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HerNameIsBuffy

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Just checking in.  Have been crazy busy for the last month or so.  Doing what? (Asks no one...)

  • working long hours on the biggest project of my career.
  • dealing with the logistics of my divorce including now having to pump my own gas, which is ridiculous.
  • keeping a low profile so until I'm capable of communicating without bleeding my barely contained messy psyche over even innocuous comments.  (You're welcome)
  • coming to grips with my full blown Cinderella complex which is an affliction I've always had, but completely forgot about until it flared up and took over my life
  • getting slapped in the face with shitty messages from the universe which are crystal clear and unambiguous and even I can only ignore for so long before I need to accept.  And respond...

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I'm sorry there is so much suckage in your life right now. Thinking happy thoughts for you and Hello Kitty cupcakes for your return. 

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HerNameIsBuffy

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Hello Kitty cupcakes make me smile no matter what.  I'm convinced I could be in the process of being murdered by a giant squid and still have a surge of happy if someone waved HK deliciousness at me.  :) 

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I'd chop the squid and make calamari for days! I'm from Jersey so pumping gas isn't my thing, either.

It's settled.  Cupcakes and maybe a knitted plushie. With glitter yarn.

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I don't mind pumping gas/putting petrol in the car.  It's pumping up the tyres that I really hate.  And I'm so relieved that they check the oil and water at the yearly service so I don't have to,

But seriously, I hope that the universe gives you a break soon, buffy.  In the meantime, cupcakes sound like a good plan.  Hugs.  :hello-kitty-clap:  (I can never find the hug emoticon despite every other poster on fj finding multiple ones, but this one kind of looks like a hello Kitty is trying to hug you)

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MarblesMom

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Glad to see you surface  - this crap will pass, eventually...!  

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clueliss

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Note that the dadgummed thing is DEAD in this.  @HerNameIsBuffy may be perfectly reasonable in her fear of Squid 

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Odori-don is a Japanese dish that literally means ‘dancing squid and rice bowl.’ Pouring soy sauce over a recently dead squid or cuttlefish makes it 'dance’ because although it is deceased, the tissues are still alive and reacting to the high sodium content.

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HerNameIsBuffy

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Were that served to me idk if I'd be more horrified by it trying to murder me for the afterlife (squid zombie) or the fact that I would have just wet myself in public.

you win the Internet!

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Destiny

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<3 you b. You are gonna get through this. 

Also, FUCK THAT SQUID SHIT NO NO NO NO NO!

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Cartmann99

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I'm sorry to hear that things are so challenging for you right now. :pb_sad:

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formergothardite

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Giant hugs to Buffy. Sometimes life just sucks. I also hate pumping gas. I can't think of why, but I just do. 

The squid is going to give me nightmares. How could anyone EAT that?!!!!!!!!!

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SilverBeach

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I've been thinking about you Buffy, figured you were busy with the divorce. Miss you in the threads.

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WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?

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I'm really glad to see you around. :romance-heartsmiley:

And I am NOT clicking that dancing squid video. Nope!

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Ugh, I did click on it. And I'm in bed, about to try to go to sleep.  Aargh, I wish I hadn't clicked...

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EyeQueue

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Kind of in the same boat. Having to now learn how to deal with my own finances b/c someone else has been doing it for me for the last 13 years. It really sucks. :tw_bawling:

I don't even know how to deal with the Internet going down or if the computer stops working or if eleventy hundred other things go wrong.

I told my fears to my daughter (who just turned 18 2 weeks ago), and she said: "Mom, it will be fine. We'll get a landline like no one has anymore and we'll get a fucking Mickey Mouse phone and we'll be fine." :pb_lol:

It will get better. Just remember that. It's hard right now, but it will get better.

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Any idea on how to quit a job with a boss who is getting onset dementia who was once a brilliant professor 

I can't stay there anymore 

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Grimalkin

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   Buffy, thinking of you and wishing you the best. The weather will warm up soon and pumping gas won't suck as much! Your clever as fuck, and highly capeable. Don't forget that there are tons of internet strangers that care for you and your well being.

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sawasdee

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:hug: Buffy! So sorry that life sucks at the moment.

On another note - I learnt to drive here in Thailand at the age of 50 - and I don't KNOW how to pump gas - all stations here are full service - FSM help me if that ever changes.......

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AliceInFundyland

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Oh Buffy. I had to surface myself to give you :hug:.

This was literally the first thing I saw after not being over here in couple weeks.

Much love.

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    • Black Aliss

      Posted

      48 minutes ago, thoughtful said:

      They sing some hymns, with Pastor Henry at the piano or on the violin. The Hawkinses sing, ending with Becky singing Preach On, then Gary comes up to preach.

      I will never read that without thinking Becky's singing the Lola Ray song "Preach On" 

      Spoiler

      Your red dress doesn't come alive
      'til you cross your legs and wave goodbye
      Better late then never
      Better never

      I heard that you got in trouble
      Holding your hand with the company devil
      Better late then never
      Better never (to tell me how much you cared)

      I got it wrong when you went away
      You were talking loud I had my hands up
      Don't come this way

      So preach on
      Keep on with your words
      Talk on
      Leave me in a blur
      Preach on
      Go on with your words
      Keep on
      Keeping me in a blur

      I don't know yet
      I'll find out
      There's nothing wrong with my head
      What I'm talking about

      So preach on
      (You can't go on and on) about nothing now
      You think got it all worked out
      You think you got it all worked out

      So preach on
      (You can't go on and on) about nothing now
      You think got it all worked out
      Ain't nobody listening now
      (What you gonna do)

      So preach on
      You can't go on and on about nothing now

      You think got it all worked out
      You think you got it all worked out

      So preach on
      You can't go on and on about nothing now
      (Keep on with your words)
      You think got it all worked out
      You think got it all worked out
      (Talk on keep me in a blur)
      Ain't nobody listening now

      What you gonna...

       

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    • feministxtian

      Posted

      2 minutes ago, Mama Mia said:

      Then years later, when things have finally died down —- he escalates to this. He may likely have been  doing this for a long time before being caught. He would have to know, fundamentalist beliefs aside, that getting caught would lead to very, very bad things for himself and his family. He obviously has a compulsion and even wreckage to his own life isn’t enough to stop it.

      I think he's a sick and twisted human being. He'd be that way as a fundie or a secular person. I also think he's deeply unhappy with his life, knowing that his parents made damn good and sure he'd have a shitty education that would keep him tied to the family in some way for the rest of his life. The only time he'd be able to stay out of trouble would be when he's either in real jail or Jesus jail. I'm sure he's done these things before, he just didn't get caught. (the CSA stuff). 

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    • Mama Mia

      Posted

      31 minutes ago, feministxtian said:

      how long do you think it'd take for him to get busted downloading CSA again? The odds of learning his lesson seem mighty slim. 

      Unless they have some sort of serious, specific, incredibly effective treatment, probably combined with medication - I don’t see him stopping He might wait awhile, he might switch up HOW he’s acting out, but he will do something that crashes everything down around him, and it will almost certainly involve something sexual. 
       

      We talk about how he got no consequences from his previous actions - but really he did. When he was a teen he was humiliated in front of everyone he knew, he probably had the sh*t beat out of him repeatedly, he had to do a ton of manual labor (probably to levels that would be illegal in most US prison systems) AND many years later his behavior was brought to light, he lost his job, his whole entire family at least temporarily lost their show. His family name was dragged through the mud and STILL he decided to cheat on his wife in a fairly public way. If he hadn’t had the previous molestation that brought everything down, that wouldn’t be that huge a deal—- but he knew what was hanging over his head and did it anyway.
      Then years later, when things have finally died down —- he escalates to this. He may likely have been  doing this for a long time before being caught. He would have to know, fundamentalist beliefs aside, that getting caught would lead to very, very bad things for himself and his family. He obviously has a compulsion and even wreckage to his own life isn’t enough to stop it.

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    • ManyGoats

      Posted

      Possibly/Probably a dumb question but those of you who watch the webcasts, did it make you nervous to open an account? I can't think of any reason why it would be risky but I have hesitated to do so. 

    • Howl

      Posted

      From Twitter today: Dr. Tarango @atarango1 (American religious historian at Trinity Univ. (TX) specializing in Native American and Latino religious traditions.)

      re: Jesus and John Wayne by Kristin DuMez and Anthea Butler's White Evangelical Racism: The Politics of Morality in America

      "Finished this today and although I’m a scholar of non-white (Native and Latinx) Protestantism and knew so many of the examples in the book, it is really something to see them all together with such a great argument. Congrats @kkdumez for this great piece of public scholarship.

      Also when read alongside @AntheaButler‘s book it’s like a banquet of white evangelical issues. Butler’s book entirely focuses on race and together with Du Mez on masculinity you really realize how much white evangelicalism is defined by cultural issues, not biblicism."

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