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I've never seen a person with a stutter improve over time without speech therapy, or at least regular exercises. Never. I think they need to work with many specialists using many different techniques before they write the poor kid off and leave her in God's hands.

I guess I give her points for trying to be honest and admitting she has problems. It's just very unfortunate that she sees her 'problem' children as the issue, rather than her, her husband, their methods and so forth. I hope her kids never read her blog.

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I was rather concerned in reading FloraPoste's initial post - had Natalie written that she did have 3 normal kids and 5 freaks, that would be horrible indeed! However, as FloraPoste mentioned in a follow up comment, she didn't write that....she just wrote "We do have three children that, so far, seem to be your average, run of the mill children, for which we are certainly thankful. : ) (Well…is anyone really “normal�)" And, incidentally, FloraPoste.....was that "Well, is anyone really "normal"?" there when you read it the first time, or did she add it perhaps after reading here? It looks like she might have just added it.

I would agree with Feberin that she seems thankful that her other kids don't have problems for their own welfare. Who would want any child to have horrific stuttering problems, or Tourette's, or Asperger's? Not because these things make anyone less of a person or a more "challenging" person, but because they make life more challenging for the person. And life is hard enough as it is.

Also, I didn't read that DD/special needs = besetting sin. She mentioned besetting sin in the context of her and her husband's tendency to stubborness and selfishness; and she then said *all* her children (not just the ones with special needs) have their own sins as well.

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I get upset when people give up on needed therapies because they didn't work immediately. No matter how much of an inconvenience it is for you, you need to stick with it. It might take months or even years to work, but it will work in the end. My son had to be in orthotic gear for an issue he had. It took 6 months for the issue to be corrected (and that's not even a long time). It was very discouraging to go into the orthotics office every month and find that some months there had been no improvement. We were told that he would need to be in the device for 3 months. It took nearly double that time frame. No matter how discouraging it was at times, we stuck with it and eventually the problem was corrected. I would never give up on my son the way this woman gave up on her daughter. Shame on her.

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QuoVadis, yes, the "Well, is anyone really "normal"" was added later. I copied and pasted from the original. Thanks for pointing out the change.

I am glad that Natalie sees the wisdom of consulting professionals (though giving up on the stuttering seems questionable) and is open to ideas like the storybook (though not choices for kids).

I admit my ideas of what it's OK to share about other people who have not signed on to share their lives on the Internet are pretty stringent. I also just hate it when parents talk about their kids' problems and failures and foibles while the kids are standing right there, and this seems similar to that.

I guess I would have just said, "we've had difficulty getting our 8 year old to do her chores. Some kids with atypical brains have problems with transitions, or breaking down tasks into smaller steps. We tried something that seems to be working..." and ditch the part where she's been a constant source of worry and frustration for the past 7 years.

I think Persuaded is a good example of how to talk about this stuff on a blog, actually.

And like I say, my daughter's perspective is "Don't blog about me!" I'm sure Natalie would tell me I'm a horrible parent for respecting her wishes and allowing her the choice of what gets shared about her to the whole wide world.

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I've never seen a person with a stutter improve over time without speech therapy, or at least regular exercises. Never.

I have... my sister. She was finally dismissed after three years of speech therapy because they decided she didn't have a stuttering problem, she had a "thinking" problem, in that she was incredibly intelligent, and she couldn't put her thoughts into words fast enough, hence the stuttering. They thought the therapy was actually making it worse by calling attention to it, making her nervous, etc. They told her she would just outgrow it (possibly to un-stigmatize it for her? I don't know, I was young myself) and lo and behold, she did.

Given that some of this woman's children have been diagnosed with Asperger's, and those children are often highly intelligent, plus being a middle child in a large family, it does sound like it could be a problem similar to my sister's.

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