Training Daughters...Teachings Wives.

[Deleted07]

OK so I've discovered this website/blog, trainingdaughtersteachingwives.com/

and theres lots of fundie propaganda, men are better than women, stay at home daughter BS on there from lots of different authors.

But this particular article just really has me all sorts of pissed off at the tripe they feed their kids with the fear and emotional blackmail to get them to tow the partyline and wait for Gods "one" perfect man, from a said Stay at home daughter...

trainingdaughtersteachingwives.com/?p=205

I am sincerely heart broken. I recently found out that one of my friends, who got married just last August, who is only 20 is divorced. How sad. The poor girl. It breaks my heart, because she is a friend. This could have all been avoided had her parents done the right thing. Please keep her in your prayers.

If you read the whole article, its really not even a friend of this persons. Just an acquaintance. Yet she is full of a high and mighty attitude of what her parents should have done to avoid this situation, and how its basically their fault and that they knew the man this person was going to marry would be abusive? and basically the attitude that now her 'friends' life is ruined and she is a nothing now she has been married to the wrong person! :x

She returns home after finding this out, balling to her mother about how scared she is that this could happen to her, and makes her mother promise she will never allow someone interested in her to pop the question without really knowing them etc....

Urgh the whole thing just makes me so angry that while this SAHD feels knowledgeable enough to judge and dictate about her 'friends' siatution and parents, but she won't trust herself to pick her own freaking husband???

Just all sorts of wrong going on here! :evil:

[ladypuglover]

From my understanding of abusers they can and often do throw the wool over everyone's eyes. My parents weren't happy that I married my first husband but there weren't huge red flags until after the wedding. Before it just seemed that we were too young which we were.

[Glass Cowcatcher]

Ugh. This hits so close to home.

It's hard enough to spot an abusive personality in a normal dating and relationship setting.

For young women with the mindset that God has a perfect husband chosen for them, it's disastrous.

[Deleted07]

Exactly! I was in a similar situation for a little while, everyone thought he was the bee's knees and could do no wrong. Once when I tried to talk with his brother's wife about the situation, she basically told me I was obviously doing something wrong to bring out his reaction, because he was a great guy! HAH!!!!!

ANYWHO. Just found ANOTHER article from the same SAHD, dreaming about her future husband and their PERFECT home and all the perfect (and expensive!) things she wants for her kitchen and house:

“Most parents save for a college fund… but I want my parents to save for my wedding/home fund.â€

trainingdaughtersteachingwives.com/?p=200

She really makes my blood boil. Self entitled little *BEEP*

[pomology]

Exactly! I was in a similar situation for a little while, everyone thought he was the bee's knees and could do no wrong. Once when I tried to talk with his brother's wife about the situation, she basically told me I was obviously doing something wrong to bring out his reaction, because he was a great guy! HAH!!!!!

ANYWHO. Just found ANOTHER article from the same SAHD, dreaming about her future husband and their PERFECT home and all the perfect (and expensive!) things she wants for her kitchen and house:

trainingdaughtersteachingwives.com/?p=200

She really makes my blood boil. Self entitled little *BEEP*

Chill the fuck out. This is an article written 5 years ago by a member of a family that we talk about a lot. Amanda has grown a lot and changed in the past 5 years. You're getting pissed off at old news.

ETA: If you're gonna make a bunch of posts about the same blog that you are just now discovering, you can keep them all on the same thread.

[Deleted07]

well how about you tell me exactly HOW she has changed, then, all knowledgeable one.

I think I have a right to get upset about this particular subject, being as though I have lived in an abusive relationship, and this self entitled CHILD doesn't know the score on anything on real life, yet feels the need to comment and run her mouth, like you now seem to want to do.

How about backing up your little handslap and curse with some actual information???

Chill out yourself, and HAVE SOME CAKE...

[DarkAnts]

well how about you tell me exactly HOW she has changed, then, all knowledgeable one.

I think I have a right to get upset about this particular subject, being as though I have lived in an abusive relationship, and this self entitled CHILD doesn't know the score on anything on real life, yet feels the need to comment and run her mouth, like you now seem to want to do.

How about backing up your little handslap and curse with some actual information???

HAVE SOME CAKE...

:clap: :clap: :clap:

[pomology]

well how about you tell me exactly HOW she has changed, then, all knowledgeable one.

I think I have a right to get upset about this particular subject, being as though I have lived in an abusive relationship, and this self entitled CHILD doesn't know the score on anything on real life, yet feels the need to comment and run her mouth, like you now seem to want to do.

How about backing up your little handslap and curse with some actual information???

Chill out yourself, and HAVE SOME CAKE...

:roll:

She had a falling out with her family and grew the fuck up. And you are freaking the fuck out about something she said when she was still under her mothers' thumb, five years ago. Yes, she was running off her mouth, but it's her mother you should be angry at, not her.

littletangurl.com/?p=741#comments

Coming from the home environment that I did, I wasn’t really allowed to be who I am. It was looked down upon if I found something in the Scriptures that I thought meant something other than someone else did because I wasn’t an adult, or mature or even godly enough and I was supposed to be obedient and be taught by my parents. I felt as tho I was riding on their beliefs blindly…

http://littletangurl.com/?p=749#comments

It angers me that parents think that they have the right to turn their backs on their children just because they believe that they shouldn’t make their own life decisions.

[DarkAnts]

:roll:

She had a falling out with her family and grew the fuck up. And you are freaking the fuck out about something she said when she was still under her mothers' thumb, five years ago. Yes, she was running off her mouth, but it's her mother you should be angry at, not her.

littletangurl.com/?p=741#comments

http://littletangurl.com/?p=749#comments

How about you grow the fuck up and stop acting like an asshat. You could have politely pointed the OP to the more current info. Instead, you decided to be an asshat and attack the OP.

[pomology]

How about you grow the fuck up and stop acting like an asshat. You could have politely pointed the OP to the more current info. Instead, you decided to be an asshat and attack the OP.

Cool story, bro.

[Dinorah]

What's striking for me in that post by Amanda is how childish it sounds. She was 20 when she wrote it, but it sounds like a 12-yo fantasizing about her house.

And I hate the idea of "training children". You raise children. Training is for animals.

[Conuly]

What's striking for me in that post by Amanda is how childish it sounds. She was 20 when she wrote it, but it sounds like a 12-yo fantasizing about her house.

And I hate the idea of "training children". You raise children. Training is for animals.

Properly speaking, you're supposed to rear children and raising is ALSO for non-human animals. Funny how prescriptivism works, so often we find ourselves on the wrong side of it.

[Dinorah]

Properly speaking, you're supposed to rear children and raising is ALSO for non-human animals. Funny how prescriptivism works, so often we find ourselves on the wrong side of it.

Good point. However, I'm bothered by the fundies' insistence on using the term "training" much more than "raising" or "rearing". It sounds like they're animals who need to be taught mechanically to perform certain things, or that they're setting them to do only certain specific tasks, in the way you can be "trained" for a specific job.

[Snickerdoodle]

What's striking for me in that post by Amanda is how childish it sounds. She was 20 when she wrote it, but it sounds like a 12-yo fantasizing about her house.

That was written in 2007. I think Amanda was 16 or 17 at the time. The little bio at the bottom is deceptive because it shows up under all the posts she wrote at any time on TDTW.

[fluttershies]

That was written in 2007. I think Amanda was 16 or 17 at the time. The little bio at the bottom is deceptive because it shows up under all the posts she wrote at any time on TDTW.

Yeah, Amanda is 22 now I think, so she was still a teenager then. Amanda was in an emotionally and spiritually abusive home herself at the time, so let's not attack her for things she said when she was not able to think independantly.

[pomology]

Yeah, Amanda is 22 now I think, so she was still a teenager then. Amanda was in an emotionally and spiritually abusive home herself at the time, so let's not attack her for things she said when she was not able to think independantly.

Which was my point.

[fluttershies]

Which was my point.

I know? I'm agreeing with you.

[pomology]

I know? I'm agreeing with you.

Ha, sorry, I figured you did, I didn't mean that to be directed at you.

[Dinorah]

Ha, sorry, I figured you did, I didn't mean that to be directed at you.

I wasn't "attacking" her btw. That piece still sounds childish for a teen ager, anyway I'm not saying it was her fault she was that way, SAHDs who act that way are kept this way by their families.

[uber frau]

Without clicking on the links, I'm presuming this was written by Jacqui Dixon's daughter? The whole Dixon trainwreck seems to be coming off the rails as we converse. Funny how that happens...