7 hours ago, Mom2Bubby said:
Yeah, not seeing a woman, not a young lady, but a girl. I have three guesses who she is and they are all the same. I Know everyone grieves in their own way, but I find it so distasteful and disrespectful towards his children to be “talking” With someone who is essentially a stranger only four months after his wife is gone. Maybe it wouldn’t bother me so much if they had been friends before, or if He had already been a bigger part of his children’s every day life. But it just seems to me like he doesn’t want to be raising 9 kids alone and doesn’t want to have to be there for their every day needs. Not to mention his needs. (I think I just puked a little thinking about that).
You know....you saying about someone he knew before brings up that very sad video that Andrea posted with the heading SAD DAYS, Happy Days. It was heartbreaking to see Andrea so upset. Apparently a female "friend" stopped by to talk to Tom about some "concerns" she had. This while Andrea was out shopping. She felt horribly betrayed and that the friend went behind her back to speak to her husband when she wasn't home. Many people had commented that Tom should have stopped it or not allowed it to happen at all.
I think by her sadness she wasn't as sad about the friend's betrayal but by Tom's lack of support. She then left a comment in the comment section saying she was very emotional when she posted the video and knows her friend wasn't trying to be hurtful. Was she told she was over reacting like so many women are told when they bring up their feelings? It sounds like she didn't get much back up. Her feelings were not validated and SHE had to end up saying she was being emotional.
She had every right to be sad A woman goes over your house to speak to your husband when your not home??? Yeah, I'd be mad too. I'd be more mad if hubby didn't shut it down and say when you talk to me about my household you talk to both of us. Not make her feel like she was "overly emotional" with her feelings and needed to make that clear. So, so, sad.
Just wondering if it's this "friend" who was already inserting herself into their private business???? That sadness Andrea showed wasn't just about a friend being a jerk, that was fear, hurt, betrayal, and not feeling supported.. Deeply, painful, hurt that she felt the need to talk to get it out and see what others thought becsue she needed validation that she wasn't getting at home.