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Why do you think that's a good idea?


Grimalkin

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            I am the team manager for my ten year old daughter's soccer team. One of my jobs is to keep parents under control. It sucks that this is even needed. Why do some people think it's okay to argu with a referee? Do you really think it is going to work in your favor? Even if he did make a bad call and they know they did, they won't go back on it. Why? Because if they changed a call because a parent yelled at them, the parents will keep yelling at them. 

      Do you know how obnoxious you sound when you shout "thank you" when a ref calls foul on the opposing team? Do you understand soccer is a contact sport and some pushing is allowed? Do you realize that most of the time when kids raise thier elbows it is not to harm the other player but as a natural defensive response to someone running at them? Do you realize what a hipocritical a-hole you sound like when you laugh when your kid pushes another kid? 

      Here is the thing. If you complain constantly, when something does go wrong, nobody takes you seriously.

      Guess what, there are bad refs. The problem is, good refs quit because they are sick of your shit. Without refs, we couldn't play at all. So stop making asses out of yourselves.

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HerNameIsBuffy

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I was a good mom in many ways, but you've gone where I've never dared...managing.  I spent their sports/cheer careers being a good team mom.  Snacks, loading an SUV full of water on ice, modeling appropriate behavior, and pretending I wasn't bored to death.  

I wouldn't have been able to manage if my life depended on it.  And reffing?  They deserve baskets of muffins, backrubs, and standing ovations for not punching the obnoxious parents in their collective necks.

My dad did little league for years and was famous for tossing out parents who interfered from the sidelines...and benching their kids for parental behavior.  Not saying his methods were nice, or right, but they sent a message.  Which was apparently if you're not coaching on the field STFU outside of encouraging chatter.  It was the 70's...things were looser back then.  (source original Bad News Bears and my brother's little league career (which had no smoking/beer drinking minors and not sponsors by a bail bondsman. :) )

You're a saint though - seriously.  Team sports are supposed to teach kids how to work together, sportsmanship...all that stuff that translates into not being a douche in life and parents like you describe negate all of that.

Btw - YAY you're blogging!!  And your first entry!  This is your life now...

 

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Grimalkin

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Thank you Buffy. I didn't actually choose to manage the team, I was chosen because they needed someone to handle the difficult parents. It was already known they were problematic and decided that a kid shouldn't be punished because their parents are a-holes. Since it is a travel league they can turn players away. Keep the jerks together so they don't  spread the negativity to others.

      Your dad sounds like he was a good coach/ref. It has to be embarrassing to have your parent screaming like a loon. Benching the kid for a game sends a message, like shooting a cannon in the air. Our ref this weekend told our parents he was reffing and didn't want their help. I like when they do that.

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I agree wholeheartedly with Buffy's assertion that you are a saint, Grimalkin!  I hated sitting anywhere near *those* parents while cheering on my kids, yet there was nowhere to move, because they were almost everywhere.  Society has gone to such crappy places, and the extremes help nothing.  When they're tiny, every child wins; a few years later dog-eat-dog is encouraged and the parents become insane.  

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