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RIP Arete


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It grieves us to share that long time poster and helpmeet @Arete has passed due to complications from cancer.

Arete joined FJ in 2012 and described herself as "I'm in my early 40s, live in the Northeast US, and work as an ebil scientist. Born and raised Greek Orthodox Christian, and still am, got to have my smells and bells in congregational prayer. Politically liberal."

She was glad to provide information about her church, her experiences in gardening, and her Greek family traditions.

In respect for her family's privacy, we won't be sharing any additional details, but we know you will join us in honoring the memory of a graceful woman.

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VelociRapture

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I wanted to like as a show of support, but I honestly don't know if that would be seen as acceptable or not.

To all her friends, fellow Helpmeets, and (most especially) her family - I am so deeply sorry for your loss. She was a lovely person and I know she will be incredibly missed by the entire community. :pb_cry:

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Palimpsest

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I am so very sorry.  She will indeed be greatly missed for her kindness and insights.  Please pass on my condolences to her family too.

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violynn

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Rest peacefully, Arete.  Please pass my condolences to Arete's family, and I am sorry, FJ'ers who knew her better than I, for  the loss of your friend.  She was a lovely woman who shared much about her background I found so interesting.  

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SpoonfulOSugar

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Even now, she drives me to learn and seek greater understanding.  I have learned that a traditional Greek Orthodox response to the family is "may their memory be eternal."

I so enjoyed our discussions of gardening and her suggestions about how I could better care for my plants.  Every time I have used my soil monitor, I've thought of her - even before I learned of her passing.

When she honored the memory of Miss P in April - she raised a clementine soda.  I don't have clementine soda, but I'll light a candle, spray some incense, and make a soda tonight and raise it to honor @Arete.  

May her memory be eternal.

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HerNameIsBuffy

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The first thing I noticed about Arête was her consistent well worded smack downs of those diagnosing kids from a pic or video clip.  I think the first thing I said to her was that I appreciated her saving me the typing since I could just follow her around and say "me too" to whatever she posted.

And she had this way of describing holidays with her family with such love and enthusiam it was like she made us part of her fabulous family and traditions through her posts.

i didn't know her personally, but I do know this world is poorer for having lost her. And it's a better place for her having been here.

That her love and spirit was able to impact us so strongly, people who had never met her irl and knew her only through posts on a forum, says a lot about who she was.  

That the force of her inherent decency and joy was so clearly felt by "internet strangers" is a testament to how powerfully she postively impacted the world. 

My prayers go out to her family as they deal with this untenable loss.  My heart breaks for their pain.

Goodbye, Arête.  

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MarblesMom

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I am so sorry to hear of this.  Peace to her family - irl and her FJ family.  

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That's sad and terrible news. I'm very sorry.

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smittykins

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My sincerest condolences to her family and friends.  RIP, @Arete:my_sad:

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moodygirl86

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Oh my God! Poor Arete and her family. I haven't really been on FJ much recently due to lots going on at work and trying to move house etc, so I didn't know she was ill but that's terrible. 40s is no age at all. RIP Arete, you'll be missed.

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MayMay1123

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My sympathy to all her loved ones, both here and there...she will be missed

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December

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Rest in peace, Arete. My condolences to her friends and family, if they happen to read this. 

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princessmahina

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Wow. I have nothing new to add, but Rest in Peace, Arete.

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Mecca

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I want to express my sympathies to Arete's family, friends as well as the members here at FJ.  Arete was a valued member at FJ and she expressed herself in a way that was beneficial to our community. She will be greatly missed.

R.I.P., Arete. You were an amazing person. May the light you shined on the world burn eternal. 

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HarryPotterFan

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Oh no, that's awful. She will, and already is, be missed. May her memory be eternal.

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polecat

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I'm so sorry. Please send my condolences to her family. She will be greatly missed.

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nausicaa

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This breaks my heart. She was honestly one of my favorite posters--a great writer, really funny, defended her positions well, and shared an interesting viewpoint from the Orthodox perspective. I learned so much about Greece and the Orthodox religion from her. I had noticed she hadn't been on as much recently and I thought maybe she was busy with work. I didn't realize she was so sick. 

αναπαύσου εν ειρήνη, Arete. And condolences to those nieces and nephews you so adored, and I'm sure adore you too.

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SPHASH

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Sorry to hear this.  Thoughts and prayers to her family and friends.

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Loveday

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I'm so sorry to hear this. :(  I had noticed, too, that she wasn't around as much as usual, but had no idea why. She is going to be missed so much, both here and among her 'real life' family and friends.

May her memory be eternal. 

 

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laPapessaGiovanna

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I'm so sorry. Fine people should never die. I knew you only from your posts on this board. I liked you a lot and I will miss you @Arete, I'll miss your presence here. I can't even fathom the sorrow of your loved ones. I'd like to offer them my most heartfelt condolences.

May your memory be eternal. 

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mamallama

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I'm so sorry to hear this.  If anyone is in touch with her family please share how many here respected her and enjoyed her contributions.

 

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Coconut Flan

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Arete was one of my first friends on FJ.  We bonded over discussing Greek Orthodox theology and practice.  She was so grounded and sincere.  I know we would have been good friends in real life, too.  I'm still very shocked and saddened by this last illness and how unexpected and sudden it was. 

May her memory be eternal. 

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