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Surviving it

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MishMashMosh

violynn

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Hello Blog.  I've missed you lately.  So much has gone on the last couple weeks, so very much I'd love to use this wonderful outlet to consider, examinate, share, gain advice and insight.  But so much has gone on that I've had no time.  Now so much has gone on I have no idea where to start!

My morning last Friday (?) was caught up thinking about an article I read in the news about a 12 yo boy who committed suicide after suffering long-term bullying at his middle/junior high school.  I thought about Youngest, who I am going to refer to as La from now on here.  Not her name, but close to a nickname we gave her as a toddler when she danced to every melody she heard, Lala...musical notes, geddit? ;)  La has dealt with some bullying this year, some of it so bad a teacher, guidance counselor and I had to confer about the situation.  

Wedding planning is in full swing around here now that we're very close to the 3 months away mark.  After almost a year of being bored waiting for it to be time to do things, it feels like now we have to do everything rightdamnnow!  As I have a disorder that often meddles with my ability to do everything I need and want to do in the time it needs to be done in, I've run smack into the wall of the ugly realities of what my disability will and won't let me do without paying a high pain price.  Sometimes I grit my teeth and say Damn the pain! and sometimes the pain damns me by sending me to bed incapable of doing anything for the next 12 to 36 hours.  I'm pretty sure after I collapse into bed tonight, the pain is going to be strongly damning, and that's just tough noogies for Vi, because I've got therapy and doctor's appointments early tomorrow.  Woo Hoo! 

Today is Daughter the 2nd's 29th birthday.  She's an amazing woman.  She's La's co-parent, and honestly has been since the kid was born, La's Dad not exactly pitching in much to help with day-to-day parenting.  Probably best that way.  She manages a large hobby store, gives up one of her days off every week to travel down and help out her paternal grandmother with any and every thing from cleaning house, running errands, taking her to the doctors.  She's funny, smart, caring, generous with her love, time, resources, kindness.  There really aren't enough people like her in the world:  they're the unsung heroines, the people who always work quietly behind the scenes getting stuff done while someone up front takes the assumed credit.  She's the young woman everyone always says is the backbone of every operation, the heart in the center of the family, the person in the family who knows everyone's secrets because she can always be trusted to keep them in confidence and never hold anyone's behavior against them.  She's my blessing, my best friend, my confidant.  We get along tremendously well because I like the heck out of her and love her more than I can say.  We've spent the day celebrating her, and when she gets back from wedding craft shopping we'll be celebrating her more.  Every one of us goes all out to make this day special, because she does so much for all of us.  

Yeah, I'm one proud Mom.  

Sorry for the random randomness, Hopefully I'll nail down some lucidity in some point.

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    • 2 hours ago, sableduck said:

      Derek saying hey guys, be available to meet your wife’s needs—that’s unheard of in a lot of fundie circles. 

      I've been a part of three separate fundie groups and all three of them have spoken like this. I'm not sure where the misconception began (and I know every fundie crowd is different) but majority of fundie Christians know that the men have to be equal in meeting the woman's needs. 

      2 hours ago, louisa05 said:

      As for repair people, my father-in-law was an appliance repair person and began encountering women who would not let him in because their "chaperone" wasn't there yet in his last few years of working. He was very offended by it. He was a professional and a married man devoted to his own wife. It would not have occurred to him to act as if he were neither. 

      Yes, exactly. My dad is an appliance repair man, and honestly - the thought would never cross his mind to take advantage of such situations. He's just so oblivious when it comes to those aspects. 

    • JermajestyDuggar

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      18 minutes ago, SuperNova said:

      Baby Nova once brought me three leaves with holes poked for eyes and mouths and told me it was a family portrait. You better believe I mounted and framed it. It hung in the hallway for more than a decade until the leaves finally disintegrated.

      Acknowledgment of our children's efforts is critical to their emotional growth and well being. It seems so small to us but criticism for a "junk sculpture" can be crushing to a little person. Children are not inconveniences to work around and squeeze into the corners of our lives. They aren't meant to be dressed up and trotted out once a week for an Insta pic. Most importantly, kids should never be a prop for fragile eggshell personalities who lack internal strength. 

      What makes it even worse is that Braggie seems to enjoy her own creative outlets (home decorating) yet she squashes and belittles little Theo’s. 

    • princessmahina

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      3 hours ago, FluffySnowball said:

      Considering she showed the receipt, I don’t think she got them for free. If she did, she certainly went to great lengths attempting to pretend she paid for them herself. 

      Another thought: If she intends to become pregnant again, it makes sense to keep buying maternity clothes. However, if this is supposed to be her last baby, buying multiple dresses at 8 or 9 months pregnant seems wasteful. 

       

      Wait, did she say this?? I must have missed it. I was under the impression that she was still intending to be quiverfull. 

    • SuperNova

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      21 hours ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

      I love my children’s creativity. I probably praise them too much for it. Anytime my children create something, I want them to tell me all about it. I imagine so much creativity is squashed in fundieland because it doesn’t adhere to one of their many narrow views.

      Baby Nova once brought me three leaves with holes poked for eyes and mouths and told me it was a family portrait. You better believe I mounted and framed it. It hung in the hallway for more than a decade until the leaves finally disintegrated.

      Acknowledgment of our children's efforts is critical to their emotional growth and well being. It seems so small to us but criticism for a "junk sculpture" can be crushing to a little person. Children are not inconveniences to work around and squeeze into the corners of our lives. They aren't meant to be dressed up and trotted out once a week for an Insta pic. Most importantly, kids should never be a prop for fragile eggshell personalities who lack internal strength. 

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      In keeping with the discussion in the JRod thread, I did find something else to like about this film -- the wood boxes in the first scene:

       

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      and the pottery in a scene near the end (not my exact style, but nice):

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      But then, there's this:

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      And this:

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      In which Doug admires the fact that Kelly's hair went from jet black with the dye the Lenape had put on it for 10 years, to gleaming blonde (and a whole other texture!) in only one bath. Oddly, her roots are still somewhat darker.

      The Lord works in mysterious ways.

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