Couple can't wait three hours after the wedding to have sex

[stabbycat]

That cake needs more bacon. Have you not learned that from Epic Meal Time?

Also, I don't want to know about my parents' sex lives for the same reason why I do not watch porn starring geriatrics.

[Mama Mia]

I don't think it is THAT weird when some adult parents talk to their adult children about sex...

In my family we have a mix of people and the folks who are extremely talkative and open in general tend to be more comfortable talking about sex ( not always being very aware of others comfort level ) - Others ( like me ) are pretty contained and introverted in general and don't talk about sex very much.

I don't think anyone gets into extreme detail regarding favorite acts with an opposite sex parent -- but casual banter isn't that unusual.

Maybe it's because my parents went through various changes of partners while I was young -- but it would be kind of difficult NOT to see them as sexual beings, since they went through all that dating/moving in/break-ups type thing.

With my own adult kids - I have one daughter who I know less than 0 about her sex life -- another daughter is much more talkative about it. But those are their personalities in general.

As far as the hotel ... Weddings are exhausting - I would hate to have to go on a long drive on my wedding night, whether I was a virgin or not.

edited because I do know that there are different kinds of 'their'

[donks]

:lol: :lol: :lol: Oh gosh, I had a neighbor when I first got married who was SO FREAKING LOUD during sex! We could hear the bed squeaking like crazy and both of them moaning and screaming. Jeez.

Gawd, that's better than the neighbors Mr. Donks and I had. The man's main activity was to get pissy-ass drunk and beat the woman's ass.

[DistantStar]

For all that I have a huge sweet tooth, I am not a fan of syrup. And I really don't like it on bacon or sausage or other breakfast meaty things. Bleah. Bacon is great, but I don't want it mixed up with sweet stuff.

My parents (mom and stepdad) know I have had sex. Kind of unavoidable when you spend weekends at one boyfriend's place and actually move in with another. They do not know any details. The closest I've ever gotten to details was asking my mom about her history with birth control, which was partly because I found out the hard way that the classic pill gives me migraines. While we have been occasionally pretty graphic when discussing periods and other female things, I don't want to know about her sex life.

My dad died several years before it might have become an issue, and I am trying to imagine him worrying about when I'm going to have sex on my honeymoon (for the first time or for the millionth!) and am failing. That tends to happen whenever I try to imagine him pulling some of this crazy control patriarchal shit. I wish he was still around so I could run it by him and watch his expression. :)

[Wolfie]

So husband and I are in bed one night after this happened and our eldest came in to discuss the brouhaha going on about it (the girlfriend had her nose out of joint over it and so this ended up playing out over several days). We all opined that it is ridiculous to assume that just because people use a spa or hot tub they are automatically having sex in it and how we thought it was a shame that the girl's mother was so uptight. Eldest son then exclaims, "It would probably shock her to know that no one has ever had sex in that hot tub!"

Both husband and I skipped a beat and looked down at our laptops and immediately our son knew and he was completely grossed out. It was so funny! He was just like, "That's gross, ewwww, when was this? We need to change the water, I can't believe you guys," blah, blah. We were just cracking up. He went downstairs and told his brothers and then they were all on the ewww-wagon. I said to our eldest, "Why are you so grossed out? Clearly, we've had sex", and he said, "Yes, I realize that, but I don't ever want to know anything about it", and I reminded him that we had not said a word.

Anyway, parents and adult kids generally do not want to discuss the sex lives of the other.

This reminds me of a recent conversation I had with my mom. They have friends with a hot tub who keep trying to get them to come over to enjoy it all together. My mom was all grossed out that the other couple didn't usually wear bathing suits, and then implied that they probably had sex in it. My mom did not want to go in the water that the other couple had sex in. I totally understand my mom's point of view, but it was a rather funny conversation.

I don't have conversations about MY sex life with my parents. Especially with my dad, as he was even uncomfortable that I'd learned how a condom works in middle school- my mom would tease him about it. My mom and I will refer to sex in a conversation, but not about us. I have discussed birth control with my mom, as she had multiple failures- but I think part of it was 1970's pills.

[Wolfie]

There used to be a company who made awesome maple bacon lollipops. But their customer service sucked- but it was nearly worth it for the lollipops. Then the guy went vegan and switched to fake bacon. Not worth it, and last I heard they went out of business.

At the co-op yesterday the butcher was laughing about some people who are 100% vegan otherwise, yet eat bacon. He had a silly name for it.

[Austin]

This reminds me of a recent conversation I had with my mom. They have friends with a hot tub who keep trying to get them to come over to enjoy it all together. My mom was all grossed out that the other couple didn't usually wear bathing suits, and then implied that they probably had sex in it. My mom did not want to go in the water that the other couple had sex in. I totally understand my mom's point of view, but it was a rather funny conversation.

I don't have conversations about MY sex life with my parents. Especially with my dad, as he was even uncomfortable that I'd learned how a condom works in middle school- my mom would tease him about it. My mom and I will refer to sex in a conversation, but not about us. I have discussed birth control with my mom, as she had multiple failures- but I think part of it was 1970's pills.

lol - I get where she's coming from, too. I certainly don't know about your parents' friends, but many spa owners (all the ones I know) typically go naked when no one but family is around. The detergent in fabrics (and there's always detergent, no matter how well something has been rinsed) causes problems in keeping the spa clear, so it's just easier. Our spa is set off of our deck on a concrete patio that is closely surrounded by a 6 feet tall privacy fence and our family, when it's just been the five of us, have always used it naked. We would never, however, do so in front of anyone else, nor would we ever expect anyone else not to wear a swimsuit.

And not to get too personal, but having sex in a spa is not that comfortable and although we've had the spa since 2003, this sort of. . . uh. . . activity has taken place a total of two times. So anyway, just because people use their spa naked doesn't mean they're having sex in it. Going naked is probably more about easier spa maintenance than sex. :D (Unfortuntely for my husband!)

[MadameX]

Having sex in a spa sounds like a good way to get a UTI. *shudder*

[ladypuglover]

lol - I get where she's coming from, too. I certainly don't know about your parents' friends, but many spa owners (all the ones I know) typically go naked when no one but family is around. The detergent in fabrics (and there's always detergent, no matter how well something has been rinsed) causes problems in keeping the spa clear, so it's just easier. Our spa is set off of our deck on a concrete patio that is closely surrounded by a 6 feet tall privacy fence and our family, when it's just been the five of us, have always used it naked. We would never, however, do so in front of anyone else, nor would we ever expect anyone else not to wear a swimsuit.

And not to get too personal, but having sex in a spa is not that comfortable and although we've had the spa since 2003, this sort of. . . uh. . . activity has taken place a total of two times. So anyway, just because people use their spa naked doesn't mean they're having sex in it. Going naked is probably more about easier spa maintenance than sex. :D (Unfortuntely for my husband!)

We used to have a hot tub at our first house and we as a family would get in the hot tub naked. Now granted our oldest 2 sons were babies and when #3 came around we put him in a swim diaper because newborn boys are famous using their little firehose. Yes, we used it once for sex but the kiddos were dead asleep inside the house. The only body fluids in the tub were from the toddlers get to wild and throwing up which would ruin all the fun because everyone had to get out of the tub to drain it, scrub it out and wait 24 hours to heat back up after filling it back up. By the time our oldest was 4 he was worried that the planes flying overhead could see him naked so we all started wearing swimsuits to make him happy. By the way, the house was built around the hot tub even though the hot tub was outside, it was in an atrium. Also when we had guests everyone down to the youngest child wore swimsuits, naked swimming is just for family with kids that haven't hit modesty. :snooty:

I love bacon even though it hates me, so I will have tons of turkey bacon for those who can't eat the real stuff. I guess you all will run out of the good stuff and will come crawling to me to have the fake stuff. If you do then you must apologise for saying turkey bacon isn't bacon. :lol:

[DistantStar]

Turkey bacon isn't bacon but it's worlds better than no bacon at all! :)

[Rowan]

At the co-op yesterday the butcher was laughing about some people who are 100% vegan otherwise, yet eat bacon. He had a silly name for it.

When my uncles were veggitarians, they termed themselves as "Ovo, Lacto, Baco" veggies. :lol:

[Austin]

When my uncles were veggitarians, they termed themselves as "Ovo, Lacto, Baco" veggies. :lol:

My BF doesn't eat meat, but she makes an exception for bacon.

[kaetrin]

I'm not a vegetarian, but I'm allergic to eggs, so I'm the crazy person at a diner who orders the tofu scramble with a side of bacon.

[Wolfie]

lol - I get where she's coming from, too. I certainly don't know about your parents' friends, but many spa owners (all the ones I know) typically go naked when no one but family is around. The detergent in fabrics (and there's always detergent, no matter how well something has been rinsed) causes problems in keeping the spa clear, so it's just easier. Our spa is set off of our deck on a concrete patio that is closely surrounded by a 6 feet tall privacy fence and our family, when it's just been the five of us, have always used it naked. We would never, however, do so in front of anyone else, nor would we ever expect anyone else not to wear a swimsuit.

And not to get too personal, but having sex in a spa is not that comfortable and although we've had the spa since 2003, this sort of. . . uh. . . activity has taken place a total of two times. So anyway, just because people use their spa naked doesn't mean they're having sex in it. Going naked is probably more about easier spa maintenance than sex. :D (Unfortuntely for my husband!)

I suspect that the wife may have said something. She can be a bit of TMI at times.

[ladypuglover]

Turkey bacon isn't bacon but it's worlds better than no bacon at all! :)

No turkey bacon for you! One year! :snooty:

[Witsec7]

I'm not a vegetarian, but I'm allergic to eggs, so I'm the crazy person at a diner who orders the tofu scramble with a side of bacon.

Are you my daughter :lol: She orders that and garden burgers with bacon.

[snarkykitty]

Fair enough. I'll try not to ask questions.

DING!DING!DING!DING!DING!DING!DING! (I'm dying to know, now, if a mod gets my drift.)

[27randomscribbles]

How is it absolutely normal? Okay, typical... but probably not healthy. Is sex so bad that your parents couldn't have done it? This seems very strange to me. On the one hand I, as a parent, am supposed to realize my kids are sexual beings and thus provide them with an adequate education about sex so they can make good choices and not end up all diseased and shit...but they're supposed to think I'm a virgin? Very weird. Just sayin'.

I could understand that this particular conversation was controlling and creepy. I can understand not wanting to know if your mom spits or swallows, especially if you don't care to know that about anyone else. I don't understand for a minute the whole "my parents don't have sex!" meme.

I just woke up and am not up for reading the rest of the posts before replying to this so forgive me if I've repeated something...this is just something I've thought about a lot.

I joke (not entirely joking though) that I'd like to 1) imagine that my parents still think I'm a virgin although I've been married 5 years and have been having sex for 7*, and 2)pretend that my parents do not and have never had sex--because I'm adopted it's easier to pretend.

No, I don't actually believe my parents still think I'm a virgin, and I assume my parents had sex at some point back when they still shared a bedroom, although it's been awhile I'm sure. However, as I've mentioned in other posts, my being raised evangelical (fundie-lite?) with an insane focus on purity and the importance of remaining pure scarred my feelings towards sex, and it affects my relationship with my husband to a certain point, (I am terrified of him cheating, which possibly relates to my overall fears of abandonment related to being an adoptee, but also probably has something to do with the lies I was fed about men being unable to control themselves during the "purity talks")--thankfully my hubby is very understanding and knows about my trust issues and abuse as a kid...and I'm in counseling.

I have no issues hearing others talk about sex. My friends and I are in pro-choice groups on campus that run "safer sex" parties...I tend to discuss sex a lot! But the idea of my parents having sex, or them thinking the same of me.

I blame the purity movement for this, at least in my case--although I feel it probably extends to many who were raised in this movement. If one is taught that sex is dirty, that your body is God's property, that you have to be "pure", and taught all that crap about guys being uncontrolled and girls having less sexual desire, then I imagine that could easily fuck with someone's ideas about sexuality in general later on in life, regardless of whether or not they are able to leave behind those beliefs (which I have). It sticks.

Sorry for running on and on...this topic gets me going because I've seen the damage that the purity movement has had on young people today--lack of safer sex education, ignorance, homophobia, reinforcement of old gender roles, lack of healthy sexuality...and more. If I got anything from being raised that way it was that I've sworn to do the opposite with any future children I have! :)

( * my parents never found out I was having sex with my then-boyfriend (now hubby) in high school. From what happened to my siblings, who were not too good at sneaking around, I know they would have forced us to break up. I am lucky that I had the internet and a local planned parenthood or I would have ended up pregnant because I had no proper sex-ed at that point.)

[penguinagogo]

to tie the thread back together

i cant discuss my bacon habits with my parents

but theres no way id wait 3 hrs for bacon on my wedding day

having been bacon abstinent so long....

[gardenvarietycitizen]

to tie the thread back together

i cant discuss my bacon habits with my parents

but theres no way id wait 3 hrs for bacon on my wedding day

having been bacon abstinent so long....

I had bacon this morning before work!!! :D

[icecreamycakeycake]

Aw, looks like a tiny bacon octopus amputee on top.

I think it's a bow.

[Artemis]

I understand privacy. I know a lot of people who are anything BUT private but then squick out if their parents even hint at maybe at some point having had sex. I don't understand that particular squick trigger when they don't have it with anyone else.

Can I ask if you have teenage children yourself? I do. We have a very open household, and discussed anything that needed discussing when the children were small. We still do discuss quite a lot. It does appear, however, that no matter how open your marriage, no matter how sensible and logical the discussios have been, no matter how well informed your children are - and believe me, mine are - some sort of inhibition appears to arise when they reach the age, not necessarily of early puberty, but of experiencing sexual feelings themselves. I've always assumed it's an inbuilt prohibition that says 'Parents are sexually off limits' (to avoid genetic issues) and reinforces that by ensuring that most teenagers do not want to discuss parental sexuality. Interestingly, (in my admittedly somewhat limited experience) the teenagers do come out the other side of this embarassment - but only if their privacy and reticence is respected, I think.

[StarrieEyedKat]

My BF doesn't eat meat, but she makes an exception for bacon.

That's how I am, only I'm not a vegetarian by choice, my body just doesn't tolerate meat...except for bacon. My body is weird.

[clover_leigh]

It does seem to me that its based on getting the girl pregnant as soon as possible. What a horrible life to lead,to not be in control of your own sex life and reproductive system.

[Trynn]

My dad is constantly informing me that he and my mom are still sexually active. And he'll refer to my mother as "hot and sexy." The latter I think is kinda sweet, the former... well, frankly, their sex life is none of my business, and it's really not something I want to know about.

I think it's loads different from having him know I'm on my period. Not that I tell him, he just figures it out when I come downstairs with a hot pack, eat half a bottle of ibprofen, and ask him to toss in an extra scoop of coffee for me. I don't so much mind him knowing that because then he just knows that today would be a bad day to ask if I could shovel the walk, run out to buy more coffee, or otherwise do anything requiring me to get out of bed.

But there is no REASON for him to know about my (lack of) sex life. There just isn't.

My mom isn't as open as my dad as far as...their sex life, but she was pretty open in regards to how things worked. In the end, she was the one who had to explain sex to my little brother because my dad tried, but apparently not in terms Little Brother understood, because he told me afterward that he was confused.