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As an adopted daughter, I would have 0 sympathy if nobody gave these spiteful women a single card, glance, or hug on Sunday. Carrying on from here:

Has all been quiet in fundie adoption land, or have the blogs gone private? Surely someone is publicly doing something batshit crazy. Help a sister out.

Hi everyone. I've been a longtime member (mostly lurker) but I'm guessing my old account got deleted with one of the big changes so I have started a new one. I'm posting here because I am so curious why (seemingly) no one is talking about the connection with Trim Healthy Mama, Above Rubies, and Serene Allison's failed international adoptions and child abuse. I was considering ordering the book but stumbled upon all of the icky info about Serene's adoptions (http://www.motherjones.com/politics/2013/04/christian-evangelical-adoption-liberia?page=1). Am I just confused or are these the same people? How did an abusive family like this rise to being so popular as authors without their past coming to light?

Not sure whether this goes in Wild World of Snark or under the general adoption thread ... these people aren't Fundies. https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2019/09/17/police-say-she-abandoned-her-adopted-daughter-she-says-girl-was-actually-scamming-adult-sociopath/?fbclid=IwAR3HzZtOKPrbg9WdhEFUx4YiifTCq72gKb9LCD8p5MVgHwiga6HK1BttlZI#comments-wrapper Very weird case. Seems like they adopted her from a disruption .. I wonder if the original adopters were Fundies.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/mother-8-adopted-children-special-needs-arrested-after-9-year-n959301 I'm all for special needs adoption, and I'm not against people adopting multiple times, but there's a piont where a lot of scrutiny needs to be given to ensure parents have adequete resources to care for another child and aren't just child collecting or giving in to some rescuer fantasy.

I was driving through Idaho a few days ago. I stopped in Garden City for a rest brake. I saw a thrift store for the Idaho Youth Ranch. I suddenly remembered Laurel Diacogiannis and her raciest adoptions. Only one of the three children she adopted from Africa stayed with her family as a child (daughter). The boy was rehomed because he was reported by Laurel to have abused his sisters. The other child a daughter was banished to the Idaho Youth Ranch because she was not a perfect obedient grateful daughter who did not fill Laurels savior complex. Laurel has had many blogs that get swiffered once people start to criticize her. I have not been able to find her latest blog but I hope the children she abandoned are doing ok as adults. d

Erica Parsons' adoptive parents have not heard from here since December 2011, yet never reported her missing. I watched this on Dr. Phil yesterday and am awaiting the conclusion. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article ... -Phil.html One thing mentioned in the show and not in the article: the child was never reported missing partially because the Parsons home school. In NC there are ZERO homeschooling regulations, hence authorities were never alerted that she was no longer attending school.

27 residents of Ranch for Kids have been removed from the facility and placed into state care. For those that don't know, Ranch for Kids is a dumping ground for adopted kids that don't fit perfectly in with their "forever home". I hope these kids finally get placed in homes that will help them become successful adults and get the help they need. The facility uses "Christian" principles. The abuse allegations includes: Excessive physical punishment including being hit, kicked, and body slammed. Persistent psychological abuse including prolonged isolation. Harsh punishments like 15 to 20 mile disciplinary walks along rough forest trails, and food being withheld. At least one incident of a nail gun being shot at a child. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/ncna1034281

I can't find any FJ threads relating to this woman, but has anyone else fallen down this rabbit hole? ? I've been down there for hours - please send the ferrets! She's not fundie as such, but claims to be Christian, and is certainly narcissistic/crazy enough to be on our radar. Claims to be a lawyer/doctor/naturopath/yoga instructor/child genius/stay at home (single, divorced) mother to three bio and two adopted Congolese kids (although they seem to have been taken by CPS), recently remarried to a younger childless guy, raw food eating, workout addict, all around perfect person, etc etc etc. Oh, and - naturally - she's an anti-vaxxer. Worth starting a thread, folks? She's certainly got the crazy. https://www.livingwhole.org/inside-my-battle-with-child-protective-services/

Does anyone remember Sol and Christine Moghadam? Their story is recapped here: http://jenniferchosalaff.blogspot.ca/2013/01/modern-family.html Or if you google them, they come up in a variety of news sources. In a nutshell they adopted 4 siblings from Ghana, had difficulties getting them home, had disciplinary/attachment issues (or whatever, it wasn't very clear) once home, and now appear to have wiped any traces of them from their social media. These days it seems they are happily travelling around the world with their 2 bio children, no information on what happened to the other 4 kids. I want to know where these children are. These aren't isolated cases. We've talked about Avery at length here at FJ, also about Jenny and Roddy Wagner, who adopted a sibling group and similarly deleted all evidence (I'm hoping these girls are now with family, as they appeared to have had an uncle with whom they kept in touch once in the US).

Mods: I'm posting this in QFOS because of the fundie black adoption connection. If you find it belongs in a different forum, please move. So Rachel Dolezal, who identifies as black, is back in the news because she is broke, on the brink of homelessness and the only jobs she gets offered are in reality TV and porn. This should be empowering for her, as her situation is identical to that of any person of color who has been caught up in a scandal and/or convicted of a crime. She does finally have a publisher for her memoir, but I think all the good spoilers are in this Guardian article. https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2017/feb/25/rachel-dolezal-not-going-stoop-apologise-grovel?CMP=twt_gu It's a fascinating read mainly because RD is a composite of so many of the QFOS subjects from the Nauglers to the Pearls to the adopters who save black children for the lord. From her unattended home birth to the modest clothing, growing up foraging and helping maintain the homestead, having the devil beaten out of her, raising her 4 younger adopted siblings after her mother took to bed with self-diagnosed CFS. . .You get the picture. Add in a generous helping of patriarchy, and I'm actually at the point of feeling sorry for RD.

Per the blog (No Greater Joy Mom) Adeye and Anthony adopted another child (it is not specified if she has special needs, and I don't like speculating based on pictures) last summer. I would really like to know what steps they have taken to make sure all these children are going to be looked after once the parents begin to have their own health issues and/or pass away. It is not fair to expect the older siblings to take on the burdens of providing for these kids.

A 3 year old mentally disabled girl went missing this weekend in Texas. She was being punished for not drinking milk at 3am by having to stand outside, across an alley from her home, and left there alone. It is an area coyotes have been reported as being in; and the father speculated that maybe they had something to do with it, when she was gone after he went out to get her after 15 minutes. She was not reported missing until 5 full hours later!!! (and the church - probably a fundy one - has been out looking for her). I'm sick about this. Who leaves a mentally disabled 3 year old outside in the dark in an urban area where coyotes have been seen? Who sends a mentally disabled 3 year old outside in the dark at 3am? https://www.dallasnews.com/news/missing-person/2017/10/07/amber-alert-issued-3-year-old-richardson-girl-believed-grave-danger

I just checked in on the Bergeys and, to my dismay, they reached South Africa with their multiple children (both bio and adopted) in tow. Selina is the lady who famously wiped her blog of incriminating evidence when she found our critiques of her parenting and aspirations to run an orphanage in South Africa. The Bergeys have no qualifications except unaccredited Bible College "degrees" and "hearts for orphans." And she gives us an update. http://littlefishministries.org/behind-the-scenes-and-culture-shock/ She has culture shock, their volunteer visas were denied, and they seem to be over-staying their tourist visas. More Poisonwood. Previous thread contains links to her old (much edited) blogs:

Why do people do this? I don't see any biological children posted. These families should be banned from other adoptions and go through a standard investigation of the other children in the home. https://m.facebook.com/secondchanceadop ... =notify_me

Because there are so many sad and tragic adoption stories on this site, I wanted to share this happy one. It's an ad, but the product placement is so subtle you may not notice it, and the story is apparently true. I like the moment at the beginning when the daughter says her mother will be disappointed at the child's choice of profession. It's so obvious that her mother and the viewers will actually be happy and proud.

Hoarding? Poor planning? What makes these women (and men?) do what they do. Continued from here:

As a foster parent/adoptive parent this makes me so upset. After months of hard work, South Dakota lawmakers handed Governor Dennis Daugaard Senate Bill 149, a bill that allows taxpayer-funded agencies to refuse to provide any service, including adoption or foster care services, on the basis of the agency’s religious or moral convictions, according to the ACLU. Gov. Daugaard quickly signed the bill into law, making South Dakota the first state in 2017 to pass anti-LGBT legislation. The ACLU derided the new anti-LGBT bill in a press release: The American Civil Liberties Union of South Dakota has led the opposition to SB 149 through both lobbying efforts and by organizing affected communities. In a state facing a labor and talent shortage, this bill has sparked national interest and local questions as to whether South Dakota welcomes diversity and values the rights of individual citizens. This bill was opposed by local and national child welfare experts that sent letters in opposition including The Adoption Exchange, Child Welfare League of America, National Association of Social Workers, and Voice for Adoption, as well as family law experts, South Dakota pediatricians, and local and national LGBT rights organizations including the Movement Advancement Project, the Human Rights Campaign, and more. - See more at: http://www.thegailygrind.com/2017/03/11/south-dakota-becomes-first-state-2017-pass-law-legalizing-discrimination-lgbt-people/#sthash.ang50aL2.dpuf

Or, like, on any kind of adoptions at all?? I can't even. Her blog is http://timsfan39.blogspot.com/

The father was until just recently the CEO of a Christian adult care home. He and his wife were fundraising to go to Peru as missionaries with their Peruvian adopted children, who they are now accused of starving and torturing. They pulled them out of school to home school in 2014 and evidently have been keeping them isolated since then. http://www.thekansan.com/news/20160217/story-of-abuse-unfolds/1

Does anyone have any evangelical adoption blogs they read and follow? I'm fascinated by them, especially ones that deal with rehoming, but many of the bloggers I used to read regularly — Kimi at fencingmama, 5 Kids 6 Months, Raising Sunflowers, the Bergeys, etc — aren't updating much anymore. Would love to collect some suggestions of new places to look.

How do you record inter-family adoptions on your Ancestry tree? I've got 2 of these for sure, and another 2 probable, and I don't know how to properly record them. For example, my aunt B had a baby out of wedlock and the baby was adopted by B's older brother and his wife. It happened in the 1940s, everybody knows or is dead, privacy isn't an issue. Do I record the baby as Aunt B's or as my Uncle G & Aunt J's? Can the baby show up twice? Anyone else have this? Is there a proper genealogy etiquette for this? TIA.

Hi, I did a search of FJ, and nothing came up on this family. Fundies that have adopted 3 kids from China and have now decided to start an orphanage in South Africa. So they have sold up everything and are travelling/living in an RV whilst on "deputation". (Ie grifting) She also does parenting advice videos. There is quite a bit of snark potential! http://bergeybunch.blogspot.com.au/ http://perspectivesinparenting.com Enjoy edit to correct family name in thread title. dyac

I think this deserves its own thread. Stressing family preservation, It covers everything from the inadequacies of institutional care, to the recruiting children for orphanages, and the serious downside of short-term missions to cuddle kids for a couple of weeks. I can't decide which other thread to put it on and it is relevant to so many. It should be required watching for all our child collectors, evangelical and fundie intercountry adopters for Jesus, voluntourists, and their supporters. I'd like to tie Selina Bergey and Miss Raquel to their chairs and make them watch it for starters. Interesting that Bethany Christian Services finally saw the writing on the wall and now is working towards family preservation. Disclaimer: I am not against intercountry adoption for some special needs children - but family preservation is the way to go and what people should be supporting with their donations.

Brian and Dawn Gortreaux, and their 10 adopted children were featured in a segment of PBS's "The Victory Garden." They captured by eye because all the girls were farming in ankle-length skirts. Dawn also said some buzzwords like "mindful" and "purposeful." With Google tactics, I found: http://www.gofamilyfarms.com/ but there's no fundy-speak and all the children are in their teens now. My suspicion was confirmed that they are faith-based: https://www.cspotlight.com/gotreaux-family-farms/. I'm hitting a wall on FB because I don't have an account. I'm curious if this family has any associations with the fundy or evangelical teachings.