Jump to content
  • Sky
  • Blueberry
  • Slate
  • Blackcurrant
  • Watermelon
  • Strawberry
  • Orange
  • Banana
  • Apple
  • Emerald
  • Chocolate
  • Charcoal

Buffy's Commentary

  • entries
    272
  • comments
    1,391
  • views
    42,852

TMI - do not read if freaked out by feminine sourced misery

HerNameIsBuffy

10,627 views

You know how some women glide from one stage of life to the next effortlessly because their hormone changes are perfectly calculated and naturally administered with little disruption bringing only the good aspects of what is yet to be with none of the suffering?

Yeah, me neither.  And if you're such a woman be grateful and I'm happy for you, but if you leave comments to that effect on this post I'll leave mean memes on your status.  Fair warning.

My hormones never bothered to calibrate themselves in any way....my body doesn't shift from one gear to the next as a car with an automatic transmission...mine slams into new gears with a force that will bounce your head off the windshield and leave bloody marks - stripping the gears every time.  

So as if PMS (PMDD if I were to be honest) wasn't bad enough guess what?  Let's go 0-160 into peri-fuckmylifesideways in a week.  AND keep the mittelschmerz because why the hell would I not still ovulate while my body is trying to spontaneously combust at random intervals?  Because a couple years after a partial hysterectomy ovulating is certainly a productive thing for my body to spend time on.  My body is an idiot.

Spoiler

6dc55dced4430557122f5b7879c315d1.jpg menopause.jpg 

How do I know this delightful season of life is upon me, without a uterus to send the usual signals?   Let's count the ways...

In the last week I've:

  1. Been absolutely 100% convinced I told @Curious and @Destiny that I'd be AWOL until yesterday or today because of work shitting the bed - but I didn't.  I meant to, I intended to, and with my newly super faulty memory I forgot to actually do it - while remembering as if I had.  
  2. Several hot flashes which are no joke - holy shit.  I thought it would be warm, like feeling as if one had a fever.  Nope.  I now have a change of clothes, dry shampoo, and cleansing cloths at work in case I need to recover again.  I've never been prone to sweating, but I am apparently now prone to randomly turning into a really gross cranky fountain.
    1. Spoiler

      e51b917bab89946d1bb1fa6ebc7cbf21.jpg 04bfef0a5b8f8925853e8240e17a3140.jpg find-my-hot.jpg

       

  3. I can typically sleep through a murder - not that I've ever tested that.  No matter what was going on in my life, I could sleep.  Last 2 months or so having a lot of trouble which I now know is a precursor to peri-iminabsolutehell insomnia.  I read somewhere that women in this season of life (if it's a season it's winter in Chicago - the suck ass season) slightly rouse an average of once every 8 minutes - not enough to register being awake but enough to make sure there is little restorative REM sleep to be had.  In addition to the min 4x a night I actually wake up, swear at the clock, and lay there too tired to read but too awake to sleep...
  4. Spoiler

    3c586e002cdb716caa3a9522cfeddd4a.jpg c4e55dbb85e1e57e6b3847002fdb2f91.jpg4cd72ce2182a03d55dd678b46578c14d.jpg 85763469963b3f5447b3551e8a8968bb.jpg Funny-ecard-Insomnia.jpg a6e4fb1f37789b6622fc2b93c714faac.jpg

    1. I've confirmed sleep deprivation is a real thing and it fucks with your head on so many levels it's impossible to quantify.  Good thing I have a stressful job where I think for a living so this doesn't affect my work life at all.  Cannot roll my eyes harder.
  5. Did I already mention my memory going to shit?  Oh yeah, item 1.  See,this is why I write things down.  I forgot to eat twice this week.  Monday I had a bagel for breakfast and forgot to eat dinner...Tuesday I forgot to eat at all except for a shameful amount of mini Hershey Special Dark.  Like more than 7 less than 100.  I have access to food - I'm allowed by both my employer and my family to partake of nourishment.  I just forgot.  But I am craving chocolate to a degree that I may need some kind of intervention.
    1. Spoiler

      screen-shot-2014-09-05-at-1-54-05-am-1.jpg i-promise-to-go-to-rehab-i-promise.jpg

       

  6. Did someone mention mood swings?  If you're wondering how I can tell since I'm not exactly Pollyanna on a good day, I would tell you to STFU and then agree you had a point.  And say...whatever baseline for bitchiness I've set (and it's been high) I'm clearing it in street shoes now.  Some examples:
    1. Four facts you need to understand the depth of the crazy:  (1) I love my parents. (2) Until last weekend I never doubted that they had loved me unconditionally (3) My parents have been dead for over 22 years. (4) Neither are immortal beings so I haven't spoken to them since their deaths. Out of nowhere I became consumed with rage at both of them for a conversation that happened decades ago, and was so furious at the two of them for dying before I realized how much I hate them and denying me the chance to never speak to them again.  Beyond angry that my mother let me name my daughter after her knowing she never loved me.  This was literally out of nowhere because it wasn't something I had even thought about in a long time - just sprang to mind in fully formed fury as I was getting some orange juice.  For about 10 minutes...and then a puddle of tears and anguish on the couch for a good half hour.  Sorry.  Confused.  Broken.  Then I was hungry and surprisingly calm.  
      1. Did you know that this is a thing that happens to some women?  Anger and emotional upheaval over issues from the long distant past?  That little secret is fun as fuck all - apparently due to oxytocin getting out of whack.
      2. Did you know that when your husbands response to the above melt down is "I think you should try not to think about it if it's going to upset you." won't end well for him?  Because it didn't.  (it's okay - he redeemed himself.  Mr. Buffy moved faster than I'd have thought possible to get me Baskin-Robbins Rocky Road when I said it might make me feel better.  He's an enabler so someone else will have to call A&E for my intervention.
  7. Spoiler
    1. menopause (1).jpg 136e990addfaa32b9f3a07896a3c2756.jpg aNeZpLG_700b.jpg
    2. b66e0f85aac361cee1cc0ea241ce3065.jpg

 

  1. I burst into tears at work thinking about the death of a cat.  It was a cat from a YouTube series I really enjoy and it was sad...but it wasn't new information nor was it my cat.  Fortunately I got to the ladies room to have my ugly cry for about 2 minutes.  You'd have thought someone just called to tell me one of my family members had just died.  Then I was fine albeit befuddled at how extreme my reaction was.  And also angry at this added layer of complexity on top of an already aggravating job.
    1. Spoiler

      3abf5d3298c8bf3b98c980a7e2cf66b9.jpg 200_s.gif

       

  2. More anger at Mom, this time in the bathroom mirror as I yelled at her in my head for giving me all the bad genes on purpose and contemplating plastic surgery or colored contacts; not because I thought it would improve my looks but because I have my mother's eyes so it felt like she was looking at me and that was pissing me off.
    1. Spoiler

      b66e0f85aac361cee1cc0ea241ce3065.jpg

       

  3. A giant zit - the likes of which I'd never seen in all my 40+ years on this planet.  Because that's necessary, mother nature.  
  4. Weird lapses of brain activity.  I needed to revise some code I had written...nbd should have taken 10 minutes tops.  I stared at it for 15 trying to understand the math.  I knew I once understood it because I WROTE IT.  This was my code / my formulas embedded within.  Had a very real fear of early onset dementia, despite knowing this is one of the symptoms of both my hormones being at war with my brain and serious sleep deprivation.  Went to the bathroom to ...you guessed it...cry over it and when I got back to my desk everything made sense and I pushed out the new revision in 5 minutes.  
    1. Spoiler

      images.png

       
  5. Multiple occasions of bursting into tears upon seeing the kids, hugging them, and telling them how they deserved so much better and I'm so lucky to have them because they are so wonderful.  My youngest is still in shock at my reaction to seeing his invisalign trays laying on the bathroom sink.  The usual reaction is to sigh/eyeroll/tell him to put them in their trays.  He wasn't prepared for the sob fest of how much I'll miss seeing his trays laying around because once his teeth are finished he won't be my little baby anymore.  
    1. Same reaction to the toast crumbs he left on the counter...I'm getting a lot of "you'll miss this when I'm gone" when I'm not in a mood swing and tell him to pick up after himself.  Smartass.
      1. Spoiler

        1a5c5cf545a5e5af77fd1535ced5beac.jpg

         

Upside?  Somehow know Stevie Nicks went through this is making me feel better.  I don't know why, but we're not going to question it.

quote-rock-and-menopause-do-not-mix-it-is-not-good-it-sucks-and-every-day-i-fight-it-to-the-death-or-stevie-nicks-135563.jpg

 

I know it's probably unseemly to discuss this publicly and I also know that the number sequence above is fucked up and ...I don't care about either of those things right now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

e522c009f8888e51b2379e2c49dc5522.jpg

  • Upvote 20


36 Comments


Recommended Comments



Curious

Posted

As someone that runs hot pretty much all the time, I thought how bad can hit flashes really be.   Then one day I was apparently transported directly to the surface of the sun. 

My husband could not leave the house fast enough to buy me a fan.  In February when fans are super easy to find, naturally.

mine have gotten less hot over time or maybe I've just gotten used to them.

I am glad you are alive though.  After you left for lunch and never returned we were getting a little worried!

Share this comment


Link to comment
littlemommy

Posted

I had a hysterectomy but kept my ovaries. I weondered if it would anything when THE change came. I better start stockpliing the chocolate now. ;)

Share this comment


Link to comment

Holy crap. I've recently realised I'm of an age with you both. You have my sympathy, but @HerNameIsBuffy that was graphic

I'm not there just yet, but I'm very afraid.

Share this comment


Link to comment
HerNameIsBuffy

Posted

6 minutes ago, littlemommy said:

I had a hysterectomy but kept my ovaries. I weondered if it would anything when THE change came. I better start stockpliing the chocolate now. ;)

I kept mine, too...hence their need to still ovulate into a void.  The rest of me wants to do nothing productive but those fuckers will keep flinging eggs like a never ending game of Angry Birds...

But in all seriousness my gyn told me at the time that keeping them I'd just go into it as I would without the surgery...and I have no doubt that's the case.  I had a rough time with the onset of puberty, PMS/PMDD, and periods from hell...so why expect this to be easy?  Actually women who have severe reactions to hormonal changes like the above tend to have a worse time come "our season."  Super fair.  

The only thing I am grateful for is I got post-partum euphoria after each kid.  If the feeling of calm and blissful happiness I had for the couple of months after each kid came in pill form I'd be looking for a dealer.  Guess maybe I hoped I was going to get lucky and menopause would be a big love fest for me but apparently not the case.

Angry-Birds-Toons-Episode-22-Eggs-Day-Out.jpg

26 minutes ago, Curious said:

As someone that runs hot pretty much all the time, I thought how bad can hit flashes really be.   Then one day I was apparently transported directly to the surface of the sun. 

My husband could not leave the house fast enough to buy me a fan.  In February when fans are super easy to find, naturally.

mine have gotten less hot over time or maybe I've just gotten used to them.

I am glad you are alive though.  After you left for lunch and never returned we were getting a little worried!

It would have been great if lunch was just THAT good that I was still there.  

Just goes to show I'm also flaking when it comes to things I enjoy so...I'm an equal opportunity slack ass.  

Share this comment


Link to comment
violynn

Posted

SO there with you, @HerNameIsBuffy!  I had my partial hysterectomy 4 years ago and finally found out just what that means to someone w/out a menstrual cycle to point out pms and mood swing expectations.  The kids and cat are now on High Alert Always to my outbursts, (both yelling and/or crying) sudden striptease acts while running through the house/store/yard/church, and maudlin recitations of how much I screwed up their lives, hope simultaneously they will flee for their lives from the horrible mom-ness that is me while begging them to never leave me.  And the dreams!  The wonky, absurd, extra-vivid, extra-horrifying dreams!  You didn't mention those...did I just spoiler you?  

My greatest obsession/fear right now is that even though I bought a light, sleeveless MOB dress for 4's wedding in June, I'll suddenly be overcome by a hot flash while walking her down the aisle and will be forced to abandon her mid-way while I run back to the bathroom to hose myself down.  It's not in any way a silly fear.

Share this comment


Link to comment
HerNameIsBuffy

Posted

10 minutes ago, Kak said:

Holy crap. I've recently realised I'm of an age with you both. You have my sympathy, but @HerNameIsBuffy that was graphic

I'm not there just yet, but I'm very afraid.

I would tell you not to worry yet, but when people tell me not to worry I start thinking of inventive ways to impale them on things...so I won't.  

But it's true that everyone is so different.  I have two much older sisters and one had a very easy time of it and the other...well, let's just say she's my new mentor.  

I just keep thinking of the All in the Family episode where Archie tells Edith if she's gonna have a change of life she's got 30 seconds to hurry up and change.  It's exactly what I want to say to myself.  About minute 22 will never not be funny to me - but it's even funnier now.

 

Share this comment


Link to comment
clueliss

Posted

No partial here.  In my early 50's.  I suspect my hormones are making me crazier than normal (or, well, crankier).  I don't typically do the sudden onset hot flashes yet.  Oh no.  Let's just get super warm (and I'm already warm most of the time anyway) and stay that way for a couple of days (or a week plus) then drop without warning.  I do PMS insomnia so the sleep issues are rather 'normal' in my world.  

Share this comment


Link to comment
HerNameIsBuffy

Posted

5 minutes ago, violynn said:

SO there with you, @HerNameIsBuffy!  I had my partial hysterectomy 4 years ago and finally found out just what that means to someone w/out a menstrual cycle to point out pms and mood swing expectations.  The kids and cat are now on High Alert Always to my outbursts, (both yelling and/or crying) sudden striptease acts while running through the house/store/yard/church, and maudlin recitations of how much I screwed up their lives, hope simultaneously they will flee for their lives from the horrible mom-ness that is me while begging them to never leave me.  And the dreams!  The wonky, absurd, extra-vivid, extra-horrifying dreams!  You didn't mention those...did I just spoiler you?  

My greatest obsession/fear right now is that even though I bought a light, sleeveless MOB dress for 4's wedding in June, I'll suddenly be overcome by a hot flash while walking her down the aisle and will be forced to abandon her mid-way while I run back to the bathroom to hose myself down.  It's not in any way a silly fear.

Not a silly fear at all...I'm going shopping this weekend for more lightweight tops so I can layer at work and I'd be terrified if we had an occasion coming up where I needed an important dress.  

I've always had really intense weird dreams, which is why I've been so reluctant to try Melatonin since I didn't want to supersize them.  I am trying it this weekend though, since I need sleep.   I've always been really sensitive to anything drowsy inducing (a Tylenol PM or benedril after 7:00 PM and it's 70/30 if i can drive the next morning) so  want to experiment on the weekends.  

Part of me feels terrible that you and millions of others feel so shitty, too...but part of me is SO relieved since even with access to information I was really afraid there was something seriously wrong with me.  I can't imagine how hard this was for women in the days before easy access to factual info and when other women didn't talk about it.  I don't know how they functioned...today is a pretty good day and I did get like 5 hours sleep last night so I feel amazing compared to the last week or so...but I just want to go home hibernate until this is over.  And as it can last 10 years I'm willing to settle in for the long haul.

I had this fantasy of moving to Inuvik, near the arctic circle, just me in a little cabin.  There would be a couple of animals up there who need a home and we'd be fine ...never talk to another person.

Then I started wondering about going to the bathroom...how do septic systems work...how much toilet paper would I need to get me through the rest of my life and where would I put it in a tiny cabin...could I have a basement up there or is that impossible in the permafrost?  It all made sense until the toilet paper issue made it unworkable.

If I could just get some sleep and have as needed naked access to a walk in deep freezer I could probably be somewhat functional.  That deep freeze access is just not a common office perk.  

 

 

 

Share this comment


Link to comment
WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?

Posted

A post-menopausal relative referred to menopause as "puberty in reverse". That was scary enough. Now I'm really scared. :pb_eek::pb_eek::pb_eek:

I think I need a reassuring hug. :group-hug: 

Seriously, @HerNameIsBuffy, @violynn, and everyone else, hang in there. I'll probably be joining you sometime soonish.

Share this comment


Link to comment
Tikobaby

Posted

I had a total hysterectomy with removal of both ovaries at 38...instant menopause about 15 years too soon.  Lovely.   The fun is never-ending even now at age 57. :tw_grimace:

Share this comment


Link to comment
violynn

Posted

:group-hug: @WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?.  Like @HerNameIsBuffy, I hate that everyone else female who lives to the age of menopause *will* get to join the ranks of the exhausted, hot and miserable.  But it is really helpful to know that one is not alone in the WTF!? of symptoms.  

HNIB, I share your fantasies of wanting to move somewhere wintry.  It got so bad last weekend, I actually hoped Trump would win the Presidential election JUST so I could move to Canada and be cold all the time.  I don't even have the luxury of celebrating that the cold doesn't bother my fibromyalgia pain anymore due to hot flashes, because of *course* cold still bothers me.  I dress in multi layers for warmth, and then in a 'flash' am in the lower depths of hell and cannot be undressed fast enough.  Figures.

Share this comment


Link to comment
HerNameIsBuffy

Posted

1 minute ago, violynn said:

:group-hug: @WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?.  Like @HerNameIsBuffy, I hate that everyone else female who lives to the age of menopause *will* get to join the ranks of the exhausted, hot and miserable.  But it is really helpful to know that one is not alone in the WTF!? of symptoms.  

HNIB, I share your fantasies of wanting to move somewhere wintry.  It got so bad last weekend, I actually hoped Trump would win the Presidential election JUST so I could move to Canada and be cold all the time.  I don't even have the luxury of celebrating that the cold doesn't bother my fibromyalgia pain anymore due to hot flashes, because of *course* cold still bothers me.  I dress in multi layers for warmth, and then in a 'flash' am in the lower depths of hell and cannot be undressed fast enough.  Figures.

I don't get the temp regulation thing at all.  I was standing in the kitchen in shorts and a t-shirt wearing the bare minimum of clothes I could get away with without scarring my kids for life and demanding my husband feel my head so he could see how hot I was.

He said I felt really cold and clammy...even though I was burning up.  I was furious he said I felt cold and demanded he feel my soaking wet head (my hair looked like I just got out of the shower - it was dry a second ago) like what....him acknowledging heat would make me feel better?  He was smart enough to then agree I was clearly literally on fire.

Honestly - he's not in court or helping me describe stuff to a doctor - if I need confirmation that I'm hot just agree with me - toss in some sympathy, tell me I'm brave...and a compliment about how amazing it is that I can be so pretty while miserable would really fucking help.

None of that is true and it doesn't have to be - of all the men in the world I get the one who can't lie to me.  WTF?

Share this comment


Link to comment
violynn

Posted

No kidding!  Why is it when we need our loved ones to lie to us they won't, but when you're attempting to walk out the door in an outfit that ages you 10 years, makes you look fat to a degree you didn't even realize you were capable of AND is so ill fitting it seems you dressed in the dark while drunk and chose an item from the closet you were going to use for rags they have the temerity to tell you that you look great!?  Great, now I'm retro-pissed at the eldest for that lie that happened 8 years ago. =/

Share this comment


Link to comment
church_of_dog

Posted

2 hours ago, violynn said:

:group-hug: @WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?.  Like @HerNameIsBuffy, I hate that everyone else female who lives to the age of menopause *will* get to join the ranks of the exhausted, hot and miserable.  But it is really helpful to know that one is not alone in the WTF!? of symptoms.  

HNIB, I share your fantasies of wanting to move somewhere wintry.  It got so bad last weekend, I actually hoped Trump would win the Presidential election JUST so I could move to Canada and be cold all the time.  I don't even have the luxury of celebrating that the cold doesn't bother my fibromyalgia pain anymore due to hot flashes, because of *course* cold still bothers me.  I dress in multi layers for warmth, and then in a 'flash' am in the lower depths of hell and cannot be undressed fast enough.  Figures.

I normally run cold, and consequently, I normally dress as if it's freezing out, with leggings and turtlenecks, all the way up until it's clearly summertime hot.  Most people dress light and add layers when they get cold; I default to many layers and only remove them when I get uncomfortably hot. 

I never had especially horrible cycles -- some unpleasant cramps as a teenager but then it all went blessedly mild for the next few decades (until the fibroids and then the hysterectomy 5 years ago which left me with one ovary). So I guess that matches my current experience now on the other end of the line -- I get hot flashes but they are brief!  As in, if I take off any layers during them, I'll be putting those layers back on in about five minutes.  And when I do feel chilled, I now warm up quickly when that never used to happen before -- it would take me hours to feel warm in the past.  

For years I joked that I was planning to schedule my hot flashes for the wintertime...  Didn't quite work out that way -- they started I think about a year ago, one or two or three a day, some at random times and some seemingly at the same time every evening -- just an intense flush of heat as if I blushed so deeply that it made me sweat -- and then in a few minutes it would be gone.  When I read this thread today it reminded me that I don't think I've had any in several days -- could it be that's all I'll get?  :pray:  I've been prepared too, hearing stories of them continuing for years and years...  Guess I can only wait and see -- but you won't find me complaining, because I know my experience is so mild compared to these stories and others I've heard.

 

2 hours ago, HerNameIsBuffy said:

I had this fantasy of moving to Inuvik, near the arctic circle, just me in a little cabin.  There would be a couple of animals up there who need a home and we'd be fine ...never talk to another person.

Then I started wondering about going to the bathroom...how do septic systems work...how much toilet paper would I need to get me through the rest of my life and where would I put it in a tiny cabin...could I have a basement up there or is that impossible in the permafrost?  It all made sense until the toilet paper issue made it unworkable.

Do you need me to post pictures of Lamb's Ears again?  

Share this comment


Link to comment
AliceInFundyland

Posted

I'm supposed to get a hysterectomy (whenever I am "ready" or 40 or cysts come back). My gynecologist who I love dearly says that with the hormone replacements I won't notice. Because there are so many other things in my life that I need to worry about I have chosen not to obsessively google this and wait the 4ish years to deal with it. Is that true? (I know you guys don't know) There has never been a stage of womanhood that has gone smoothly. Ever. I just don't believe him when he says taking it all out will solve the problems. Even if he does look like Hugh Jackman.

You have my sympathies Buffy. :tw_heart:

Share this comment


Link to comment
WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?

Posted

@AliceInFundyland--FWIW, my mom did hormone replacement therapy (Premarin) back when it was common for most menopausal women. I don't think she had any menopause symptoms until she stopped the Premarin. Not really the same as your situation...

Share this comment


Link to comment
EyeQueue

Posted

@HerNameIsBuffy: I can totally sympathize on the sleep deprivation front (although I'm not quite to the "change" yet...fingers crossed!). I've had several epic bouts of insomnia over the past year, and a few years back when I was coming up on the deadline for filing my dissertation, I was awake for about 70 hours straight.

That was *Hell*. I was actually at the point where I was microsleeping and having hallucinations (weird shapes cavorting in my peripheral vision) and getting the giggles over absolutely. freaking. nothing. It really makes you feel like you're losing your mind to not get proper sleep.

Hang in there. I hope it starts to even out.

Share this comment


Link to comment
Karma

Posted

Turning 50 at the end of the year.  I'm a bit nervous about hitting this new season of life, and your stories are not giving me much comfort!!    I've had a mirena for the last five years and are waiting on results of a blood test to check my hormone levels to see whether it needs to be replaced.  I have noticed an increase in my crankiness, but maybe that's just me and not a sign of things to come...

Just reading through everyone's experiences, and I have to comment, @Tikobaby I had no idea you were the age you are!  Maybe this comes back to people thinking other posters look like their avatars, but I honestly thought you were maybe mid 20s!

Share this comment


Link to comment
Blahblah

Posted

Oh boy yep yep this is me. I am 50 in 5 months and weird shit is happening. The sleeping bit is the worst. I can't sleep at night but I nod off on the couch in the afternoon all the time.

I actually took a sick day this week because I was so exhausted. I took the kids to school, came home, climbed into bed at 9.00am and slept through to 2.30pm when I crawled out to go pick the kids up again. It was bizarre.

I haven't had day sweats yet but I've been drowning at night regularly. My mum didn't get day sweats so I'm hoping I don't either.

Our house is just a barrel of laughs with two teens going through puberty and a perimenopausal mum. 

 

 

Share this comment


Link to comment
Tikobaby

Posted

5 hours ago, Karma said:

Turning 50 at the end of the year.  I'm a bit nervous about hitting this new season of life, and your stories are not giving me much comfort!!    I've had a mirena for the last five years and are waiting on results of a blood test to check my hormone levels to see whether it needs to be replaced.  I have noticed an increase in my crankiness, but maybe that's just me and not a sign of things to come...

Just reading through everyone's experiences, and I have to comment, @Tikobaby I had no idea you were the age you are!  Maybe this comes back to people thinking other posters look like their avatars, but I honestly thought you were maybe mid 20s!

My avatar of the lovely Jeri Ryan in character as Seven of Nine must have lulled you into a false sense of my being younger than I am!   :my_shy:   

Share this comment


Link to comment
Tikobaby

Posted

8 minutes ago, Karma said:

Yep, you look damn good for someone your age, @Tikobaby

 

I can only dream of looking as good as my avatar,  @Karma!   :my_biggrin:

Share this comment


Link to comment
PreciousPantsofDoom

Posted

So, yeah, menopause, it's some seriously epic shit, isn't it? 

My own confused little ovaries randomly decided to power down when I was in my late 20's (because apparently that is a thing.  And not even an overly uncommon thing, although I had never heard of it.)  There was an advance warning memo in the form of a mammoth three week period from hell that I somehow shrugged off as the result of stress from Final exams.  Also stress from having to duck into the toilets every 2 hours to change the 3 layers of ultra strength feminine protection products so that I wouldn't  recreate that scene from Carrie all by myself.  But I digress.

The next thing I know I'm 30 with hot flashes, mood swings, insomnia and, what was that other thing?  Oh, yeah, memory lapses.  If these things happen to you at 50 it is not that hard to figure out what is going on.  At 30 I had no idea and it freaked me the hell out. 

Even after the appropriate tests were done and I knew what was happening it still took a while to wrap my head around it.  Getting on HRT made a huge difference for me (not Premarin -derived from pregnant horse urine (ew) and implicated in the WHI study that came out against it) I'm on an Estradiol patch plus a progesterone pill.  

The other thing that helped was finding other people who had undergone the same thing so that I didnt feel like such a freak of nature. There is a sisterhood for everything (Yay Internet! )

I am now approaching 50 and I have to say that I almost cried in my Dr's office when she told me that I can stay on my HRT. I had been so dreading having to go through menopause *again*. Once was bad enough, 2x?  No. Just No.

Do the HRT thing if that is am option for you, otherwise go ahead and blog away about the whole messy,ridiculous, uncomfortable business and to hell with TMI. People need to know what this shit is like for real so that they can either be prepared for their own happy fun time, or, if they are lucky, be truly thankful for having it easy. 

Also chocolate is obviously going to be a medical necessity for you at this time.  

Share this comment


Link to comment
DaffyDill

Posted (edited)

Buffy. I feel your pain.

  1. I have forgotten all the things
  2. Can't sleep, yawn all the time and then cry because OMG so tiiiiired......
  3. Have become some screaming, sweating remnant of myself, and generally have all the menopause symptoms WHILE....
  4. I HAVE MY PERIOD AND THE GODDAMN CRAMPS FROM HELL!!!!!
  5. Yes, I have ALL the things at once.
  6. I am too old for this shit.

FML. I shall show myself out...if I can remember where the door is.

41472417echii_sm.jpg

Edited by DaffyDill

Share this comment


Link to comment
WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?

Posted

Oh, goody! Now I'm getting ads for "Estroven: Menopause Relief" at the bottom of my screen. :pb_lol: :pb_lol: Gotta love the adaptive ads! :pb_rollseyes:

Share this comment


Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Posts

    • Jigsaw3

      Posted

      Ooooooh, they're going to livestream the wedding! Can't wait for another lecture from Marlin and more praise of men's gonads.

      (I still can't get over how incredibly inappropriate and immodest the sermon about Steve's vasectomy reversal was at Chelsy's wedding.)

      • Upvote 2
    • Ozlsn

      Posted

      5 minutes ago, Xan said:

      It almost sounds as if he thinks he can inflame people and get them to join him in pretending the virus isn't real.  It's exactly the type of revolution that Gary wants -- fake, right wing, and with little actual effort involved.

      Basically that's exactly what he wants - and for people to start paying him to travel around bleating at them. 

      I honestly can't get over how many people seem to think this is a hoax and will magically vanish after the US elections. It's a freaking pandemic, FFS. It's affecting all countries right now - even those who have managed to keep it at bay are affected because of the travel and trade economic effects. The utter arrogance of assuming this is sent to rig one bloody election astounds me.

      As to the "get in front of God" bit - do it at home, in front of your TV and stop endangering the community.

      • Upvote 1
    • 3 hours ago, thoughtful said:

      How much longer will we will we?  Get out of in front of the TV.

        Hide contents

      image.png.ba189f7a3019ba61901cb549caa17354.png

       

      "Ok folks was wondering how much longer will we the people will let this keep going on?" What, Gary?  The virus?  Wearing masks?  It doesn't seem as if getting rid of the virus is up to "we the people" unless people start acting like they have some sense and try to stop spreading it.

      It almost sounds as if he thinks he can inflame people and get them to join him in pretending the virus isn't real.  It's exactly the type of revolution that Gary wants -- fake, right wing, and with little actual effort involved.

      Now I've got a song from "Hamilton" stuck in my head.  "Rise up!  When are these sad fundies gonna rise up?" (Yeah.  I'm aware it doesn't exactly scan but that's the closest I can manage.)

      • Upvote 3
    • HerNameIsBuffy

      Posted

      1 minute ago, Howl said:

      Perhaps the Catholic background means they don't have the  Evangeligelical anti-science bias. 

      That's my guess.  

    • Howl

      Posted

      Perhaps the Catholic background means they don't have the  Evangeligelical anti-science bias. 

      • Upvote 2


×
×
  • Create New...

Important Information

By using this site, you agree to our Terms of Use.