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Divorce - - not just a Tammy Wynette song

HerNameIsBuffy

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There won't be anything juicy to blog because he's a good person and we all know I'm delightful...not everything is forever.  He's fine, I'm fine and once the process is over I can get on with the business of living with the shame of my second failure at this marriage thing.

 

 

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clueliss

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The like is in moral support.

I wondered about you earlier this morning.  And then sigh when I see this post because it probably meant the 6th sense was picking up a disturbance in the force. 

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HerNameIsBuffy

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Thanks @clueliss .  I really am okay, there is comfort in knowing its best for both of us - there is no victor and victim jist two people who really tried and want to stop hurting each other.

 

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MarblesMom

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I thought you had been quiet and I wondered what was up.  Sorry to hear this news... never an easy process.  Hugs and positive thoughts headed your way.

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Fascinated

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I'm sorry to hear this too, @HerNameIsBuffy, although it sounds like it's the right course of action for you both.  I hope the process is as pain-free as possible. We FJers are with you when and if you ever need us. 

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Maggie Mae

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Everyone else said everything already. I'm sorry to hear that, it sounds like you are handling it well, @HerNameIsBuffy and I hope the legal process goes smoothly and quickly. 

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apandaaries

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Oh, man, Buffy!  I was wondering where you were and what you were up to.  I'm sorry to hear this, but I'd also like to offer my congratulations on moving away from an unhappy marriage.  I've got one divorce under my belt and a heartfelt belief that divorce is the best thing for people involved in a marriage that isn't working.  I hope all goes as well as possible for you and your family.  

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EmainMacha

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As with @clueliss my like is a support like. And also in understanding of the guilt meme. No matter how right the decision the glorious Catholic guilt will linger in the background:( I hope all goes as painfree as possible. Hugs!

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WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?

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I'm really sorry to hear this, but I'm glad that you're both trying to do what's best for you both. I'm not Catholic, but I get the guilt thing. Hug? :romance-grouphug: You'll be in my thoughts. 

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Grimalkin

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I am sorry to hear this Buffy. I hope this  goes painlessly as possible for you.

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Grimalkin

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I'm still convinced that this is you

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     So darling, take it easy, don't forget to smell the roses.

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HerNameIsBuffy

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I really love you guys.  We've been in 100% agreement from the start on the financial stuff and actual stuff, both have decent jobs, and since we finally made the decision a while ago the negative undercurrent of living in a state of limbo is gone....replaced by this sadness mixed with real peace for the first time in a long time.  

Regret and Hope wrestle for my headspace a lot and for the most part Hope is winning.  Except when Fear shows up for a couple of rounds and he kicks everyone's ass.

Just a question of filing the last of the financial papers this week and getting a court date.  Should be finalized in 30-40 days depending on how open the docket is.

Have to say this is a lot different than my first go round with divorce.  Very bad marriage, very angry ex-husband who couldn't accept the divorce, three small kids, no job/no job history/never lived alone/no safety net since my folks had died years earlier.  

i didn't want to make the same mistakes the second time and I didn't, I made a whole new set of mistakes which has to be some kind of record.

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Hugs and I'm sorry. It sucks. But it sounds like you are having the least awful of divorces.

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Imrlgoddess

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*squish*

no matter the context, it's never easy, but I am glad it's not a horrid, drawn out event for you.  :my_heart:

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ADoyle90815

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I'm sorry you're going through this, and at least this one won't be a long, drawn out event like the first one. In fact, the first divorce reminds me of my divorce, but I had to get a restraining order against my ex, it was that bad.

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