4 hours ago, JermajestyDuggar said:
I feel like I compare fundamentalism to MLMs too much but here I am about to do it again! In MLMs, if you fail to make it big, it’s all your fault. You work your ass off trying to recruit people for plexus or young living but you got in 5 years too late. The market is saturated. There’s no way for you to make decent money. But the mlm blames the seller. They never take any responsibility for it not working it’s your fault just like in fundie mom blogger/books. If you don’t have a perfect life like Braggie, you’re doing it wrong. It’s not Braggie’s fault that you can’t be as amazing as her.
This is a really good parallel. I think the constant access to those "doing it right" - first via the Duggar/Bates shows and now via socials - also lets followers who are struggling keep aspiring. Like: when I have built my own home, it will be dreamy. Or if I have 11 kids, then, I'll be doing it right. Or whatever element they are lacking.
And while we all know reality tv and social media is curated, the truly zealous hold themselves to the high standards of the ideal. It's so sad. And gross that JB & Michelle originally (and many of the older kids now) and people like Abbie tell themselves it's some sort of divine mission of service for them to lay these heavy burdens on other people.