage is done and viewing it does nothing to worsen that. If you read the comments on her blog countless people have attempted to set her straight and explain revictimization but she isn't having it. That blog makes me sick in a way that no other ever has. If she is real then I seriously doubt that her husband was the only sick pervert in that home viewing those images.

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You can't compare viewing a murder victim to viewing child pornography. They are not even remotely related. What the hell is wrong with these women? :angry-banghead:

Edit: for spelling

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