You facebook friends someone and discover they're Fundie-ish

[JumpingtheSnark]

I have recently begun adding my children's friends and classmates parents as facebook friends because it's much easier to wrangle the class for parties, gifts, planning via facebook. Having added about 10 in the last few months, some of them are distinctly fundie or fundie-lite in their "likes" and wall posts.

I strive to keep my status pretty neutral; I have some dear friends of a conservative persuasion who are the political opposite of me and who are lovely, fine people. One of my friends even just recently started a "Tempest Party" as an offshoot of a Tea Party, which I thought was a clever name.

Anyway, what do I do with the posts of these parents? Largely ignore and only touch base about the kids' stuff? I feel like I may have to bite my tongue. A LOT.

[Loveday]

I have recently begun adding my children's friends and classmates parents as facebook friends because it's much easier to wrangle the class for parties, gifts, planning via facebook. Having added about 10 in the last few months, some of them are distinctly fundie or fundie-lite in their "likes" and wall posts.

I strive to keep my status pretty neutral; I have some dear friends of a conservative persuasion who are the political opposite of me and who are lovely, fine people. One of my friends even just recently started a "Tempest Party" as an offshoot of a Tea Party, which I thought was a clever name.

Anyway, what do I do with the posts of these parents? Largely ignore and only touch base about the kids' stuff? I feel like I may have to bite my tongue. A LOT.

I usually put people like that on 'unsubscribe from all posts' or check 'only important' where it says 'subscribe to' in the little dropdown box beside their posts. That keeps them on my friends list but means I don't have to read or scroll through every bit of drivel they post. :lol:

[MonkeyMomma]

I'd hide the posts so they don't show up in my newsfeed. Then you can still message them or invite them to events related to kid business, but not have to deal with as much stupidity.

[Avalondaughter]

I usually put people like that on 'unsubscribe from all posts' or check 'only important' where it says 'subscribe to' in the little dropdown box beside their posts. That keeps them on my friends list but means I don't have to read or scroll through every bit of drivel they post. :lol:

I think a lot of people do that to m. :lol:

[snarkykitty]

There are a few people who are on my friends list, mostly people in my hubby's extended family or his friends back home (from the south), who have become openly evangelical.

We logged into our respective accounts on Easter and came across a whole bunch of "Resurrection Sunday" posts. Some of them can get pretty nutty, but for the most part, it's a small minority. What is most intriguing is that the people who appear the most fervent are people who, back in the day, lived pretty non-biblical lives. So it's pretty hysterical now, knowing that they were like even ten years ago, let alone in high school and college. (Oh I just made myself feel old!!)

[Rosa]

I hide them, partly so my friends don't see their posts and go argue with them.

A lot of my friends have conservative parents and they end up all huffy and offended because we see the shit they post and confront them on it (mostly of the "that's not true, facts X, Y & Z" variety, not the "you are a bad baby beater!" kind of confrontation.)

[JesusFightClub]

I've only got one fundy on my facebook. She is QF, but pretty unconventional - she believes strongly in women being educated, attending the ebil uni etc. I have known her for years, am very fond of her and wouldn't defriend her.

Having said that I have some people with absolutely fucking mental politics on my friends list. If you think mine are mental, at least I'm not calling North Korea "the great socialist fatherland" or writing poems of praise to the RIRA.

The RIRA fan got defriended - that's not safe, for a start. The NK guy is lovely, but he has a very bad line on Korea, and he's a Stalinist. I am at a bit of loss when I like the person but their politics are terrible.

[JumpingtheSnark]

Only 10 years and my kids will be done with school!

[geniebelle6901]

usually put people like that on 'unsubscribe from all posts'

THIS! Especially if you'e getting whole bunch of them at once. Also, I usually don't Facebook friend someone I don't know. That's probably why have a measly 55 instead of 550 Facebook friends.

[darkplumaged]

A relative-by-marriage of my sister's is... not a fundie, but appears to have Messianic leanings (he's not Jewish) and loves posting "abortion is murder"!!!111!! statuses. I don't engage. It's not worth my time.

I don't have a single other FB friend who would post such things. (I do have some friends who are just as passionately liberal as fundies are conservative, but as I agree with 95 percent of the things they post, that's fine with me.)

[Wolfie]

I hide them, partly so my friends don't see their posts and go argue with them.

A lot of my friends have conservative parents and they end up all huffy and offended because we see the shit they post and confront them on it (mostly of the "that's not true, facts X, Y & Z" variety, not the "you are a bad baby beater!" kind of confrontation.)

How are you seeing what friends of friends post unless they are posting on your friends' walls?

I occasionally poke the crazy, but mainly people half way across the country from me who are racist bigots. (and I don't really care if they unfriend me, so far they haven't.)

I do have two QF friends on my FB, but neither are the batshit crazy type. (One I think just likes having lots of kids, and often posts videos of her girls in dance competitions and stuff) (ETA- Ballet, tap, jazz and highland dancing, no racy hip hop or anything)

[ilovetchotchkes]

I test the waters by posting stuff like I did today about how homophobia pisses me off.

heh... but that'd be me, poking the pile of shit with a stick.

[lilwriter85]

I have a relatives who are evangelical Christians and sometimes they can be annoying on Facebook for different reasons. I also have a Facebook friend who I knew in high school and she also attended the same Catholic parish that my family attended. She is 25 and plans to become a nun. I've been friends with her on Facebook for several years. She used to post a lot of prayers, novenas, and Catholic stuff back when FB was still limited to college students or people with .edu email accounts. She attended Benedictine College and a lot of her college FB friends were very devout Catholics. Once FB became more mainstream and started allowing anyone to join, she stopped posting a lot of Catholic related stuff.

[Rosa]

How are you seeing what friends of friends post unless they are posting on your friends' walls?

I occasionally poke the crazy, but mainly people half way across the country from me who are racist bigots. (and I don't really care if they unfriend me, so far they haven't.)

I do have two QF friends on my FB, but neither are the batshit crazy type. (One I think just likes having lots of kids, and often posts videos of her girls in dance competitions and stuff) (ETA- Ballet, tap, jazz and highland dancing, no racy hip hop or anything)

I have no idea, it seems to come and go (maybe they are changing their privacy stuff? Or facebook is.). Sometimes it's on my actual friends walls but sometimes when my friends comment on stuff I see it, I think. Maybe there's a special fundie facebook setting for PLEASE BROADCAST MY STUPID FORWARD REPOSTS BECAUSE THEY ARE SO TRUE.

[Kitchen Princess]

I have recently begun adding my children's friends and classmates parents as facebook friends because it's much easier to wrangle the class for parties, gifts, planning via facebook. Having added about 10 in the last few months, some of them are distinctly fundie or fundie-lite in their "likes" and wall posts.

I strive to keep my status pretty neutral; I have some dear friends of a conservative persuasion who are the political opposite of me and who are lovely, fine people. One of my friends even just recently started a "Tempest Party" as an offshoot of a Tea Party, which I thought was a clever name.

Anyway, what do I do with the posts of these parents? Largely ignore and only touch base about the kids' stuff? I feel like I may have to bite my tongue. A LOT.

It's very simple. Create a Facebook Group for the class. If you're not friends with them, they can't see your wall, but you can still communicate en masse via the group.

[Austin]

I worked with a woman for several years and recently she friended me on fb. She was really nice, very smart, and gay. She and I hung out a lot and she even co-coached our sons' basketball team with my husband. I left that employment and she left soon after and we sort of lost touch until recently.

Now all of her status posts are like:

"God is so good"

"This is the day that the Lord has made!"

"National day of prayer. . .headed to the state house. . . anybody want to join me?"

"Delight in the Lord!"

Her recent "Likes" include Kirk Cameron, Chuck Swindoll, and Billy Graham.

:shock:

I do not friend/accept friend requests from many people and I've never defriended anyone, but I'm telling you, it's downright painful to read.