Jump to content
IGNORED

Justin and Claire 3: Always Beige


Coconut Flan

Recommended Posts

15 hours ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

I was watching a true crime show (because I watch way too much) and there was a story where a wife lost well over 100lbs through her workout class. She gained so much confidence and was happier with herself. Her husband ended up killing her. He wanted an overweight, depressed wife with no confidence. 

I watch and read so much true crime that I knew immediately you meant Heather from Tennessee. Yeah, sad case. Now two kids don’t have a mom & their dad’s in jail for life. 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

On 10/19/2021 at 8:09 PM, marmalade said:

Was he Dudley Do Right? One of the Howlers posted reviews using that moniker.

I thought Canada was the land of sinful liberals with that government Healthcare that kills babies and puts old people on igloos!!

 

(Half Canadian myself and I realized we entered into the idiot version of the Twilight Zone back when alt rightest bros claimed they'd be moving to Canada/Australia/New Zealand when Obama won in 2008 and 2012.... hahaha have fun with GST, universal healthcare and a government that believes in science Duglets)

Link to comment
Share on other sites

On 10/20/2021 at 4:06 PM, CaptainFunderpants said:

People have different values and prioritize them differently. For me if someone isn't physically fit, it's a total non-starter.

My respective S/Os and I always have spoken openly about body fat percentage and I always date people where neither one of us is shy about mentioning it and how we mutually have zero desire to date an overweight, let alone obese, person.

If my guy gains weight, I expect him to max out at 20%, while I max out at 30%. Most would consider that merely "pudgy" and so it can be fixed within a few weeks. His typical body fat is 8-13 and mine is 18-23, respectively. And meds aren't an excuse for more than a couple of weeks; if I'm on a short round of Prednisone, then 10lbs of weight gain is fine but it's lost promptly; if it's a longer protocol, then I make sure to portion my food and up my exercise. My face still gets puffy, but the rest of my measurements remain the same.

The difference between a spouse and a plain old best friend is the desire to get in their pants. If they gain a bunch of weight and I'm not attracted to them for six+ months, it's probably over. And a non-weight physical disability is fine; he could lose a leg or an arm or an eye or become paralyzed and I'd be fine with it as long as fitness was still a priority.

Wow. Again you do you boo but what happens if you're at 19% or 31% is it suddenly game over?

I was a D1 college scholarship athlete and when I was ranked top 2 nationally and top in the state, I was 6' 3" and 125 lbs. Yes fitness mattered obviously I was a 41'+ triple jumper. 21' long jumper and my worst event 5' 8" high jumper by 16. I ran a sub 25 200 m which would have been top 3 or 4 at our state meet but wasn't allowed to run it because unless you were top 1 or 2 nationally you may as well have been an elementary school field day participant to our coach. We were all women of color from inner city and inner ring suburb public schools, all first generation college potentially and our cosch was the most ghetto tough hardass who grew up in the local black neighborhood in the 40s and 50s. He got girls out of gangs, cut girls weave and snapped off extra long acrylics to teach us to value ourselves as strong women of color (I'm Native background, the rest of my teammates were African American/black). Yes he pushed us, yes even winning nationals but failing to come close to a PR was degraded as failure. But he knew what our options were and acetic scholarships were the only way out and he pushed us because he cared. If he ignored you that's when you knew you were SOL. Allyson Felix was one of my youth club teammates for example.

Point is I promise I come from a much higher level background of athletic accomplishment than a lot of the current trendy social media "fitness" influencers. But despite hitting the right body fat percentage the USATF national coach wanted us, it was something like 10% at 17 or below, despite having an incredibly structured two a day plyo, bounds, sprints and lifting based expertise program that was calibrated for the USATF Olympic Team, I wouldn't call that healthy in retrospect. I was already prequaled at 17 for USATF Outdoor Nationals which is the Olympic Trials qualifying meet. I wound up with shattered bones because of degenerative cartilage in my jump foot weeks before the meet. Too get hurt that bad,  not healthy. Trust me, looking at pictures of me b then are scary. But by all definitions of legit high level athletics I was. Allyson and my other teammates who actually went on to succeed internationally would be considered unattractive and worth breaking up with for being unfit by your arbitrary numbers.

I get it, it was an attitude that fucked with me immensely. I'm 33 now and at 6' 3" with an 8 year old and in the last 4 years 2 late term miscarriages I had to get over feeling disgusted by my body. I'm still in the middle of a healthy weight BMI wise. I'm far from in a good place about it but I've at least been moving in a positive direction.

So much of the hip "fitness" craze is just body dysmorphia with nonsense as a rational. I've had so many instafitness friends lecture me about proper warm ups and running form I honestly have to laugh. But when I see people regurgitating ridiculous specifics about BMI or body fat as though those exact numbers are legit measures of not just health but worth? That's painful.

Getting out and moving and having fun and eating healthy balanced meals (trust me if you're not training for Olympic you don't need special supplements and all the other nonsense that's just money making grab) thats important. I ski, snowboard, surf, whitewater kayak and raft, swim, hike, skateboard, longboard, etc. Yes obesity causes health problems. But to not only believe that these specific percentages of body fat, which are actually just as unreliable by race, build and your specific sport/event, is not only a sign of whether you're fit or not but the make-or-break of whether you're physically attractive or not....

Whatever community you're involved in thats telling you thats what fitness is is wrong. I'm sorry you're being told this and have internalized it and have a partner who determines your value from it as well.

 

And you use prednizone as the only example for why no medication should ever make you fat if you're fit. Try atypical antopsychotics, try hormone adjustments for everything from endometriosis to PCOS. How about hypothyroidism. The list goes on. 

 

Yes, by and large a controlled but healthy diet with exercise will result in weight loss. But that doesn't mean that specific numbers of body fat either mean you're fit and attractive or a fat slob, even if it's 30% v 31%. I hope you can find your worth and learn that fitness isn't based on ridiculous standardized numbers like that.

 

  • Upvote 24
  • Thank You 1
  • Love 24
Link to comment
Share on other sites

If anyone is interested, the Maintenance Phase podcast has a great episode about BMI and how it was never a great measurement and never designed to be used the way it is used.

  • Upvote 11
  • I Agree 3
  • Thank You 1
  • Love 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Justin has an Instagram story up about a video coming from them tomorrow.  I'd bet its the wedding video.  I know that Gabenator had a post up a while ago about filming something for them

  • Upvote 4
Link to comment
Share on other sites

19 hours ago, theotherelise said:

If anyone is interested, the Maintenance Phase podcast has a great episode about BMI and how it was never a great measurement and never designed to be used the way it is used.

I just recommend Maintenance Phase in general. 

On 10/21/2021 at 1:06 PM, CaptainFunderpants said:

The difference between a spouse and a plain old best friend is the desire to get in their pants. 

Asexual here wanting to add that this, too, is not true.

  • Upvote 15
  • I Agree 8
Link to comment
Share on other sites

I love the true crime shows, Paula Zahn is my fav tho. 

I can only watch the US or Canada ones, I freak out at the UK ones, its just too close to home lol

  • Upvote 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

1 hour ago, ContrastingButtons said:

Duggar Data posted Justin and Claire’s announcement that they will release a “much-requested video” today.

Please let it NOT be a pregnancy announcement.  
 

https://duggardata.tumblr.com/

 

I’m not sure who’s requesting the video so much- Hilary, perhaps?

  • Upvote 5
  • Haha 3
Link to comment
Share on other sites

37 minutes ago, Idlewild said:

I’m not sure who’s requesting the video so much- Hilary, perhaps?

It could be something else, and not pregnancy related, but IDK…

Link to comment
Share on other sites

1 hour ago, JDuggs said:

Have we seen anything official about their new house?

Hilary said they recently bought a house to flip, implying the new house is it and they’re not living there.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

"You may now kiss your bride". Claire, you are now an object. Congrats on the transfer-of-headship sex ceremony. 

  • Upvote 3
  • Disgust 2
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Of the Duggar weddings, I preferred this one. It was smaller and more personal. They both looked cute and into one another. Do I wish they were dating while at Uni? Yeah. But it’s their life. 

Edited by Markie
  • Upvote 5
  • I Agree 2
Link to comment
Share on other sites

1 hour ago, Markie said:

Of the Duggar weddings, I preferred this one. It was smaller and more personal. They both looked cute and into one another. Do I wish they were dating while at Uni? Yeah. But it’s their life. 

He, especially, looks so very young, no age or life experience on his face. I kept thinking this should be the two of them at Prom, enjoying their youth, having the time of their lives; not two teens with little education, making a life commitment they can barely comprehend. 

  • Upvote 8
  • I Agree 4
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Some thought:

Ok, it looked actually like a really nice wedding even for my heathen standards. I mean I guess they cut out everything that’s borderline weird for public access but also how the celebration afterwards looked. Funny groomsman jumping in the girls crowd to catch the bouquet …. it all looked so normal apart from some small things.

I found the relieved look after the ceremony quite funny. That’s exactly like most couples look when it’s over.

I cannot get over the prayer circle with the parents. I find this SO weird.

It also doesn’t really matter if there was obeying in those vows. Hilary will captain this ship (instead of JB for once). 😉

Was there no obligatory couple and parents all making out next to each other scene? I am relieved but also feel a bit deprived….

Edited by just_ordinary
  • Upvote 4
Link to comment
Share on other sites

WHOSE were those sparkly wallabees? Were they Justin's wedding shoes? Like I am all for a metallic shoe but those were pretty heinous.

And I'd find Jackson catching the bouquet a bit more amusing if his brother hadn't been in a courtship at the same age (Jackson was 16 then and 17 now, Justin started officially courting Claire in September 2019 when he was still 16). Eep.

Besides this, it looked like a nice wedding, the video was well made, everyone seemed happy, the lack of Josh was refreshing. I know only some of the brothers were groomsmen but given TLC wasn't filming they might have chosen to include him if they'd wanted to. That or they edited him and fam out because they felt it wouldn't go down well with the fans, and that's fine by me too. They get the message, on some level.

  • Upvote 2
Link to comment
Share on other sites

7 hours ago, AprilQuilt said:

Besides this, it looked like a nice wedding, the video was well made, everyone seemed happy, the lack of Josh was refreshing. I know only some of the brothers were groomsmen but given TLC wasn't filming they might have chosen to include him if they'd wanted to. That or they edited him and fam out because they felt it wouldn't go down well with the fans, and that's fine by me too. They get the message, on some level.

I also think the more ''younger Duggars'' wedding we will see, the less Josh will be included in the wedding parties. The smaller kids are probably not even that close to him. Josh married in 2008 and thus left home when Justin was 6 YO. I doubt they are that close (thank goodness).

  • Upvote 7
  • I Agree 15
Link to comment
Share on other sites

All that money spent on a wedding just so two teenagers could have sex and not feel guilty about it...

  • Upvote 9
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Despite the fact that these two absolutely look like children who have no business getting married, this is quite a sweet, simple and classy wedding. Especially when compared to the tackstravaganza wedding of Nathan and Esther Bates (icymi - giant tiara, sky diving groom, horse drawn carriage, over dressed 90s flower girls). 

Also I always enjoy a David Waller sighting. 

  • Upvote 17
  • Rufus Bless 1
  • Haha 1
  • I Agree 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now



×
  • Create New...

Important Information

By using this site, you agree to our Terms of Use.