Pastor Encourages Couples To Have Sex For Seven Days

[debrand]

There is nothing wrong with encouraging couples to make time for one another and have sex. It could be fun for a healthy couple to make a promise that they will have sex every day for a week.

However, beyond being potential enjoyable activity, seven days of sex can't be a substitute for therapy. Religion turns seven days of sex from something fun that a couple might voluntarily do into a chore that has to be done for the state of your soul. To me, that takes the fun out of sex.

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/11/24/us/24sex.html

Mr. Young, an author, a television host and the pastor of the evangelical Fellowship Church, issued his call for a week of “congregational copulation†among married couples on Nov. 16, while pacing in front of a large bed. Sometimes he reclined on the paisley coverlet while flipping through a Bible, emphasizing his point that it is time for the church to put God back in the bed.

This is skeevy. Pastors should not be lounging on a bed during their sermons. Also, it isn't the pastor's place to tell his congregation to have or not have sex. That is none of his business. Unless he is running a fertility cult in which sex is a part of worship, the congregations sex lives should not be his concern.

On Sunday parishioners at the Grapevine branch watched a prerecorded sermon from Mr. Young and his wife, Lisa, on jumbo screens over a candlelit stage. “I know there’s been a lot of love going around this week, among the married couples,†one of the church musicians said, strumming on a guitar before a crowd of about 3,000.

The pastor and his wife aren't even in the same room as the congregation. They did manage to set the mood with candlelight and guitar strumming though. :roll:

For others grappling with infidelities, addictions to pornography or other bitter hurts, “there’s been some pain; hopefully there’s been some forgiveness, too.â€

Mr. Young advised the couples to “keep on doing what you’ve been doing this week. We should try to double up the amount of intimacy we have in marriage. And when I say intimacy, I don’t mean holding hands in the park or a back rub.â€

Again, it is nice to have sex with your spouse. It won't fix hardcore problems though. Infidelities don't happen just because couples aren't having sex. In some instances, the cheating spouse was having sex with their wife or husband. They still cheated so having more sex isn't going to fix the person or the marriage.

[Austin]

It sounds like about as much fun as infertility sex.

[Guest Anonymous]

I read the title and thought it was referring to Mark Driscoll. But he'd probably advise that on the seventh day they attend a public orgy at Mars Hill.

[kpmom]

Putting God back in the bed sounds really perverted. If I was ever going to have a threesome, God would not be my choice for one of the partners.

I wonder here if he's trying to intimate the old, "If you kept your husband satisfied at home he wouldn't have strayed." theory. That's what it sounds like he's trying to say.

And yes, if someone has hurt me through cheating or a porn addiction, simply having sex with them is not going to solve things. I doubt I'd be in the mood after being hurt anyway. I'd probably feel used.

[dcmhejbl62]

Big competition between Young and Driscoll right now. Everyone knows sex sells, even in conservative / evangelical Christianity, apparently.

[doe]

Sex has never solved any of our marriage problems. Also, make-up sex doesn't do anything if you never actually made up after a fight.

[ElphabaGalinda]

Any pastor, or person for that matter, who takes so much interest in someone else's sex life to the point when they think they can tell the other person when/why/how they should have sex creeps me out.

[emmiedahl]

He was on a bed? Like in Monty Python? :snerk:

[virginmojito]

Sex has never solved any of our marriage problems. Also, make-up sex doesn't do anything if you never actually made up after a fight.

WORD...

I've talked to guys that said: oh, I love make-up sex, I often start fights with my gf just to get me some make-up sex... Wow. I don't even want to have sex for a week after each fight! Those are pretty much the sleep alone nights for mister virginmojito. thankfully we only fight about once a year or less but the last thing I need after a fight is getting humped.

[mirele]

Ed Young Jr...trying to keep people from finding out about his luxurious ways:

http://www.wfaa.com/news/investigates/P ... 00192.html

(There's more out there, but you have to sift the gold from the plastic glitter, because Young's hired someone to do internet optimization and you have to plug in just the right words to Google to get stuff out.)

[bananacat]

I believe that sex should only happen when both (or more) partners enthusiastically want it. It should never be done out of guilt, pressure, or a sense of obligation. Even if it's not an involved partner that is doing the pressuring, it is still wrong. I am also concerned that if one partner consents to seven days of sex and then changes their mind one night, they will not feel able to revoke their previous consent. It's just never ok to tell anyone that they should have sex if they don't already want to.

As far as therapy goes, they'll never get anywhere unless they discuss the underlying cause of one or both partners doesn't want to have sex in the first place.

[Elle]

With how much she churches pound the evils of sexual enjoyment, I think it can be good to say that enjoyment for both partners is good, but to demand people have sex is just...is he TRYING to make it a chore?

[CynicMom]

My first reaction was "seven days of sex???? Even a porn star would be exhausted after a few hours....."

[Deleted07]

lie back and think of Jeebus! :roll:

[debrand]

With Brewer's help and a complex series of business creations and transactions, Young is now jetting around the country in a French-made Falcon 50 private jet; estimated value, $8.4 million.

Records obtained by News 8 indicate Fellowship Church became the operator of the jet in March of 2007. News 8 discovered the jet parked in a hangar at Alliance Airport north of Fort Worth, tucked away where only a select few can see it.

Those who hear him preach every Sunday have never been told about the aircraft.

"The staff members are told that there is no plane, and several staff members who have actually been on the plane have denied that there is a plane," said the former employee source.

He has a private jet and his staff is willing to lie for him. Yeah.

[helloemi]

They copied my church and made it fundie!

The pastor and wife wrote a book about their struggle and challenges related to infidelity and how they restored trust through intimacy, leading the church in the 30 day sex challenge. We are a very progressive accepting church...so this wasn't done in a creepy fundie way. The sermons just tend to be "interactive" and touch on topics most Christians are uncomfortable with. We were recently challenged to train for a 5k.

Google Relevent Church Tampa...there was a scary amount of press...

Aaaaaany ways! I think that when the church focuses on sex as the physical act = CREEPY

But the act of love between a couple that helps build a spiritual connection is ok...if that makes sense.