On 4/30/2024 at 12:19 AM, GreenBeans said:
I do not mean to look down on the effort of running a family. But you can turn out completely fine and self-sufficient as a (young) adult without having done all the chores from a young age. It isn’t all that hard. Especially when you move out on your own, it’s not like you have to run a 10 people household. It’s only yourself, you figure it out and learn and grow
I totally agree with you. If your chid enjoys 'helping', fine. I was the kind of kid who always liked things neat and tidy and took on picking up stuff around the house because I wanted to, not because someone made me. And I didn't need to be taught. It's really not that hard, for me anyway. I'm still a very tidy adult and our house is ready for company at any moment. It's just how I like it and once you get into the habit of putting things away and cleaning on a schedule it doesn't take hours. My friends absolutely don't believe that though.
When we were raising our daughter we both worked full time and time together was at a premium. The only chores we expected of our daughter from around the age of 5 were: make your bed (we made it easy to do with a fitted sheet and a comforter only on the bed), put your clothes in the hamper not on the floor, and help put the dishes in the sink. She figured out how to use the washer/dryer at around 12 because she wanted to do her own laundry. She's naturally organized and tidy like me so we never had huge arguments about her room being a pig sty because it never was. She learned some cooking skills from her dad and now as an adult experiments with different recipes. For me cooking is a challenge/ for her it's not because she has natural curiosity about different foods and I don't. Her roommate is amazed at how easily she keeps their apartment in good shape because her roommate is not naturally tidy and didn't grow up with parents who were.
It's not rocket science, and I saw it as kind of a waste of time to have my three year old fold towels, etc. unless she really wanted to help. My three year old was much happier drawing, playing with clay, finger painting, looking at books, learning to swim, and riding her tricycle around the driveway. And thank god my daughter will never be managing a home with a dozen kids.
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