2 hours ago, G33kywife said:
I get that Calvinists and Arminians have some pretty big differences in how they view doctrine, but none of it pertains to anything that Christians consider “primary essentials.” I have studied both viewpoints extensively, and I understand that some people are super passionate about one side or another. I just can’t see how choosing to marry someone from a different side would cause division. It seems like Jinger has an extreme people pleaser personality and was terrified of causing waves. Sad.
(Sorry to double-post, I’m on mobile.)
Maybe it’s because I grew up IFB, but the differences were always a big deal. Even after leaving fundamentalism, I am still a Christian and find it a big deal. Now I personally believe God chose everyone, and I could not fathom believing in a god who only chose certain people and damned the rest to hell (Calvinism). Furthermore, Calvinists tend to believe that god literally orchestrates every. single. thing. that happens you, and if you are suffering, it is because he is trying to “get your attention,” and that he BRINGS HIMSELF GLORY through human suffering—which I find very twisted and disgusting. I tend to lean more free will (though I don’t believe you can lose your salvation like Arminians) and consequence than divine providence.
This is, at least, my experience with Calvinism and Calvinists/Calvinist-influenced people I know. I’ve heard the above ideas (about “god-ordained” suffering and divine intervention) a lot in the Southern Baptist Convention (2nd largest denom in the US), because SBC is heavily influenced by Reformed theology (they read/quote a lot of John Piper, Tim Keller, and John MacArthur). Those beliefs may span over several denominations/groups, but they seem to be rooted in Calvinism.
Anyway, none of this really has a whole lot to do with JinJer, I’m just projecting. Church trauma has been a weird thing to work through. I’m happy to hear anyone else’s thoughts on the matter.