4 hours ago, Liza said:
Snipped from @Liza From Ken: "...There is certainly men who are not loving and caring for their wife and family as they should, but we get about a husband a week asking us what he can do with his difficult wife, and how his marriage revolves around her difficult and often mean demeanor..."
Let me think of the ways that the wife might be difficult (from my friends and my own experiences)
1. He is out with friends all the time. (for example: golf, fantasy football, hunting anything you can get a license for)
2. He volunteers for everything and is never home (for example: volunteer fire department, Masons/Lions club)
3. He doesn't do the simplest tasks at home (put laundry in the hamper*, read to the kids, help check homework, play with the kids)
4. He has to "rest" when he gets home from work, meanwhile the wife (who also works) is busy putting dinner on the table, carting kids to and fro and checking homework.
5. The "manly" chores don't get done (the leaky sink, lawn mowing, patching a hole in the wall, cleaning the garage) without a lot of reminders and finally nagging by the wife.
6. The wife has to figure out everyone's schedule, remind everyone and sign all paperwork for events and deadlines.
7. The wife pays all the bills and the husband has champagne tastes on Bud Light wages.
So, @Ken all these father duties and husband duties go months and years with neglect, it will make a "difficult" wife because she needs some help from her PARTNER. If she wanted to marry a child, she might as well have adopted one from foster care instead of marrying a man child.
I have had friends after awhile say- if I am going to do everything myself, I might as well be by myself.
*if a person has 2.5 kids plus a husband, doing laundry is a chore and if there are more kids laundry is an every day all day affair and if the wife has to pick up and sort laundry from every room and pick up all the random dropped dirty laundry around the house it gets frustrating very fast.