Xtian mommy bloggers IRL- ugly story. (long essay)

[longskirtlotsakids]

So, I posted earlier in the week about that FB post from that mommy blogger I was acquainted with in real life? THe one where she advocated using warfare tactics against women who may choose to abort, then went on to say that she feels babies should be allowed to be sold on the black market? Well, why open myself to the stress, ya? Off my friends list, off my blogroll.

Then yesterday, a potential child neglect case literally hits me out of the blue in my little town. It sucks. Sucks so bad. I googled the mother when I got home- yep, shes a WAHM mom Xtian mommy blogger. The police were called. They in turn had CPS on the hotline. The whole explanation is in my letter below.... which, by the way, I left as a comment on her blog. It did not clear moderation, of course.

Today....I walked past a building and heard screaming. I've never been in that building before. It's not a building that I like- it's kind of a blight on Main Street. Not well painted. Old gapping doors. Tilted, uneven sidewalks. You get the idea. Anyway, so I hear screaming, a childs, and what sticks out is "I miss my Daddy! I want my Mommy! I want Mommmy! MOOOOMMMMMMMMY!"

It took me about 2 seconds to clear the steps and reach a door with the number 5. I knocked and the screaming did not abate. I tried the door and opened it. I know- walking into someone else's home? But at this point, the scenarios are rather hellacious. Is Mom dead inside? Has she been left by a poor childcare provider? Is the child lost, or God forbid, abducted? All these scenes running through my mind made it so easy to reach out and turn that knob. It's a cheap door, hollow. The hallway is unlit but it is still easy to see the streaks of dirt on the floor, a baby's tiny, grimy sock.

Inside is a barefoot little girl, around first grade, tears streaming down her face. She is standing in garbage. Soda bottles everywhere. The ceiling has holes, stuff falling down, a washer buried under god i don;t know what. Is this a hallway? I can't see the floor. I step in and see a bedroom littered a foot deep with clothes, and a huge TV. Paper, boxes, gatorade bottles, clothes, grit. Something snaps underneath my foot. I am stunned. It looks so, so horrible. She is alone. Barefoot. Beyond agitated and it takes me about 3 minutes to console her. I wipe her face. She is so upset she is hiccuping as I crouch down, talk to her, promise I will not leave her alone until she is safe and feels better. She asks me, am I the Police? No baby, I’m just me. I ask her her Mom and Dad's name- and the smell hits me. Urine- but not cat pee. Human urine. Rot. I have smelled it before, and at once I am filled with rage. I can't imagine how much effort it takes to put bottles in a bag and haul it down the stairs. She walks back into the apartment, turns and stops again in front of the bathroom. I am horrified- it doesn't even look like you can use the bath or toilet. I gently ask her if there is a place we can go, she says yes, a friend's.

I call the police. What would you do? Finding a child, screaming alone, terrified, in a home no child should be in? THe police come. I ask them if I was overreacting. They look at me and say "No. That home is gross. I'd never let my kid in there."

The police have the child. She is sitting on the stairs. As I turn to leave this little angel, she tells them about days of no supper. Of Mommy sleeping a lot. A woman with a phone comes out and says, "Her mom wants her downstairs now."

I get so angry. I know depression. Believe me, I know depression. I feel empathy for you, because I know, there are those days you just pray CPS does not walk in, or the wrong person sees you fail at holding yourself together in the shitstorm that is Depression Parenting.

But I literally walked in off the street. I love children and I work for them and with them. I am honored to spend hours trying to make their paths safer. What if I had not had honorable intentions in mind? What had been that ONE sick, deviant person that did not have your baby's best interests at heart? I feel for your depression, but I feel anger. I think, How Can You Not Love Her Enough To Throw Away Garbage? I saw a dumpster in the back of the building. It's not far.

i'm so sad. I know I will stay up tonight, sobbing, crying, worried sick about that little girl. And her brother. How can you not do something? They deserve a home with some safety.

I know you are angry- a complete stranger barging in off the street. But you know what? I would do it again. In a heartbeat. I'd do it again. With my luck, I probably will have to.

And a Christian Mommy blog. You know what? This is the icing on the cake. Your blog is actually the third case in three days where I have seen God and Christianity justified in being lazy and deceitful. I read the blog and it's all I, me, my journey, my God, I pray, my job, me, what I want. IT"S NOT ABOUT YOU! I am stunned, absolutely SICK that you have the cajones to write about Christian Parenting. Don't write about parenting, PARENT! Don't write about cleaning, CLEAN!

I know I am being judgemental. I am being harsh. I am being mean, angry, biting. But for fucks living sake, do you know what it looked like to me? It looked like a meth house! I saw nothing that made that home child appropriate! And a six year old girl should not be left wandering on her own. I can't imagine letting a kid out of my sight on Main Street, how can you just turn her loose? There are sex offenders in this town!

If that doesn't scare you- how about this- I am ATHEIST. A cold, unloving, God- denying ATHIEST cared more about your child than you did tonight. I wonder how that can be justified through Christian ideals. I don't help others for a God or an eternal reward. I do it because it is the right thing to do, and because I want to make THIS world, the only existing world, a better place, right NOW. When I see God used to justify neglect, abuse, or laziness, it makes me angry. The same people I see claiming God worries about each fetus are the same people that use the umbrella policy of forgiveness to not VALUE AND TREASURE the little blessings your "God" gave you.

I write this knowing that we will run into each other. You will find out who I am, it's obvious you are intelligent and know your way around the net.

It's nights like tonight that affirm to me that there is no just, benevolent God. We are all just on our own. All alone on our own journey. No predestined fate, no loving Master playing out our lives like a global puppet show. No protection. We are each our own master. I know, God is on your side and forgiving and understands just WHY you simply cannot keep track of your daughter and haul a bag of Gatorade bottles to the dumpster. I am the evil one, not believing in God, and hoping like hell that your baby found a place to sleep in tonight that is not soaked in urine.

She wrote me a reply, of course. It's today's entry.

bubbamack dot com

[sassycupcake]

We don’t all have to be the happy homemaker all the time. Some of us are just lucky to get through the day and do what needs to be done. That doesn’t mean I don’t feel blessed to have the stresses and messes in my life. It means I’m not perfect at it.

WHAT THE EVERLOVING FUCK?

There is a huge difference between "I'm not the perfect homemaker" and "Someone mistook my child for abandoned at a meth house."

This woman is insane.

[redcurls]

What? WHAT? I just... how even....

Evil bitch. Evil, hateful, neglectful, bitch. It doesn't feel like this can get any worse until you read her blog. This...thing... knows she is doing wrong, pretends otherwise, and doesn't care. She's not a mom or a mother, she is an abusive and terrible THING. I hope she reads here.

[Witsec7]

So this bitch had a visit from CPS yest, her kid was removed from her home for health and safety reasons and she's blogging like she doesn't have a care in the world. Folks like this make me wish I believed in hell.

[ilovetchotchkes]

My jaw is on the ground.

I too struggle with "depression parenting". And if something like this happened with me? i'd consider it the biggest wake up call ever TO GET EXTENSIVE help. (not that it would. Thankfully, I throw out trash. The worst you'd find in my house is a licked clean yogurt cup one of the dogs snuck into their kennels after stealing it out of the recycling. i'd never EVER LEAVE A SIX YEAR OLD ALONE)

[longskirtlotsakids]

I don't know if the children were removed... when she waddled home she had a little boy on her hip. I can't say if her children were removed, but the police said they placed a call to CPS.. I am betting that due to the lack of foster homes in our area that they probably told her to clean up and are going to monitor the situation.

(Edit)- corrected statement to say CPS was called, instead of coming over.

[guidedbybobafett]

The idea of her referring to you as a "hater" is pretty horrifying to me. Is she not an adult?

[AnnieC 305]

Am I missing 3/4 of her post? I got a one paragraph on her letter to "Anne and friends", just to the part where she says that her son was spending time with his dad. Then an ad kicks in.

If I'm just not seeing it will someone please PM the rest to me? And longskirtlotsakids can I share your letter on my blog?

[Witsec7]

Click the comment button and all of it will show.

[AnnieC 305]

Ya know, this makes me wonder how many "Fundie" mommy bloggers are telling the truth out there. I've noticed a lot of them take their pretty home pictures of the same space, over and over again. I wonder if that's the only part that's really so pretty, or even clean.

And I have to say, I've done the depression/squalor thing (And would like to once again apologize to my former landlords for the trouble) I know it's hard to move when you're that sick, but I didn't have kids at the time. I have enough brains to know that I shouldn't have kids until I was healthy. In my opinion she needs to ask Grandma or an Aunt or Dad to help with the kids while her meds kick in.

experiencedd, nope, still not seeing it. I've got the entry on it's own page, not the main blog, but I'm still not seeing the whole thing.

[CanadianHippie]

Am I missing 3/4 of her post? I got a one paragraph on her letter to "Anne and friends", just to the part where she says that her son was spending time with his dad. Then an ad kicks in.

If I'm just not seeing it will someone please PM the rest to me? And longskirtlotsakids can I share your letter on my blog?

Me too, and the comment button just takes me to the same very short post.

[longskirtlotsakids]

Yes, she updated. and I replied. If you click on the "june 2012" button you will see all of the posts for June, and her reply to me "I've found my niche in blogging!" below.

I posted a reply in comments, of course. Think she'll let it through? I signed it "Anne Nonymous", hence the moniker.

"Like someone else said, There is a HUGE difference between "I am not the best homemaker" and "Someone mistook my child for being abandoned at a meth house."

I don't hate you. I just pity your children. I don't care if you crap in your own bed and lie in it. But to make your kids live in a house that is a garbage can, that is child neglect. This could be a huge wake up call to get help. If CPS had anything to do with the children being somewhere else, then you are treating your children in a CRIMINAL behavior. CPS does not remove children for bad parenting, it removes children for criminal-level neglect that is hazardous to their health.

I didn't judge your whole life story in a few minutes. I made a judgement call for your children's safety in the matter of a few seconds. And based on the cop's and CPS's decision, it was SO the right call.

I don;t hate you. I love your precious children. "

[longskirtlotsakids]

Click on the title of each post to see it in it's entirety.

She doesn't even run a successful blog, yet she does blog design for a living.

[Witsec7]

Well the bitch is monetized so I'm not gonna give her any click$ unless she can prove she's spending it on a housekeeper and cleaning lady.

[AnnieC 305]

I did. The post we're talking about is "Letting my hater be my motivator", right?

[Petronella7]

I clicked on the post title "Let my hater be my motivator!!!11!!" and the whole post came up. Don't worry, it's not even worth reading, it's a bunch of shit. Just some babbling about her son was playing at a friend's house, her daughter is now over there as well, something about her exhusband, blah blah blah. The usual word vomit that abusive/neglectful/drug-addled parents and compulsive liars always employ to try to show how no one understands and no one has the full picture and and and. :roll:

Whatever bitch, what is seen cannot be unseen, and you can delete comments if you want but you can't stop other websites from spreading the truth.

Hey OP, here's just a wild guess: the blogger does NOT look exactly like the little blonde pixie pictured on her home page! :lol:

[AnnieC 305]

I clicked on the post title "Let my hater be my motivator!!!11!!" and the whole post came up.

And it's just not coming up for me. Someone send me a copy, please, I really want to read this one.

[NurseNell]

I don't know if the children were removed... when she waddled home she had a little boy on her hip. I can't say if her children were removed, but CPS was over. I am betting that due to the lack of foster homes in our area that they probably told her to clean up and are going to monitor the situation.

OMG, I hope the children were removed. They should not be returned until the apartment is cleaned and passes a health inspection. And she should have to take a parenting class.

[Arete]

longskirtslotsofkids,

Bravo for what you did for that little girl. Makes me sick to know children live like that, and the bitch that is responsible is a christian mommy blogger claiming you're persecuting her.

[MonkeyMomma]

I'm having the same problem as Annie C, if someone can send it my way, too.

[VintageJen1984]

And it's just not coming up for me. Someone send me a copy, please, I really want to read this one.

I'm having the same issue.

[easternabeille]

Same here, the post isn't showing. Can someone post a copy if possible?

[Rosa]

wait, her son is at his dad's? She's divorced too?

[Loveday]

She doesn't even run a successful blog, yet she does blog design for a living.

If her own site is any indication, she can't be making any money at it. I have never designed a blog in my life, but I could probably do a better job, her site is a hot mess.

I'm so glad you stepped in to help that poor little girl. :clap:

[emmiedahl]

Here is the text. I still have the window open, so I could copy/paste.

Earlier today, something happened that made me consider hitting the delete button on this entire blog and shutting it down. Luckily, I have some of the greatest friends a girl could ask for and decided that instead of letting the person who had some pretty vile things to say about me win, I could fight. I could let it motivate me.

I don’t want to get into too many details, but it was bad. It stemmed from something that happened last night and someone is fairly certain they know my entire life story based on what they saw in just a couple of minutes.

Once I got past her vile personal attacks, there were a few grains of truth in some of what she said. Notice, I said a few. I’m going to take those few, sift out the faulty logic and move on.

So, my dear Anne Nonymous, please know that from here on out, much of what I do, I do for you! Love and kisses, enjoy your summer!