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As an adopted daughter, I would have 0 sympathy if nobody gave these spiteful women a single card, glance, or hug on Sunday. Carrying on from here:

Has all been quiet in fundie adoption land, or have the blogs gone private? Surely someone is publicly doing something batshit crazy. Help a sister out.

Hi everyone. I've been a longtime member (mostly lurker) but I'm guessing my old account got deleted with one of the big changes so I have started a new one. I'm posting here because I am so curious why (seemingly) no one is talking about the connection with Trim Healthy Mama, Above Rubies, and Serene Allison's failed international adoptions and child abuse. I was considering ordering the book but stumbled upon all of the icky info about Serene's adoptions (http://www.motherjones.com/politics/2013/04/christian-evangelical-adoption-liberia?page=1). Am I just confused or are these the same people? How did an abusive family like this rise to being so popular as authors without their past coming to light?

Not sure whether this goes in Wild World of Snark or under the general adoption thread ... these people aren't Fundies. https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2019/09/17/police-say-she-abandoned-her-adopted-daughter-she-says-girl-was-actually-scamming-adult-sociopath/?fbclid=IwAR3HzZtOKPrbg9WdhEFUx4YiifTCq72gKb9LCD8p5MVgHwiga6HK1BttlZI#comments-wrapper Very weird case. Seems like they adopted her from a disruption .. I wonder if the original adopters were Fundies.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/mother-8-adopted-children-special-needs-arrested-after-9-year-n959301 I'm all for special needs adoption, and I'm not against people adopting multiple times, but there's a piont where a lot of scrutiny needs to be given to ensure parents have adequete resources to care for another child and aren't just child collecting or giving in to some rescuer fantasy.

I was driving through Idaho a few days ago. I stopped in Garden City for a rest brake. I saw a thrift store for the Idaho Youth Ranch. I suddenly remembered Laurel Diacogiannis and her raciest adoptions. Only one of the three children she adopted from Africa stayed with her family as a child (daughter). The boy was rehomed because he was reported by Laurel to have abused his sisters. The other child a daughter was banished to the Idaho Youth Ranch because she was not a perfect obedient grateful daughter who did not fill Laurels savior complex. Laurel has had many blogs that get swiffered once people start to criticize her. I have not been able to find her latest blog but I hope the children she abandoned are doing ok as adults. d

Erica Parsons' adoptive parents have not heard from here since December 2011, yet never reported her missing. I watched this on Dr. Phil yesterday and am awaiting the conclusion. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article ... -Phil.html One thing mentioned in the show and not in the article: the child was never reported missing partially because the Parsons home school. In NC there are ZERO homeschooling regulations, hence authorities were never alerted that she was no longer attending school.

27 residents of Ranch for Kids have been removed from the facility and placed into state care. For those that don't know, Ranch for Kids is a dumping ground for adopted kids that don't fit perfectly in with their "forever home". I hope these kids finally get placed in homes that will help them become successful adults and get the help they need. The facility uses "Christian" principles. The abuse allegations includes: Excessive physical punishment including being hit, kicked, and body slammed. Persistent psychological abuse including prolonged isolation. Harsh punishments like 15 to 20 mile disciplinary walks along rough forest trails, and food being withheld. At least one incident of a nail gun being shot at a child. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/ncna1034281

I can't find any FJ threads relating to this woman, but has anyone else fallen down this rabbit hole? ? I've been down there for hours - please send the ferrets! She's not fundie as such, but claims to be Christian, and is certainly narcissistic/crazy enough to be on our radar. Claims to be a lawyer/doctor/naturopath/yoga instructor/child genius/stay at home (single, divorced) mother to three bio and two adopted Congolese kids (although they seem to have been taken by CPS), recently remarried to a younger childless guy, raw food eating, workout addict, all around perfect person, etc etc etc. Oh, and - naturally - she's an anti-vaxxer. Worth starting a thread, folks? She's certainly got the crazy. https://www.livingwhole.org/inside-my-battle-with-child-protective-services/

Does anyone remember Sol and Christine Moghadam? Their story is recapped here: http://jenniferchosalaff.blogspot.ca/2013/01/modern-family.html Or if you google them, they come up in a variety of news sources. In a nutshell they adopted 4 siblings from Ghana, had difficulties getting them home, had disciplinary/attachment issues (or whatever, it wasn't very clear) once home, and now appear to have wiped any traces of them from their social media. These days it seems they are happily travelling around the world with their 2 bio children, no information on what happened to the other 4 kids. I want to know where these children are. These aren't isolated cases. We've talked about Avery at length here at FJ, also about Jenny and Roddy Wagner, who adopted a sibling group and similarly deleted all evidence (I'm hoping these girls are now with family, as they appeared to have had an uncle with whom they kept in touch once in the US).

Mods: I'm posting this in QFOS because of the fundie black adoption connection. If you find it belongs in a different forum, please move. So Rachel Dolezal, who identifies as black, is back in the news because she is broke, on the brink of homelessness and the only jobs she gets offered are in reality TV and porn. This should be empowering for her, as her situation is identical to that of any person of color who has been caught up in a scandal and/or convicted of a crime. She does finally have a publisher for her memoir, but I think all the good spoilers are in this Guardian article. https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2017/feb/25/rachel-dolezal-not-going-stoop-apologise-grovel?CMP=twt_gu It's a fascinating read mainly because RD is a composite of so many of the QFOS subjects from the Nauglers to the Pearls to the adopters who save black children for the lord. From her unattended home birth to the modest clothing, growing up foraging and helping maintain the homestead, having the devil beaten out of her, raising her 4 younger adopted siblings after her mother took to bed with self-diagnosed CFS. . .You get the picture. Add in a generous helping of patriarchy, and I'm actually at the point of feeling sorry for RD.

So, I've had an odd moment where those things that fascinating me in a train-wreck can't keep watching kind of way meets what we'll label here as my real life. Almost six years ago I moved because I had lost my job and the economy was crap and I put my trust in God and decided, since I don't have children or husband tying me to one place, to take my job search nation wide. i wound up 2.5 or so hours east of where I had been in a neighboring state. After I moved at one point I went through a period where I seriously weeded out my former Facebook contacts from real life. Some I regret - some I don't. I had a lot of contacts from being very active in children's ministries as a small group leader (think Sunday School Teacher) and in women's ministries. Then a couple of years ago when I made a person faith shift, some things and people that had been fine before began to grate on me. I mention this because there was a reason (or more) that I weeded C from my contact list. I knew C from church before the move. I will tell you before I begin this story that I had one of her children in my group for a while. It makes it difficult to snark on. It also puts me in an ethical odd territory because I know things about her children that others might not know. Church is a wasteland of gossip. Some things were shared with me because as a small group leader you need to know things about 'your kids.' Other things get shared in women's ministries and fall under confidentiality. I won't be discussing any of those things because morally I just can't. (and well, HPPA folks). So late last week C tags a bunch of people in a Facebook post. I'm no longer friends with C but due to various people I am still friends with and their Facebook settings I can see the tags and her post. She's having a fundraiser. For an adoption. For two children. From China. Okay. C has 3 bio kids (1 daughter, 2 sons) and 3 adopted children (2 daughters from Korean, a son from China). Thanks to my awareness here at FJ my brain screams 'baby collector.' The last previous adoption this family did took place before I moved 6 years ago. And now they're being called to adopt. By the way, it did not surprise me that it was two. And if it was one, I might mentally figure on another to follow. But that's only because she has a naming pattern. I told you, things you learn at church? In women's ministries? Yes. 2 L's. 2 J's. 2 S's. So, my mind put a check mark next to 2. I consider this family evangelical by my own definition. Might put them in fundie light based on things I've heard from C back before I moved. Their kids go to public school. In fact C's husband is/was a school counselor. Child 1 went to university (a small mainline christian university a bit south of the larger city/state university city we lived in/next to). I think Child 2 went to the military. Child 3 is over 18 and graduated from high school last year I believe. I did some poking around on the net that day and the next. I saw various articles about C and adoption. Not surprised because I knew she was involved some how with a Christian adoption agency. And because she did some adoption seminars at the church I used to attend. I'm still reeling a bit on the crashing of my worlds. So pardon me while I wander off to continue process some of this. here