Letter 1: a woman has been with her boyfriend for 5 years and lived with him for 3. She's 31, feels her clock ticking, and considers herself traditional in that she wants to get married and then have kids, but her boyfriend won't commit to either.
Abby's response to this is well thought out, and I again think she would be fun to know if she wasn't so stuck on being conservative.
Letter 2: A woman with Turner syndrome has been married for 6 years, and though two friends have offered to donate eggs and they're willing to adopt, finances are an issue.
Abby: Personally, she would turn to god. She also reminds her that she and her husband are a team, and practically, if the issue does come down to cost, they should do everything possible to figure out how to make it work. She advises going to friends and family first for assistance, and then their religious community to "get the word out".
Letter 3: A 21-year-old in her first year of grad school has had 1 relationship that lasted 1.5 years, but since then, no guys that have the qualities she's interested in have asked her out. She's noticed some quality fellows at church, but she wants to be pursued... so how can she get them to ask her out without being too forward?
Abby: Find out what you're projecting and ask yourself ways in which you can project your values / faith.
Letter 4: What are your thoughts on women keeping their maiden names or hyphenating?
Abby: She was so excited to start this new chapter, and she wanted to respect her husband by taking his name - by taking his last name, she was saying 'this is my family now'. Abby thinks a new surname is a 'special gift' women get from their husbands. It's also a gift you can give your husband, by saying I respect you, and I want to be part of this family that you are now the father of (so he's a father of a family before he has kids...?)
Letter 5: A 19-year-old woman is engaged to a 21-year-old man; they're both still living at home and going to school, but he wants to get married now, whilst she fears she doesn't have the bandwidth to plan a wedding (and she wants to be involved in it, rather than just letting her mom plan it). She asks Abby how she would discuss marriage and patience with him whilst still being loving.
Abby: Most men don't care about the wedding, they just want to get married - so the woman saying that she's too stressed to plan a wedding "isn't going to be a convincing argument". Abby says the function of marriage is so people can become a "sovereign couple" and start their own family, and it sounds like even if they got married, they would still be living with their parents. Abby doesn't agree with delaying marriage until education is complete. She says they need to be able to have their own place and start their own home before marriage. Abby advises a conversation not about the wedding or the planning, but about when they can become a "sovereign family".