True, we don't know what goes on behind the scenes, and perhaps I'm projecting a little.
I had two friends that were best friends and had been since elementary school. So they had years of deep, solid friendship. They were both in each other's weddings, etc. Friend A got pregnant and Friend B threw her a massive baby shower. Everyone was so excited. Friend A gave birth at 39 weeks to a stillborn daughter. Entire friend group was devastated for her and did everything we could to support her. Two years after the loss, Friend A went on to have another child, this one a boy. Friend B threw another baby shower (this time after he had already arrived) and everyone was so happy. Two years later, Friend B gets pregnant. Friend A starts to get a little cagey. Doesn't know if she'll come to the shower, let alone throw it. Friend B finds out she's having a daughter and tells Friend A before the shower so she isn't surprised by it. Friend A is furious that Friend B is having a daughter and cuts her out cold turkey. Never speaks to her again. Removes herself completely from the friend group and tells everyone that we weren't supportive of her loss and it was incredibly insensitive for Friend B to have a baby shower for her daughter when Friend A never got to raise her daughter.
Soooo.... I understand situations like this can be tricky. I understood Friend A was hurt but I also thought Friend A was a bad friend for not being happy for Friend B for something she can't control (ie the sex of her unborn baby). This is what I mean by it's a fine line between protecting yourself but also sometimes having to put your own issues aside to support a love one.
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