Michele Duggar's Tips for a Happy Marriage

[koolmom]

Yes, Thoughtful, I DO notice many differences between the wife's list and the husband's. Frankly, the husband's list seems much more grounded and sensible on many fronts from the wife's list. I can't understand how on earth someone trained in the Gothard method can relate from one set of standards than to another? I sort of wish I could have had the husband's list to peruse when I was still married.

There are many elements my ex didn't even come close to fulfilling there.

[apple1]

All this from Bill Gothard - an unmarried man.

[AudreyE]

I think Michelle is just looking for someone to blame for her God-awful hair.

[AudreyE]

How does my hair reflect my contentment vs my frustration?

[AudreyE]

Treat your wife as precious, because

The scourge of a woman is jealousy—the fear of being displaced. Your wife needs to be confident not only that you love her but that you also desire her companionship and sincerely need her assistance.

W. T. F.???????????????????????????????????????

So, women do your duties to your men, and men do your duties to your wives before those crazy bitches up and get any crazier.

[Visionoyahweh]

From the Men's sheet:

Does your wife need your protection through the loving provision of boundaries in any of the following areas?

Lack of sleep

Unfinished projects

Inappropriate clothing

Poor eating habits

Neglecting personal appearance

Tardiness

Destructive self-criticism

Volunteering

Get enough sleep, do everything right, eat right at all times, look good at all times, and be perfect, or else you are a bad wife!

Tuesdays episode with the best friend also features Michelle speaking at a women's group, so I hope we get to see more of this crazy.

You know, she's speaking at a women's group. It's been a whole week since we've seen her do that. Who says the show is repetitive? :roll:

[Kishiria]

What if you're like me, a wife whose paycheck goes right into the joint account?

[Boltingmadonna]

I'm thanking Satan right now for my defiant, disorganized, and inconsistent hair. I need say no more. TALK TO THE HAIR!

[AnnoDomini]

Volunteeering is evil now???? WTF?

[ricky_ticky]

And the last one made my blood boil with how untrue it is.

Guess I'm feeling insecure or triggery today -- can you expand upon this? My ex-husband told me that the reason he cheated was because I rejected him sexually...

[holierthanyou]

Quote:

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[Koala]

Creepy... Where is the full copy?

http://www.southheightsbaptist.com/mp3/ ... usband.pdf

[browngrl]

The more I read these rules the more I think they should be under the title: How to destroy a marriage.

If my husband took it upon himself to give me "boundaries" or make my hair/clothes his choice and not mine or really any of the other rules - I would be talking with a divorce lawyer.

[Guest Anonymous]

The more I read these rules the more I think they should be under the title: How to destroy a marriage.

If my husband took it upon himself to give me "boundaries" or make my hair/clothes his choice and not mine or really any of the other rules - I would be talking with a divorce lawyer.

If mine tried it, he'd need a sitz bath for his balls.

[AudreyE]

You know how sometimes wives are so tired and cranky, but you just can't get them to go down for a nap.

Oh, I was thinking of 5 year olds. Oops!

Did they ever consider that some men don't want the pressure of controlling every aspect of their wife's life and making every single decision for the family? That's a huge expectation.

[eohiken]

I'm thanking Satan right now for my defiant, disorganized, and inconsistent hair. I need say no more. TALK TO THE HAIR!

My hair is also very disobedient, just another mark of satan for me.

[freejoytoo]

The worksheet is basically a pamphlet for abuse. Fucking hell.

[MadameX]

Guess I'm feeling insecure or triggery today -- can you expand upon this? My ex-husband told me that the reason he cheated was because I rejected him sexually...

Okay, but it isn't your fault that your ex-husband was apparently a giant man-child who was unable to either discuss the discrepancy between your sexual wants and give your relationship a chance to do something to bring them closer to the same point, respect your sexuality and the potential reasons it may not be at the same level as his at that period in your lives (because, this may be a shock to him, but sex isn't the be-all of a marriage), or break things off with you properly before going on to be an asshole to some other woman.

[AudreyE]

Okay, but it isn't your fault that your ex-husband was apparently a giant man-child who was unable to either discuss the discrepancy between your sexual wants and give your relationship a chance to do something to bring them closer to the same point, respect your sexuality and the potential reasons it may not be at the same level as his at that period in your lives (because, this may be a shock to him, but sex isn't the be-all of a marriage), or break things off with you properly before going on to be an asshole to some other woman.

I agree. Your ex could have tried to resolve things with you by sharing his needs and trying to understand yours. He could have taken steps to increase your intimacy, or he could have left. There's no "because" with cheating that involves anyone but the cheater.

[Shana]

Guess I'm feeling insecure or triggery today -- can you expand upon this? My ex-husband told me that the reason he cheated was because I rejected him sexually...

The distinction is that to Michelle, resisting his physical affection is the untold CRUSHING OF A MAN'S SPIRITTTT!!!!111!1!1!

Ok, so if I "have a headache" one night I'm going to CRUSH MY HUSBAND'S SPIRIT? Seriously? Can we say melodramatic?

There obviously is way more that went into your relationship with your ex than a few times that you just didn't feel like doin the deed.

[Bookworm89]

Okay, but it isn't your fault that your ex-husband was apparently a giant man-child who was unable to either discuss the discrepancy between your sexual wants and give your relationship a chance to do something to bring them closer to the same point, respect your sexuality and the potential reasons it may not be at the same level as his at that period in your lives (because, this may be a shock to him, but sex isn't the be-all of a marriage), or break things off with you properly before going on to be an asshole to some other woman.

Said much better then I could. Thanks.

[flipflop]

This is so disturbing on many levels.

So basically if your husband abuses you it is your fault because you are not godly enough.

Expect nothing and be grateful for any crumbs of kindness or consideration.

You have no individual rights including how to do your own hair/dress etc.

This it disturbingly cult like. What is especially worrying it these families who believe this utter crap then pass their daughters on to some immature kid and give him complete power and control over her. God help them.

[flipflop]

Here is a good one:-

"never ask others for counsel without your husbands approval"

So if he beats the shit out of you for failing to be godly enough or having a bad hair day you cannot seek help form anyone without his permission.

It is a charter for domestic abuse, power and control. Stepford wives have nothing on this lot. Pure brainwashing nonsense, it make my blood boil that any 21st century women could buy into this nonsense, or man for that matter!

[doggie]

well if the husbands ego is so fragile to need a submissive wife to survive then I say he is not worth having. Fundies think their way is so great but they seem pretty fragile. All we have to do is look at Michelle to see what that attitude makes a person into.\

Hey here is the male version of Michelle

'I'm truly under the thumb': Is this Britain's most henpecked man?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article ... z1my0RKaEF

He watches girly box-sets, wears boots because his partner saw them on TOWIE, and he always sits down to go to the loo so his other half doesn’t have to lift the toilet seat up - meet Britain’s most ‘under the thumb’ bloke.

Henpecked Mike Jeffries, 25, from Eastbourne, East Sussex, always has to sit down when he goes to the toilet so his controlling other half Joanna Felicitas, 23, doesn’t have to put the seat down later.

Mr Jeffries admits his fiancee, who he proposed to in 2009, carries out regular spot checks during his trips to the loo - and even phones him if he takes too long.

The sports coach, who owns his own football academy, was also banned from spending time with his best friend Keith - after Joanna became worried people would think they're in a relationship.

'I have to accept that I am truly under the thumb and changes need to be made,' he said.

'She’s a bit funny about the toilet seat. But I’d rather sit down because I can read the newspapers or my phone.

'She will check up on me and she will go mental if the seat is up. I will be in there and if I’m in there too long reading the sport on my phone, she will phone me and give me a cheeky call to ask what I’m doing.

'Another time she thought for a second that me and a mate were going out, she thought we were gay because there was too much bromance going on.

'I told her a story about us getting drunk once and waking up next to each other and she took it the wrong way.

'So she ordered me to spend less time with my best mate Keith.' And as well as telling him what to do, Miss Felicitas even controls what he wears - with the sports coach often forced to don well-style leather boots - just because Arg from infamous reality show The Only Way Is Essex owns a pair.

Mr Jeffries with his partner Joanna Felicitas who forces him to watch girly box sets and calls him if he takes too long in the toilet

Mr Jeffries with his partner Joanna Felicitas who forces him to watch girly box sets and calls him if he takes too long in the toilet

'She likes to try and dress me up,' added the 25-year-old, who lives with Miss Felicitas and their two-year-old son Mason.

'Recently she has been trying to get me to wear these skinny jeans but I haven’t got the physique for it.

'There was one time she brought these leather boots back. She had seen Arg on The Only Way Is Essex wearing them and thought I could pull them off.

'I think he looks like a idiot though, I’ve worn them out a few times but I don’t like them. I don’t think I could pull off the skinny jeans tucked into the boots look.'

James Argent from TOWIE

James Argent from TOWIE

After a six-week hunt for the most henpecked man in the country, organisers at lads mag Zoo and Brighton based The Stag Company were in no doubt that Mr Jeffries should beat thousands of entries to land the dubious title.

Despite threatening to kill the mates who stitched him up, he has been forced to admit that their allegations were true - especially after revealing how he spent his Valentines Day.

'My initial reaction was to kill them, but I’d have to say the majority of what he said is pretty fair,' he said.

'Valentines night was a blinder. I have to admit I did not get a card till last minute. In the end I had a romantic meal with the missus, her sister and her partner.

'It was the full works: candles, rose; glasses and bucks fizz. To end the night we started to watch series 3 of Gossip Girl, which I bought for her.'

As part of his prize, Mr Jeffries and five friends will be treated to a weekend away in Newcastle - complete with a trip to a strip club and a casino.

And despite the usually strict regime, he revealed he would be allowed to go on the lads trip.

'She has calmed down a bit now and I am allowed to go,' he added.

'She ain’t happy about the trip, but a spa weekend softened the blow. Maybe one cheeky dance won’t harm, other than that I’ll be waiting outside as the boys have fun.'

But despite all the demands from his fiancee, Mr Jeffries claims he is incredibly happy and recently proposed.

Mike, with his friends, has proposed to his girlfriend despite complaining he is 'under the thumb'

Mike, with his friends, has proposed to his girlfriend despite complaining he is 'under the thumb'

'I proposed to her up the Eiffel Tower,' he said. 'I had the ring all ready but was thinking of backing out and doing it another time but then a man nearby proposed to his girlfriend and my other half gave me a look, so I did it there and then.

'I don’t regret it for a minute. Joking aside it is definitely worth putting up with everything.

'She really is great. She takes me for who I am and is my best friend as well.'

The search for Britain’s Most Under The Thumb Bloke was the brainchild of Mark Booth, Web copywriter at The Stag Company.

He said: 'This was just an idea I had one day, and thought it would be funny if we tried to find the most whiplashed guy in the UK.

'It’s mad to think that there was actually an unfortunate bloke who lives that very life,' he said. 'I’m proud to have outed Mike for what he is - truly under the thumb.'

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article ... z1my0E0ioD

[Lola]

ewww, I eel sorry for Michelle. Is she emotionally unstable? I would jump off a bridge if I had to obey these rules