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My husband and I met online. I highly recommend it for anyone really. It’s so hard to meet other single people otherwise. Back when I turned to online dating, I had so many bad experiences dating someone in my friend group that then made friends choose sides. Or even dating someone I worked with. That made things so awkward. I decided after that I never wanted to date someone like that again because it made things way too messy. Dating online was great. If I we ended up calling it quits after a few weeks, I didn’t have to face him at work or at a friend’s party ever again. It made things much less messy. Plus it helps you to look around some dating profiles and realize what you want in a partner. 

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Maybe I’m just being overly negative (I have a tendency to be like that) but I’m wary of online dating. For someone with absolutely zero experience like me, I don’t know if it’d be the best idea. Plus I’ve heard too many horror stories to be entirely comfortable with it, for myself. I understand plenty of people do meet their spouses online and have a great relationship. 

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12 hours ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

My husband and I met online. I highly recommend it for anyone really.

I second this recommendation! My fiance and I met on Bumble. We are both in our late 30's, so were in our mid 30's when we met, and were both past the point of wanting to go out to bars, clubs, restaurants, etc., and meet people. I won't sugar coat it- I met quite a few duds online, as well as some nice guys who it didn't work out with for one reason or another, but I ended up hitting the jackpot with my fiance! We've been engaged for a few years and are in no rush to get married- we've already purchased a house together and adopted a dog. I went through many bad relationships in my 20's and early 30's and finding someone online just worked for me. You could ask a lot of questions/chat about stuff before even meeting in person and it was the best way for me to meet someone outside of my friend/colleague circle.

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12 hours ago, mango_fandango said:

Maybe I’m just being overly negative (I have a tendency to be like that) but I’m wary of online dating. For someone with absolutely zero experience like me, I don’t know if it’d be the best idea. Plus I’ve heard too many horror stories to be entirely comfortable with it, for myself. I understand plenty of people do meet their spouses online and have a great relationship. 

If you aren’t comfortable then don’t do it. But people go at their own pace. And people know how to be safe. I talked to my husband online for weeks before we actually went on a date in a public well lit place. You have to have common sense about it. People who rush into things and don’t use common sense can have major issues. But that’s with any relationship. Whether you met in a bar or online. 

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I didn’t marry until my late 30s. I tried online dating. Did everything you were supposed to do and all the men were freaking disasters. 
Met my husband through a friend. 

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I met my husband online after a few years of good and bad dates. I would generally be willing to meet people if we chatted a few times, but most first meetings were walks at a public park with my 4 dogs. Not a lot of risk for me there.

Husband and I developed a friendship instead of dating for about 7 or 8 months and then transitioned to a romantic relationship so it was very low stress. I liked it because I was sick of meeting guys in bars who always turned out to have drinking problems (shocking, I know).

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I was on a online dating platform where you had to pay, because this means less jerks. But the trick was to make a free account, subscribe to the newsletter and wait for an offer with a huge discount. It wasn‘t for me tough because I always took it personal if I wrote a message to a guy and he wasn‘t interested.

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I will say, I think it can get very complicated to just meet people after joining a job. In school and university you get exposed to many different types of people. You get assigned on projects together. People often pursue hobbies a bit more (weekly sports groups or similar) and have in general more time to just hang out. Friendship circles expand and shrink. You met the friends of friends just like that at parties or when going out. When you pay your own bills, clean your own home, shop, maintain, go to work 5 days a week the time you get to spend with people for fun just gets less and less. And it seems that social bubbles are less open to new people. I don’t know why, it feels as if it doesn’t just happen like that anymore but requires more work. I mean sure if I meet someone new at school/uni/group you will automatically be in the same vicinity. Opportunity makes love is a saying that can be very true. That’s why work romances are such a common thing - people spend lots of time together. But I also completely understand why you wouldn’t want that. 
I definitely envy and admire people that still get to meet lots of new people and find new friends and the time to nurture those friendships. 
Online Dating can definitely help but in regards to what you do it can also put pressure into it. If you look specifically for someone that might be a romantic match the stakes are a bit higher. But I guess that’s true for every situation where finding a partner is the focus? It’s not bad but it’s also not as if you just go to lunch/dinner with someone that you think is nice and funny and then discover there might be more to it. One is a date straight away, the other isn’t in my opinion. 
So to all of you, that find it hard to meet someone: I feel you (I would struggle extremely hard) and I hope you find what you are looking for in a way that you feel comfortable with.

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16 hours ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

My husband and I met online. I highly recommend it for anyone really. It’s so hard to meet other single people otherwise. Back when I turned to online dating, I had so many bad experiences dating someone in my friend group that then made friends choose sides. Or even dating someone I worked with. That made things so awkward. I decided after that I never wanted to date someone like that again because it made things way too messy. Dating online was great. If I we ended up calling it quits after a few weeks, I didn’t have to face him at work or at a friend’s party ever again. It made things much less messy. Plus it helps you to look around some dating profiles and realize what you want in a partner. 

I met my husband on Twitter. A little game a friend did of secret santa in her followers list. He ended up being my secret santa. He had been alone for a long time and me too, he was in another country working but wasn't really happy there and had no friends so he agreed to the secret santa thing and we met (virtually). I was alone for a few years and had the worst dates EVER, then I met him and honestly, the best decision of my life. Online dating worked for me so much better than meeting people on my own/my friends' circles and I agree about calling it quits, much easier for introverts like me, at least it helped with my social anxiety.

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My sister met her husband on Myspace! They had a fairly terrible first date apparently but she gave him a second chance and they've been together maybe 15 years now? 

I am, frankly, not interested in dating anyone right now. But most of my real-life friends I met online first. And the ones I met in person first I keep up with mostly online now. 

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54 minutes ago, Alisamer said:

My sister met her husband on Myspace! They had a fairly terrible first date apparently but she gave him a second chance and they've been together maybe 15 years now? 

I am, frankly, not interested in dating anyone right now. But most of my real-life friends I met online first. And the ones I met in person first I keep up with mostly online now. 

I had one very close friend that I met online years ago. We were both members of a listserv dedicated to a particular author. (List servs were email lists before just about any sort of social media.) She lived in Colorado and I lived in Texas. We had some common interests so we were writing back and forth to each other in private emails. I learned that work was moving me to Colorado and wrote her an email whining about the move. She wrote back "Relax, FiveAcres, I am  sure any place in Colorado beats everywhere in Texas." (She was right.) 

We met physically for the first time after I moved to Colorado and became close friends for over twenty years. She died a few years ago from esophageal  cancer and it was very hard. 

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On 10/15/2021 at 2:07 AM, Bluebirdbluebell said:

I'm older than you and still looking for a partner. Also quite a few people I know met people on-line. I'm glad things worked out for you, but that's not true for everyone. Some people would be happier finding someone on-line and actively looking. Women in particular have been told not pursue men, but let them pursue you.

I see what you mean! There's definitely value in online dating, it just wasn't for me I don't think.

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I just went back on Tinder for the first time since before covid. Now that I live in a red state- as opposed to Seattle- it seems like half the guys on there either have multiple children or are posing in their camo with a dead animal in every one of their pics. It's wild. Crossing my fingers that I meet someone who's more my scene.

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On 10/16/2021 at 8:20 PM, indianabones said:

I just went back on Tinder for the first time since before covid. Now that I live in a red state- as opposed to Seattle- it seems like half the guys on there either have multiple children or are posing in their camo with a dead animal in every one of their pics. It's wild. Crossing my fingers that I meet someone who's more my scene.

I wonder when the COVID widows and widowers with multiple children will start hitting the dating sites. I've heard that there are 140,000 children in the US who have lost one or more caretakers due to the pandemic.

I hope you are able to find some suitable guys. 

 

 

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On 10/14/2021 at 8:27 PM, JermajestyDuggar said:

My husband and I met online. I highly recommend it for anyone really. It’s so hard to meet other single people otherwise. Back when I turned to online dating, I had so many bad experiences dating someone in my friend group that then made friends choose sides. Or even dating someone I worked with. That made things so awkward. I decided after that I never wanted to date someone like that again because it made things way too messy. Dating online was great. If I we ended up calling it quits after a few weeks, I didn’t have to face him at work or at a friend’s party ever again. It made things much less messy. Plus it helps you to look around some dating profiles and realize what you want in a partner. 

I tried Jdate and Bumble. I don't recommend online dating. I guess we all have our own experiences. Or maybe it's the area I'm in. I hated it with a passion. 

On 10/15/2021 at 9:49 AM, louisa05 said:

I didn’t marry until my late 30s. I tried online dating. Did everything you were supposed to do and all the men were freaking disasters. 
Met my husband through a friend. 

There's so many freaks out there online. I was completely turned off by the caliber of men I was looking at. I'd rather meet thru a friend at least you get the real sense of who they are. Going out with a total stranger isn't for me. I need to know someone who knows them.

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Meeting online doesnt always mean it was via a dating site. I think meeting people via twitter, facebook, mutual intrest forums , chatgroups, online games even work better. For example i am a long time  mmorpg player ( multiple)Wich means you end up in a guild with 100 other people usually , or in a specific clan or world. You might be amazed about the great friendships who can be developed there.

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So I’ve noticed Jana has been to several major sports events in the last couple of months. Were the Duggar’s always THAT big into sports? I know the Wissmanns are very athletic and sports oriented, and are big football fans. Could Jana be trying to show that she CAN be sporty and fun, like to convince an ex that he lost out?! Hmmm. 

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I too think it's all off now, but they were definitely an item at Justin and Claire's wedding- Steven's tie matched Jana's dress!

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Although I’m not completely convinced, signs are pointing to a breakup. If so, glad they discovered it wasn’t a good match *before* they went public.

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8 hours ago, Snarkasarus Rex said:

Although I’m not completely convinced, signs are pointing to a breakup. If so, glad they discovered it wasn’t a good match *before* they went public.

I keep waffling back and forth between thinking they broke up or their just keeping it all on the down low. But regardless I think this sighting adds to the evidence that at the very least, at one point they were getting to know each other or courting. 

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I don't think the duggars are good enough at covering their tracks that another more recent sighting of them together has not been tracked down lately, this leads me to believe in a break up. Was the last sighting the one that Laura let out?

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14 minutes ago, AussieKrissy said:

I don't think the duggars are good enough at covering their tracks that another more recent sighting of them together has not been tracked down lately, this leads me to believe in a break up. Was the last sighting the one that Laura let out?

Which one did Laura let out? I’m thinking the last sighting was Fern’s birth video, but I definitely could be wrong. 

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41 minutes ago, kbohn23 said:

Which one did Laura let out? I’m thinking the last sighting was Fern’s birth video, but I definitely could be wrong. 

a sporting event i think but it was before Fern's birth i believe so that puts paid to that. 

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edit to add Fern is only three months old so that to me isn't to long to discount that it has been broken off I am now back on the speculation bus, when I thought it had been longer I thought they were over.
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To be fair, the wiseman family band was pretty busy performing in early July, mid-August, and all of September. And Jana traveled for the home show thingy and the conference at mcauthurs church in California. 

The wissman blog is still private. 

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