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I'm a Wee Bit Cranky


clueliss

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Yes, this is a work related ramble.  And I am about to spew on a likely unpopular opinion.  However, I'm cranky (which seems to be routine lately) and not sure I can work up a dang about caring about said upopular opinion.

My boss came in late today because son needed to go to orthodontist.  Okay.  Same son has a track meet.  wife is sick.  So boss is now leaving early because son.  

I'm single.  I do not have children.  Can I just randomly take afternoons off.  Even just half an hour.  Or come in say an hour late (although frankly I'd rather leave early) to make up for my coworkers with kids?  

And my living in a single parent household for seven years of my life during the mid 70's to early 80's is showing.  Because mom didn't drop what she was doing to hold my hand at every little whatever.  Yes, she carted me to the orthodontist.  But she either lost pay or had to make it up.  So the whole I have to be there because my kid is running track (I've been to track meets.  Your kid is going to do maybe five minutes of whatever and you'll be sitting there the rest of the time watching everyone else.  (The exception being a friend of mine years ago who had a son who did long jump.  She actually worked the long jump pit during home meets). 

So, yes, on this one I am ClueLESS.  I don't get it.  I probably never will.  But from time to time (or gee when you know that your boss hasn't worked a full week in something like 2 months because kids) this pondering/annoyance raises up and takes root.  

It does not help that I'm cranky.  

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Bethella

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I'm all for giving parents a flexible schedule if possible, but I would still expect the person to do the same amount of work. At my workplace you can come in an hour late if you need to take a kid to the doctor but you're expected to either stay an hour late, not take your lunch break or use vacation/sick time.

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HerNameIsBuffy

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I'm with you - if it's okay for one segment should be okay for everyone because we all have stuff that is important to us ...and from a managers perspective screwing over the people who don't happen to have minor kids hurts your team much more in morale than the time savings you can get being scrooge.

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(I've been to track meets.  Your kid is going to do maybe five minutes of whatever and you'll be sitting there the rest of the time watching everyone else. 

I love my children more than I can put into words...but there was not enough adderall in the world to keep me focused during 6 years of cross country meets.  There is nothing I wouldn't do for that kid, but those hours of watching him kick off and then walking to the midway point, waiving...walking to the end with Gatorade?  That was love because boring doesn't even cover it.  Add in walking on grass, other people...ugh.

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Maggie Mae

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My boss and coworker are the same way. Except boss's kid is only 1/2 time and doesn't really do anything. She's (the child) isn't allowed, because the boss lady doesn't think it's important for kids to do anything after school except homework, dinner, and time with the family. She is, however, in some sort of special band class that requires someone to drive her across town in the middle of the school day every other week. The coworker makes her husband do some of the kid stuff, unless it's something she wants to do. Like field trips that she's interested in, etc. 

I get to go see my "littles" at school every week, sometimes more, so I don't really complain. I use my lunch though, and I worry about being gone "too long" even though I've had coworkers (and boss lady) leave for several hours to go to hair appointments or to pick out new clothes on the clothing allowance. I guess that's "work related" right? Sometimes I also remember back before I had this job, and how much worse it is in the lower 48, with lower pay and the fact that men would be like "i'm going golfing" and somehow that qualifies as work. Flexible schedules should apply to everyone. 

Even at this company, before my promotion, it seemed like there was one person who was stuck on the idea that work needs to only happen during work hours, everyone needs a 1 hour lunch, no more, no less. No leaving early, no coming in late. It's so outdated and unrealistic. 

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