4 hours ago, bertnee said:
I just realized that their youngest is 3. He's probably either out of diapers or close to it. Could it finally be the first time in Jill's life that she isn't changing 37 diapers a day!?!? Congrats, Jill. You have made it to the Promised Land.
He’ll be 4 in a fortnight, so I expect you’re right. I imagine this is a time of conflicting feelings for Jill and Derrick, where they’re getting a taste of what parenting slightly older, more independent kids is like, but also now that Derrick has finished law school, if they want a third it might be time to start trying (if they haven’t already). They may be weighing up whether to have another or enjoy the next stage of the boys’ lives and for Jill especially, think about other interests to start to pursue with the time she’ll have when both boys are in school. But she seems to love babies.
I may just be projecting myself onto them here - my youngest is 4, and although we decided before she was born that she would be the last, it’s always been a bit of a “head over heart” decision for me. As she gets older I find myself pursuing more of my other goals: writing, music, a PhD, a new job. I appreciate the extra time and freedom of this stage of life, playing with the kids or reading to them or baking with them, but being able to just say “can you get dressed and brush your teeth” rather than do it all for them. At the same time, when friends have babies it’s always a bit bittersweet, I miss being pregnant and having newborn cuddles, and I LOVE being “auntie Smee” to them. So with Jill’s siblings having babies that she may not have a lot of involvement with, I can see it being a hard decision to make for them.