So, I've had an odd moment where those things that fascinating me in a train-wreck can't keep watching kind of way meets what we'll label here as my real life.  

Almost six years ago I moved because I had lost my job and the economy was crap and I put my trust in God and decided, since I don't have children or husband tying me to one place, to take my job search nation wide.  i wound up 2.5 or so hours east of where I had been in a neighboring state.  After I moved at one point I went through a period where I seriously weeded out my former Facebook contacts from real life.  Some I regret - some I don't.  I had a lot of contacts from being very active in children's ministries as a small group leader (think Sunday School Teacher) and in women's ministries.  Then a couple of years ago when I made a person faith shift, some things and people that had been fine before began to grate on me.  

I mention this because there was a reason (or more) that I weeded C from my contact list.   I knew C from church before the move.  I will tell you before I begin this story that I had one of her children in my group for a while.  It makes it difficult to snark on.  It also puts me in an ethical odd territory because I know things about her children that others might not know.  Church is a wasteland of gossip.  Some things were shared with me because as a small group leader you need to know things about 'your kids.'  Other things get shared in women's ministries and fall under confidentiality.  I won't be discussing any of those things because morally I just can't.   (and well, HPPA folks).  

So late last week C tags a bunch of people in a Facebook post.  I'm no longer friends with C but due to various people I am still friends with and their Facebook settings I can see the tags and her post.  She's having a fundraiser.  For an adoption.  For two children.  From China.  Okay.  C has 3 bio kids (1 daughter, 2 sons) and 3 adopted children (2 daughters from Korean, a son from China).  Thanks to my awareness here at FJ my brain screams 'baby collector.'  The last previous adoption this family did took place before I moved 6 years ago.  And now they're being called to adopt.  

By the way, it did not surprise me that it was two.  And if it was one, I might mentally figure on another to follow.  But that's only because she has a naming pattern.  I told you, things you learn at church?  In women's ministries?  Yes.  2 L's.  2 J's.  2 S's.  So, my mind put a check mark next to 2.  I consider this family evangelical by my own definition.  Might put them in fundie light based on things I've heard from C back before I moved.  Their kids go to public school.  In fact C's husband is/was a school counselor.  Child 1 went to university (a small mainline christian university a bit south of the larger city/state university city we lived in/next to).  I think Child 2 went to the military.  Child 3 is over 18 and graduated from high school last year I believe.  

I did some poking around on the net that day and the next.  I saw various articles about C and adoption.  Not surprised because I knew she was involved some how with a Christian adoption agency.  And because she did some adoption seminars at the church I used to attend.   

I'm still reeling a bit on the crashing of my worlds.  So pardon me while I wander off to continue process some of this.  

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