I look at Jinger and I look at Jill and it’s very obvious who has had therapy. Jill seems to see her parents more clearly than Jinger. Man I wish Jinger would get therapy too. But I’m guessing Jeremy wouldn’t allow that.
I read it fairly quickly, two days. I was surprised that I enjoyed it for the most part. I didn't necessarily agree with everything that was written, but I did find some common ground. Yes, she was kind to her parents and really bashed Gothard. Not as much as I thought there would be about Josh though. And yes, she spoke of this site. She said something like we were well meaning.
Overall, it might not be everyone's cup of tea, but I came out of it kind of liking her.
Yeah, I felt the same.
She clearly feels passionate about her denomination of reformed Christianity, and was keen to highlight which parts of the Gothard teaching were personally unhelpful for her.
It is not a family tell-all, nor does it examine every single way the Gothard teachings can be damaging (in multiple places I thought "say more about this!").
But I would say it is as it has been advertised - a personal account of her particular faith journey, a religious memoir.
Also, it was refreshing to read something about a topic with without feeling that I was engaged in a vitriolic discourse. It is making me rethink my social media usage, tbh. It was not a stressful book to take in and her presentation of it was engaging (I listened to the audiobook). Theology is interesting, and it me reflect on the differences between the Reformed and Catholic understanding of atonement and salvation.
She stated that she wrote the book to help people, and I could see this being the case for others that can relate to her position of feeling trapped a their particular religious system, but who do not want to let go of God. The act of re-examining ones beliefs is relatable even to non-religious people. Anyone interested in this as a process may be encouraged by reading an account of someone's journey of re-examination.
Jennifer said she had a very good wig maker for this role. Thank goodness! One of my peeves when watching movies is very bad wigs. It’s so distracting. Of course Gwen’s hair is always distracting. But from the pictures I’ve seen, Jennifer Grey’s wig looks a lot like Gwen’s insane hair.
it just reinforced that it was a love letter to her boys - all three of them, tommy and her kids.
i would hate to be tommy's third wife right now....it was so obvious.
I certainly didn’t see it as a love letter to Tommy. Nothing discussed about him in the doc is surprising.
Not sure if Pamela grasps how she plays into the patriarchy.
The one part of the doc that sticks with me is after their sex tape went public. Pam was a mom by then and her and Tommy went out to a club for the evening. Massive amounts of paparazzi were on top of them, converging all around them and you can hear one guy angrily screaming over and over, “Pam, where is your BABY?! WHERE is your BABY?! WHERE IS YOUR BABY?!” as if she was somehow guilty of being a bad mother and neglecting her child because she went out for the evening (whom her mom was watching). You know, these disgusting patriarchal dudes want women to act like the Virgin Mary after they give birth, and the fact that Pam was a hot young woman who enjoyed sex AND was also a mother was just too much for their pea sized penis brains.
I've been away since about 10 PM on Monday evening. My husband noticed that my speech was a bit slurred, called my daughter to see if she concurred and they both agreed that I needed to go to the hospital. There I was taken back within minutes to be evaluated for a stroke. My BP was sky-high. I. undressed and was helped into a hospital gown. The PureWick did not work that night so when I had to go I just went. (I do want a PureWick if I ever get urinary stress incontenence though and would need to wear diapers.).
I had a CT scan fairly early the next morning and it confirmed that I'd sufffered a mild stroke, I had an MRI that afternoon which confirmed the both the mild stroke and no other damage and yet I had another CT scan -this time with a contrast medium injected. I was allowed the Heart Healthy diet and my BP had dropped to 180/100. They don'y want to drop the BP too rapidly so it has dropped enough to turn to Lisinipril to drop it further.
After the ER. I was sent to the ICU and stayed until I was discharged this afternoon. The staff were all really nice and my husband and two daughters were with me most of the time, helping out. My oldest daughter's van was in the shop so I let her borrow the MINI since I knew she could drive a stick. When she was visiting yesterday afternoon, her husband was in the ER waiting on a CT can and today, she was there when the speech pathologist was visiting. She was able to get some good advice from her as her husband is currently unable to swallow.
Anyway I'm home. My dogs and the cat to see me home, especially my dachsie, were happy to see me home.
A couple of things I learned:
I need to teach my husband about loading the dishwasher.
Jill would never be able to handle bedpans.