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#9 March 30-April 5, 2013 ~ Sincerity Winner ~ feministing


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Post of the Week - #9 - Sincerity Winner

Congratulations feministing

 

feministing's post was nominated by Chibi Author

http://www.freejinger.org/forums/viewtopic.php?f=8&p=529402#p529402

 

Imma be honest here. I do NOT approve of how "fundie" visitors to this site were previously treated. I do not like how Suze and Candice Keller were treated, for example - we caused them to flounce due to our horrible attitudes - FJers insulted their decisions, rudely spewed venom at their family, and made them feel like crap for having diplomatic approaches to the situation. If I were a fundie on FJ, you better believe what I would see here would absolutely bolster what I'd been fed about the outside world being evil. While there are many examples of compassion on this website, some people are absolutely ruthless to fundie visitors (although it is a minority, it is a substantial one). Gently and rationally discussing our perspective once we make the fundie feel welcome and comfortable would be a better approach that would make them feel more amenable to coming here and maybe - when they see that the godless can be kind - they might question their ways. To get what we want we must kill them with kindness - that is what my mother always told me.

Even though they may disagree with our beliefs, they still deserve to be treated with respect - ESPECIALLY since they are of the more reasonable fundies. I am an agnostic from a very religious family, and as dangerous as I believe my family's beliefs to be, if anyone trash talked them at me, in my presence, in a rude, condescending, and self-righteous tone, I will be pissed at them and probably flounce. Why? Because like the Kellers, although I disagree with my family, i still love them. There is a way to tread lightly - to address certain issues without appearing abrasive and rude.

Moreover, growing up in a large family, I learned that if I want to get dirt on someone, I have to play it safe, appear as open and as non-judgmental as possible, so that they can feel comfortable sharing dirt with me. As annoying as Reed may be, he is useful and can be a boon to FJ. He can provide us interesting information that can satisfy our curiosity and perhaps address the myths/realities/suspicions about the Duggars from the perspective of someone who is not out to kiss the ground they walk on.

There are many threads on this forum intended for ruthless snarking. However, if we organize a Q&A with a fundie/fundie-relative on a thread, the thread should be at the very least POLITE. We don't want to bite the hand that feeds us.

Reason for editing: Brainriffles.

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