Continued Cranky (or stupid stuff people say in front of me)
Adding to the ongoing cranky I that has set up residence (note, I have a depression diagnosis and actually do see my doc on Friday. The angry/cranky I have going on is on the mental agenda) is something stupid/insensitive that was discussed in front of me. Yes, I know/figure - logically at least - that they weren't aiming this at me. However to convince the inner negative voice that lives in my head and over analyzes EVERYTHING is a whole nightmare of impossible.
I walked into a conversation with 3 coworkers. Now I tend to live in my head (high introvert) and self-isolate a lot. I'm working on being more sociable at work. (especially since I am in the not head buried in my desk due to a mountain of time sensitive work portion of my year). So i interact. And get treated to a conversation about one coworkers gastric surgery and someone at another location is brought up who lost a lot of weight (loss amount is mentioned) and then a photo is shared of her before/after tummy tuck operation to remove the excess skin. Coworker who had gastric then talks about what she wants done later. And the whole 'oh as long as insurance is picking it up' bit is mentioned * (astrick because we'll come back to that point in my cranky rant).
As someone who is very overweight and knows she needs to/should lose weight this is a sensitive topic for me. And while my attitude is hey yeah good job there for the coworker who went with surgery I sort of mentally feel pressure to lose weight. And while part of me is ready, I'm also dealing with mom stress and a gimpy foot. And the cranky I've got going is probably an indicator that I'm not all the way to that point where weight loss is going to work. I've been down this path before. It was the oh she lost a ton of weight (100 pounds) and knowing that in the past I have lost that much bit that sent me into a bit of a spin yesterday. The resident critic went into overdrive. And now here I am unloading here in an effort to get this out of my head so maybe I can move on.
* Now back to that astrick. "Insurance will pay for it.' has become a bit of a peeve with me. This could be an education/generation/experience thing since the person I've heard a few times now use that is young. The fact is just about every employer in my adult life has been self insurnce. Oh yes, the Acme Inusrance Company may be on your insurance or prescripton card(s) but they technically only manage the insurance for your employer. Your employer pays most of those bills. And big surgeries like these will go toward next year's calculations and hike my insurance rate up. (not this year's because her gastric surgery was late in the year). and when she does the plastic surgery end of this again everyone else will end up paying more. And yes, this employer is indeed self-insured.
So I have a really hard time cheering someone doing this. Yes, I could probably do surgery too. But I've never wanted to. And, having seen what she has gone through with this surgery and the limits she has after? The answer is No. Just No.
Now back to battling those mental demons.
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