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On 10/15/2021 at 4:14 PM, SuperNova said:

I see it's already been covered but I'm going to post her bullshit anyway. How, HOW can she be so openly resentful to her children? This isn't normal or relatable to parents with a healthy life balance. She's posting this shit to other overwhelmed, drowning mothers and saying it's totally cool to feel personally attacked by your children. I have no idea what kind of fucked up mindset breeds these types of ideas.

I really dislike using the word hate but I hate the message here with every fiber of my being. Abbie is projecting herself and trying to normalize resentment towards helpless little people

 

Actually, I disagree. I don't believe in taking a toxic positivity mindset when it comes to parenting, and that's the approach I've seen from Braggie most (I love my kids. They are a gift, etc). It's important for both parents (mothers AND fathers) to "be real" and vent their frustrations. It's also not OK to judge women who feel resentful and susceptible to PPD.

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1 hour ago, SassyPants said:

Too many people and moving parts and too little time really work against them. I do cut Shaun a bit of slack as he does have a job that supports the whole circus.

True, and in their subculture that is his entire required contribution. Also it's a real job, not another useless "ministry" so points for that.

I do wonder if he actually is done with it though - it must be exhausting just with the constant disrupted sleep.

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OK, this shows how out of touch she really is. IN todays WAW questions on IG, someone asked about teens and electronics and she said the following: Her 15 and 13 YOs only have phones that are attached to their Apple Watches and IPads are only used with permission, after 3 PM. So her young teens have Apple Watches with IPhones (are cheap phones compatible with Apple Watches?)She is so full of shit. So her kids have access to all the fancy expen$Ive electronics like many other upper, middle class kids.

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3 minutes ago, SassyPants said:

OK, this shows how out of touch she really is. IN todays WAW questions on IG, someone asked about teens and electronics and she said the following: Her 15 and 13 YOs only have phones that are attached to their Apple Watches and IPads are only used with permission, after 3 PM. So her young teens have Apple Watches with IPhones (are cheap phones compatible with Apple Watches?)She is so full of shit. So her kids have access to all the fancy expen$Ive electronics like many other upper, middle class kids.

She might think she monitors them enough but I’m sure they are still saying or doing things online she wouldn’t agree with. Even PP and Zoo realized their kids found ways to chat unmonitored with their friends. 

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She might think she monitors them enough but I’m sure they are still saying or doing things online she wouldn’t agree with. Even PP and Zoo realized their kids found ways to chat unmonitored with their friends. 

Think she has the “Covenant Eyes” installed? 😂

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15 minutes ago, SassyPants said:

OK, this shows how out of touch she really is. IN todays WAW questions on IG, someone asked about teens and electronics and she said the following: Her 15 and 13 YOs only have phones that are attached to their Apple Watches and IPads are only used with permission, after 3 PM. So her young teens have Apple Watches with IPhones (are cheap phones compatible with Apple Watches?)She is so full of shit. So her kids have access to all the fancy expen$Ive electronics like many other upper, middle class kids.

I would think if they have Apple Watches, they have iphones. Might be older ones, though. Probably when it came time for mom and dad to upgrade the kids got the old ones. That's how most teens I know get their phones.

Frankly if I had a kid and the money I might buy them an Apple Watch if I thought they'd not lose or break it. If it's registered under the family's account she can find where they are by tracking the watch (or phone), but the reason I'd get it is for safety - Apple Watches have fall detection and can send emergency texts out to contacts if, say, they are in a car crash or fall off a bike or something and are unresponsive. And for teens who are in activities, sports, driving, etc. I would want them to at least have a phone. Her kids go to the gym with her too, so their watches will track their exercise and heart rate and all that. 

So I can see having electronics. Heck, recently at the beach we lost track of our mother in a Walmart buying groceries and I tracked her down with the airtag I'd put on the keys to the rental house. Glad I put it on there too, those keys got misplaced a few times while we were there! 

So as far as electronics go, sounds like her kids are pretty normal and average for their lifestyle. Oh no! Now she'll have to do something to make them ~unique~ and special in some way!

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Her kids have the same stuff every kid in my upper middle class neighborhood has. Some have Apple, some have Android. Around here, kids as young as 8 have phones if for no other reason than being able to track them. 

She is SO not special. 

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Good gravy, even the summary of her book is insufferable!

I find it interesting that Braggie fits more into the ‘mediocre motherhood’ category she rails against rather than the ‘Christ-like motherhood’ she espouses. 🤔

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Her last post was her raving on and on about how she loves her kids SO much and she's SO lucky to be their mother.  Keep trying to convince yourself, maybe one day you'll believe it.

I have never, in my entire life, seen anyone use the term "rad" as much as she does.  The fact that she's a 39yo mother who uses it all the time takes the cringe factor into another dimension.

ETA: in her stories she posted a selfie of herself and Della and called Della her "mini-me."  I don't see that at all, I think Della looks mostly like Shaun.

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Is there ever a group photo where she isn’t dead center? 
I’m probably in the minority here, but it really bugs when all these prolific pro creators make such a huge deal out of spending 1:1 time with individual kids outside the home. If everything child related requires a big, choreographed production to make memories, you have too many kids - It’s seems nothing is ever genuine or spontaneous.

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2 hours ago, danvillebelle said:

Her last post was her raving on and on about how she loves her kids SO much and she's SO lucky to be their mother.  Keep trying to convince yourself, maybe one day you'll believe it.

I have never, in my entire life, seen anyone use the term "rad" as much as she does.  The fact that she's a 39yo mother who uses it all the time takes the cringe factor into another dimension.

ETA: in her stories she posted a selfie of herself and Della and called Della her "mini-me."  I don't see that at all, I think Della looks mostly like Shaun.

I’ve said this many times but we are the same age. I have plenty of friends that are our age. And literally no one uses the word rad. Not one. She probably thinks it makes you unique and hip. It is cringe.

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I think what makes the shuffling videos the most cringe worthy is the fact that you can tell she thinks she’s the star of the show with how seriously she takes it. Lighten up and actually have a little fun while doing something like that with your kid! 

Also, has anyone ever mentioned she is a dead ringer for the evil Mother Gothel character from Tangled?

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She's also a dead ringer for Cinderella's stepmother with that giant crooked eyebrow.  She's got the evil Disney mother look down pat.

ETA: she should start another MLM hair care line - $99 for a bottle of shampoo that lasts a year because it only gets used once every two weeks.  She could call it - TANGLED. 🤣

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I'm still wondering why it is considered "bad" to admit that being a parent is HARD. I mean, yeah, it sucks at times, just trying to keep a small human alive, fed, dressed, and reasonably clean is a never-ending task. Add in entertaining said small human, teaching the small human and trying to get them to sleep and well...it's a bitch. 

Then there's the tweens, they're snarly, roll their eyes, get attitudes and can be generally unpleasant.

Then there's the teens, they think they're grown.

Then there's the empty nest where you'd love to do it all over again because the quiet is too much to bear. 

Saturday night, I was out with my kids and grandkids. It was like being in the middle of a three stooges movie, as they tried to decide where to go, what to do, keep track of itty-bitty who would NOT stay in her stroller and all I could do was smile and laugh. It brought back memories of taking my kids, as little ones, to an amusement park near my house. It was like herding kittens, damn near impossible to keep them going all in the same direction. Day to day responsibility for anything sucks, it's boring as hell, it's routine. BUT...the memories of the love, the laughter, the silly and goofy, and maybe even some of the hard times stay with you and seem to be the things that bind that family together. Go ahead and admit that being a mom can suck. I DO remember being covered in baby puke from my power-puker. I DO remember having a snot line on my pants about 6" above my knees where the kids would come and rub their noses on me. Looking back now, I know, yes, my power-puker barfed all over me, but I was the one who held him, cuddled him, cleaned him up and fed him again. Yes, the toddler set used my pants instead of kleenex, but, they knew that mommy was there and mommy would wash the snot off the little faces and not have a fit over the boogers. Then there were the bigger kids and the bigger hurts and the tears that soaked my shoulders (and occasionally a little snot), and the kids knew that mom was there. Even now, they know mom is here. mom still has shoulders to cry on, ears to listen to their frustrations, arms to hug them. 

Parenting can be aggravating, frustrating and is a job you can never retire from...But, if you let yourself roll with it, it's some of the most fun you can have with your clothes on. 

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I firmly believe that Braggie will never admit that any part of parenting is/was fun.  Look how she is now with Shiloh and the current crying babies and how much she really really really really doesn't want twins. 

Braggie lives to be a martyr, so to her hardisthesameasgood. Good in the sense that the world will see how hard her life is, how painful the pregnancies, what a selfless martyr she is, what a wonderful mother she is because she endures all the hardness and pain and crying and twins, and martyrdom because Jesus. 

Braggie will not have happy fun memories of motherhood because to her it's not happy, none of it At. All. Ever.

I doubt seriously her children will have any fun memories of their childhoods with their buzzkill, suck out the all the joy, M is for Martyr mother.

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15 minutes ago, Red Hair, Black Dress said:

I firmly believe that Braggie will never admit that any part of parenting is/was fun.  Look how she is now with Shiloh and the current crying babies and how much she really really really really doesn't want twins. 

Braggie lives to be a martyr, so to her hardisthesameasgood. Good in the sense that the world will see how hard her life is, how painful the pregnancies, what a selfless martyr she is, what a wonderful mother she is because she endures all the hardness and pain and crying and twins, and martyrdom because Jesus. 

Braggie will not have happy fun memories of motherhood because to her it's not happy, none of it At. All. Ever.

I doubt seriously her children will have any fun memories of their childhoods with their buzzkill, suck out the all the joy, M is for Martyr mother.

My mom can be a martyr at times. She’s definitely not like Braggie because she’s not narcissistic. But she does take on a lot in her life and she’s never had it super easy. She would have no idea what to do with herself if she wasn’t constantly caring for others and giving a lot of herself. I remind myself that she chooses this. So when she complains, I know it’s just part of who she is. 

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Abbie's best memories of her children growing up, will be the times, she was complemented on her kids as an extension of Abbie, the times she got attention for having so many kids, the times people gushed over how trim she is after having so many kids, all the times people asked her for advice cause "She is an amazing Mom". Basically, what her kids bring her in attention are the best part, not the actual human kids. It's not that parenting can be hard that is the issue, the issue is the kids aren't actors who go somewhere else when they aren't needed "on set" or doing something that meets Abbie's needs. If there was a world Abbie could have hired all the kids and possibly Shaun to show up, film the fantasy, and occasionally go out for live appearances for people to faun over Abbie, I think she would be all over that. In fact I wish there was a world like that, do the kids could go home and actually get real love.

 

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Two very telling items where Abbie's narcissism is on full display:

1. On one of her family pictures in stories, Shiloh is being silly (i.e., a normal 2yo) and her comment was "I feel like Shiloh is stealing the show here!"  Gosh Braggie, is that a tough situation for you?  She also said "I actually had someone ask if he is disabled because he's always being held in family photos.  No, but he is a runner so it's a good idea during pictures to keep him contained."  IOW: taking the same boring family picture in the same spot week after week is more important to me than letting my 2yo do what he needs to do (burn off energy and be happy).

2. She took a selfie of her reflection in her dryer door at 9:45 pm.  Flexing her biceps.  Tell us again, Braggie, how your IG presence is "a ministry." 🙄

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On 10/24/2021 at 8:55 PM, danvillebelle said:

She's also a dead ringer for Cinderella's stepmother with that giant crooked eyebrow.  She's got the evil Disney mother look down pat.

ETA: she should start another MLM hair care line - $99 for a bottle of shampoo that lasts a year because it only gets used once every two weeks.  She could call it - TANGLED. 🤣

And it comes with a dirty plastic fork for detangling on the go

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On 10/22/2021 at 11:06 PM, danvillebelle said:

Her last post was her raving on and on about how she loves her kids SO much and she's SO lucky to be their mother.  Keep trying to convince yourself, maybe one day you'll believe it.

Ah, so she’s been reading here again and taking on board our “feedback” about how she bitches and moans about her kids being kids, and seems to openly hate them.

Hi Abbie. Get off Instagram and enjoy some time with those kids you are so lucky to have, look for the things that make them unique individuals who add joy and value to the world, and not just to your life by bringing you attention.

Also, Shaun does not get cut any slack from me. He continues to irresponsibly ejaculate and does not engage with the resulting children. Having a job makes him better than Jim Bob but that’s a really low bar.

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Today she was shilling some skin care device, demonstrating it on her IG-filtered face.  LOL  

She also mentioned in a slide that Harvest House told her that her book's pre-order launch is one of the most successful they've ever had.  Sweet Rufus, she is going to be even more insufferable when that book comes out and starts selling. 

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She keeps talk about a weekly meal guide. I have never seen any indication that AH is a decent cook with a varied palate. Why would anyone need a meal guide from her? It seems like all they eat is chicken and ground turkey, cook ahead/dump (all products in a frying pan) or casseroles. Maybe she keeps prompting because no one is asking for her guides? 

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27 minutes ago, SassyPants said:

I have never seen any indication that AH is a decent cook with a varied palate.

Indeed.  By her own admission and from things she's posted, Simon passed her up in the cooking skills dept. long ago.

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My response to AH’s most current IG- GET A SENSE OF HUMOR AND STOP BEING SO THIN SKINNED! Got she is an insufferable twat; continually looking for reasons to be offended or a victim. 

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