Lina's barf worthy 1 month anniversary post

[skankbiscuit]

She's what, nineteen - at that age, many kids are still at the peak of special snowflake-ness. Self-centered as a gyroscope, too. Rejected the bad and worldy habits of her parents, who might have tried to tell her a thing or two about real life. So she's sitting in her little me-myself-and TT-bubble of a cinnamon-scented flat, possibly bored out of her skull, with nothing much to do but enough internet time to glorify it.

Give her some months, and then either she'll be pregnant and have much more work and much less time to be a saintly little helpmeet in or she'll be fed up with the role and find another hobby. Maybe a job?

NB: But her prose is priceless:

"Today is another beautiful day in the life of a joy-filled homemaker. My house smells like pumpkins and cinnamon, and the piano music in the background fills the atmosphere with a sense of peace and tranquility. I am still in my pajamas, but that's okay..."

Perhaps this is where the disconnect is for me. At 19 I was in the Air Force, living overseas, married, getting my degree, and still cooked and cleaned. I was actually a grown up. :D

[SweetTexasCrude]

I followed the 'homemaking' tag to see what else she's written on the subject and came across this gem (asetapartlife.blogspot.com/2010/10/challenge-persian-rice.html):

This was actually my second time making Persian rice...The tortilla triangles on the crust were supposed to be arranged in the shape of the Star of David. Unfortunately, it didn't quite work out. Oh well, at least the rice was good!

Is that not the most Linaesque dish possible? Persian rice with tortillas arranged like a Star of David. Just throwing cultures together all over the place!

[annalena]

Wow, "life is busy"? Really, Lina? How so?

Seems to me you're enjoying the upsides of not having to work- which is okay!- but please don't brag about being the perfect homemaker, when all you really do is sit in front of the computer in your PJs and chat to your friends (or whatever. look at home porn).

You could get all this done before 10 am, considering the time you get up, don't remember who mentioned this, but the poster is right.

[atheistjd]

i was tempted to try and i found it via google. It linked me to a post from May.

Wait, what?!? Lina and Love cannot beat teh internet? :shock: :roll:

[atheistjd]

Wow, "life is busy"? Really, Lina? How so?

Seems to me you're enjoying the upsides of not having to work- which is okay!- but please don't brag about being the perfect homemaker, when all you really do is sit in front of the computer in your PJs and chat to your friends (or whatever. look at home porn).

You could get all this done before 10 am, considering the time you get up, don't remember who mentioned this, but the poster is right.

I could get a lot more than than done before 10 am, and I don't usually get up till 7:30... :whistle:

[annalena]

I could get a lot more than than done before 10 am, and I don't usually get up till 7:30... :whistle:

Well, let's face it, what is it that she is doing?

Making breakfast, probably consisting of pouring cereal into a bowl or making smoothies. She cleans up the kitchen (not much cleaning up to do), lights the candles, cleans. Cleaning is really sufficent once a week. Basically, she spends the day in her PJs, reading and surfing the internet. Occasionally, other demanding tasks like menu-planning.

Cooking when she feels like it.

There's nothing wrong with enjoying the upsides of being a SAH....Wife? , as long as your husband is happy to be the only one making money, but please don't brag.

[atheistjd]

Well, let's face it, what is it that she is doing?

Making breakfast, probably consisting of pouring cereal into a bowl or making smoothies. She cleans up the kitchen (not much cleaning up to do), lights the candles, cleans. Cleaning is really sufficent once a week. Basically, she spends the day in her PJs, reading and surfing the internet. Occasionally, other demanding tasks like menu-planning.

Cooking when she feels like it.

There's nothing wrong with enjoying the upsides of being a SAH....Wife? , as long as your husband is happy to be the only one making money, but please don't brag.

Agreed. Anyone who has had to work or attend an actual (demanding) institute of higher education while supporting themselves (that is key, obviously) views this post as bragging. Our dear sweet, delicate Lina is actually pretending to (or actually - which would be much more disturbing) COMPLAIN :roll:

She thinks her life is busy, being a SAHW is hard, her "duties" are time-consuming. I doubt she even thinks she is bragging (other than to extoll the virtues of the lifestyle). :doh:

[Confused_by_religion]

Perhaps this is where the disconnect is for me. At 19 I was in the Air Force, living overseas, married, getting my degree, and still cooked and cleaned. I was actually a grown up. :D

Good for you...wow, this must have been a lot of hard work!

I was, basically, Lina minus the religious fanaticism. I know, it hurts to admit this, but my post-puberty brain didn't reboot until I was about 23. So I think I "get" her quaint little ways.

[Aurora]

Agreed. Anyone who has had to work or attend an actual (demanding) institute of higher education while supporting themselves (that is key, obviously) views this post as bragging. Our dear sweet, delicate Lina is actually pretending to (or actually - which would be much more disturbing) COMPLAIN :roll:

She thinks her life is busy, being a SAHW is hard, her "duties" are time-consuming. I doubt she even thinks she is bragging (other than to extoll the virtues of the lifestyle). :doh:

Seriously. When she is done cutting up her bananas, can she please come to my place and do my laundry and dishes, which I can never, ever keep up with, and make it smell like pumpkins and cinnamon? Pretty please?

[UmmSqueakster]

Celebrated our 6 year anniversary on Friday.

Our first month of marriage:

*Husband immigrated to United States.

*Ramadan began, so we fast from food and water from sun up to sun down.

*Worked full time, and attend school half time. Sometimes come home at 10 pm, only to have to be to work the next day at 7:30.

*Got married.

*Filed paperwork for green card.

*Helped husband navigate a new country - transportation, english lessons, internship, how to look for a job (which is still an ongoing process, even all these years later. Moving to a new country is hard yo).

And when I had energy, I cooked and cleaned. We ate a lot a lot of rice a roni and hamburger helper those first 2 years (as our dual weight gain of close to 100lbs can attest to). And when that was done, we took some lovey dovey walks.

Yup, that was exhausting.

[emmyfair]

Her sweet home is filled with the tranquil and enticing aroma of peaceful odors which emanate through, from, and around those who love God. How good it is to do a little laundry, and accomplish all the tasks that a lovely stay-at-home wife is called to do! Truly an abundance of perfect blessings await those who send their sweet husbands off to work with a plentitude of nourishing food in their bellies! And those who spend some time reflecting on her husband's likes and dislikes will be rewarded in a multiplicity of ways which none can fathom!

If I ever turn out like this for some reason, I give permission to everyone I know to get in my jeep and run me over.

[Confused_by_religion]

If I ever turn out like this for some reason, I give permission to everyone I know to get in my jeep and run me over.

I think the risk for you isn't high - you've got to embrace our inner 50s home economics geek and really work at your saintliness. This doesn't just happen by chance. :-)

[emmyfair]

I think the risk for you isn't high - you've got to embrace our inner 50s home economics geek and really work at your saintliness. This doesn't just happen by chance. :-)

I am greatly comforted. Thank you! :)

[kayray]

In addition to all the other well-justified comments above; I wanted to say:

You do not have a "one month anniversary". An anniversary by definition celebrates a past event that occurred on the same day of the year as the initial event.

Just a huge pet peeve of mine. I am all for celebrating dates that are important, just don't call them anniversaries when they are not anniversaries.

ETA as I could not ignore it:

Also, I find it rather horrifying someone needs to "learn their role" as anything. Be you, enjoy being together and witnessing each other, seeing each other as authentic individual beings, and have fun. My stomach turns at the idea she sees "adjusting to his goals and outlook on life" as normal or in any way healthy. What happened to working together to help each other reach your individual goals? What happened to sharing your outlooks with each other and figuring out how to get there? Also, what happened to just sharing your likes and dislikes (each of you!) - not having to "figure them out"! I just cannot even imagine how wholly empty & lonely her marriage and she will be down the road.

She sounds like an errand-girl/hired maid, rather than a wife (whether stay-at-home or not). I really, really see this whole thing ripe for abuse - even if not physical, there is a huge potential of emotional/verbal abuse and manipulation here.

[atheistjd]

In addition to all the other well-justified comments above; I just wanted to say:

You do not have a "one month anniversary". An anniversary by definition celebrates a past event that occurred on the same day of the year as the initial event.

Just a huge pet peeve of mine. I am all for celebrating dates that are important, just don't call them anniversaries when they are not anniversaries.

But when the only thing you have to do that day is a) cut up bananas for smoothies and b) talk about yourself, it sounds so much better when you can add "celebrate an anniversary" to that list once a month ;)

Plus, "mensiversary" just doesn't have the same ring to it, and, especially for those who observe niddah, doesn't sound nearly as appealing :mrgreen:

[kayray]

But when the only thing you have to do that day is a) cut up bananas for smoothies and b) talk about yourself, it sounds so much better when you can add "celebrate an anniversary" to that list once a month ;)

Plus, "mensiversary" just doesn't have the same ring to it, and, especially for those who observe niddah, doesn't sound nearly as appealing :mrgreen:

I don't know, I am sure Lina could blog about the "mensiversary" being some truly long forgotten Jewish observance that she alone on her mountain still takes care to honour and recognize.

[skankbiscuit]

The fact that I find the fact she is having a 1 month anniverary so boring and un-noteworthy I suggest we call it a "meh-nniversary" :lol:

[kayray]

The fact that I find the fact she is having a 1 month anniverary so boring and un-noteworthy I suggest we call it a "meh-nniversary" :lol:

:lol:

[slickcat79]

7 times she write my Husband. Good Lord, we get it your are married! Plus, as we thought she is mainly sitting in her pajamas reading and playing on the computer. I am home sick today, but I was up by 6:22 and dressed before 8:30. I honestly think, like Anna T., Lina couldn't work outside the home and keep up with maintaining the home. You aren't holy girls, you are kind of lazy. I do more before 10:00 AM than you do all day.

I actually went back and skimmed the other entries on the first page, and she has only referred to him by name once since they were married; otherwise it's all "my husband"

Honestly, being an observant Jew has never sounded appealing to me, but Lina manages to make it sound like an absolute nightmare. I really do not understand her motivations at all.

[prairiemuffin]

Ok, so am I right in understanding that even though she and hubby are practicing Judaisim for all intents and purposes, they aren't actualy Jewish? Sorry, this is a blog I don't follow-and it was damn hard to even make it through the first couple pages.

I don't get it. I don't get this whole Messianic Jew thing. You're either Jewish or your'e not. Is it just the speshul little snowflake factor again?

[Shirley MacLaine]

I barely do anything other than fill out job applications and hang out with my boyfriend, but it's hardly worth blogging about that I managed to get up in the morning and straighten up my apartment or go to the library or whatever.

[Nurse Jenna]

Quote: “I am still getting used to my role as help meet to my husband, learning what he likes and dislikes, and adjusting to his goals and outlook on life.â€

I liken Lina to a tofu in a sense that just like the tofu takes on flavor(s) of the other components of the dish, Lina takes on, absorbs, and integrates the attitudes, mannerisms of other people who happen to be around her. How bloody sad is that? With all these “adjustments†I bet even she doesn’t know who she is anymore.

BTW “my husband†was mentioned seven times and if I was drinking something stronger then tea there would be dancing on the table top just about now. :lol:

[Dev83]

I don't think busy means what she thinks it means.

Seriously, she does not go to school, work or have children. I worked 55 hours last week AND go to school full time. Yet still had time to do laundry, take the dog to the dog park and have brunch (with the ebil champagne) with my family over the weekend. Suck it, Lina.

[emmiedahl]

I must be the only one who thought "Kama Sutra" when she was talking about learning his likes and dislikes. :twisted:

Seriously, Lina just described the most lazy day of an adult's existence. Doesn't that sound like a normal sick day? Except in my case, replace the piano music with Steve Wilkos.

If you want to be a Jewish woman, sweetheart, you need to learn this thing called a work ethic. I doubt TT makes enough to support a family, so you will soon be among the majority of Jewish women who work (or secretly on eleventyzillion different kinds of assistance while blogging about how welfare is of the devil). The only difference will be that A. they have an education, and B. they are actually Jewish.

[annalena]

Y'know Lina,

if I could afford it, I might (?) enjoy being a SAHW.

I'd pay someone else to clean my house, get up around 830, have a lovely breakfast, might even cut some bananas for a smoothie, will meet friends for lunch, play all sport that I like to play, maybe get engaged in charity work.

Perfect plan when I'm about 60.

There's nothing wrong with you enjoying it now. But please, be sincere. Tell us you like it so much because you get to enjoy life and don't have too much to take care of. Not because it's "God's plan" and you're "happy to follow it".

Btw- I was full time in school, working about 15-20 hours a week, managing my own home and roommate (which was a challenge), boyfriend, and doing competitive sports that involved extensive training about 4 times a week when I was not much older than you, while dealing with extremely difficult parents.

I didn't make my home smell like pumpkins, but I think I still managed it pretty well.