All three of the podcasts she mentions are Christian centered or far right type podcasts. So I’m sure they didn’t challenge her in the least. But the podcast that’s coming out soon is not a podcast with a Christian or far right focus. So I’m interested in how she will come off. 

On 5/4/2024 at 12:26 PM, fluffernutter said:

Oh I would totally not be there yet either had the allergy not occurred. I am embarrassed to admit this but I still dyed my hair a few times even after I knew I was allergic. I would deal with the insane redness and itching for days. The last time, my face swelled up and that scared me enough to stop. Otherwise I would still be getting my hair done. 

I used to dye my hair all the time a variety of colors, my favorite being red. I used to use a L'oreal one that had some European name... I want to say Franscois Sunset Flame. I stopped dying my hair when I was pregnant but as soon as I could, I went back to red. It started with slight itching, but not too bad. But with time, it was getting worse. I tried a variety of colors and brands and it was all bad. It got to the point that I would blister and my face would have slight swelling. 

I really didn't know what to do, I even tried natural and nope. I had gray and just wanted to cover it up some. I was asking the woman who cut my hair and she mentioned "care and comfort" packets for allergies to hair dye. You mix them into the dye and it helps with a reaction. She also said to try a lighter color as that can be better for the scalp. I started doing come in blonde highlights with something like 10 packets of the stuff. Eventually, I went to full on dye. I got down to two packets. Clairol Nice and Easy came out with a formula that helps with reactions so I tried it. No problems. I didn't need to use the packets but the darkest I could go was a light ash blonde. 

It does blend in with my gray that comes in. I've been told it looks nice. I have very little dark hair but just enough to keep up with the dye. 

On 5/7/2024 at 2:42 PM, Maggie Mae said:

Maybe I'm being ableist but I just don't understand the years long self-pity wallowing.

This is where I have a lot of compassion for Art. I've only recently gotten out of an almost decade-long depression in which I couldn't do much of anything productive or useful. The biggest difference is that I was lucky enough to be financially stable and emotionally supported by a partner the whole time. "Burnout" is an annoying trend word right now, but shit can be real. Those little steps of finding happiness where it's possible are life-savers.

On 5/7/2024 at 2:42 PM, Maggie Mae said:

Everyone I know is constantly doing something - moving, going on vacation, buying and selling homes, getting married, getting divorced, having kids, kids moving out, bigger house, smaller house. 

I think you're right about the moving thing. Maybe it's easier to believe a potential stasis when you grow up in such a chaotic and unhealthy environment. But life never stops, for better or for worse, no matter what your income bracket.

My nephew was born with brown hair but it also had blonde highlights. It was a mix of two colors at birth. Which was just so weird on a newborn. But it was pretty. 

I had a friend who had two babies; both of them were born with a head full of dark hair.  But instead of the dark hair falling out and blonde growing in, the hair just kept growing but the new hair was blonde.  It was so weird to look at.