22 hours ago, Gussie said:
Ironically, I fear less for the little kids, and more for the older kids who will give themselves to the nurturing of their younger siblings, only to be left resentful, and anxious and disadvantaged when later facing the world. It is pretty clear that the situation is overwhelming for the dad in the family. The boys seem to understand the situation, but that Thomas is moving out (he never ever said that while his mom was alive. He planned to stay home till he could afford to buy a house in cash. Now he will be gone in a matter of months.). The next older boys are not ready for this challenge.
I find it so interesting, surprising actually, that Thomas is saying he will move out very soon after his 18th birthday in January.
Thomas seems so close to his Dad. It looks in the videos that he is always attentive to him, watching him, and of course he's his moderator. Thomas sat at his Dad's side for the whole 2 hour random Wednesday chat.
I just find it so curious that Thomas wants out, particularly during a time the family is reeling at losing Mom. Tom clearly wants him to stay, so ...... I just find it surprising and we may know more with time.