Lori Alexander 76: Ken Advises Saving?

[Lgirlrocks]

Just going to leave this here. 

[fluffy]

Looks like lady parts Alyssa took down her instagram. Wonder what's going on. That account always looked it was like her whole identity. My impression is that all of Lori's children seem broken in some quintessential way. 

[hollyfeller]

This one is from Lori's bikini rant last week.  Simon Spreckels is a special man.

[Botkinetti]

Concerning Margaret Gordon’s comment I get so tired of hearing their insistence on all men or all women think the same. If all men were turned on by the same thing there would be no sub-sets of porn produced.

They must have to close their eyes to be able to deny what they see every day. That both men and women don’t fit neatly into boxes marked male and female. It must make them crazy so they just refuse to see it or attempt to understand it. 

[louisa05]

3 hours ago, Botkinetti said:

Concerning Margaret Gordon’s comment I get so tired of hearing their insistence on all men or all women think the same. If all men were turned on by the same thing there would be no sub-sets of porn produced.

They must have to close their eyes to be able to deny what they see every day. That both men and women don’t fit neatly into boxes marked male and female. It must make them crazy so they just refuse to see it or attempt to understand it. 

By the end of my time at Christian school they were really focused on the idea that people are basically interchangeable when it came to marriage.  The preaching in chapel about dating and marriage (and, yes, they endlessly preached to 14-18 year olds about marriage) boiled down to the idea that if a couple believed the same theology and each person followed the prescribed role in the relationship based on gender, any two people could have a happy marriage. Compatibility and love were often dismissed as “worldly values” and good Christians were above that.  
 

Lori didn’t come up with this bs by herself. 

[Imrlgoddess]

1 hour ago, louisa05 said:

By the end of my time at Christian school they were really focused on the idea that people are basically interchangeable when it came to marriage.  The preaching in chapel about dating and marriage (and, yes, they endlessly preached to 14-18 year olds about marriage) boiled down to the idea that if a couple believed the same theology and each person followed the prescribed role in the relationship based on gender, any two people could have a happy marriage. Compatibility and love were often dismissed as “worldly values” and good Christians were above that.  
 

Lori didn’t come up with this bs by herself. 

I just can't get my head wrapped around that. Are we designed to be robots? 

I think, in a way, this is what my mom was trying to teach us also.  She often mentioned how people who were too learned were dangerous. Basically conformity was subtly depicted as the only acceptable thing.  

I often think about my grandmother's arranged marriage... he was good to her for the most part, they raised children together.  He passed away decades before her & she was very content to live those 30 years on her own & when she passed, she was buried no where near him... by her choice. They lived that prescribed lifestyle Lori & co. preach... but I wonder how truly happy she was during those years.  Was she really just existing on the hope of a celestial reward....

[HoneyBunny]

19 hours ago, Lgirlrocks said:

Just going to leave this here. 

Is this on Facebook?  Under which post. I want to see if it’s still there.  Thx!

[Lgirlrocks]

18 minutes ago, HoneyBunny said:

Is this on Facebook?  Under which post. I want to see if it’s still there.  Thx!

This was on Facebook. I think it was under the correcting your wife post.

[Lgirlrocks]

my grandma didn’t have a degree. She had four kids, one who died at a few days old. This was in the late 40’s to mid 50’s. She stayed home when the kids were young then went back to work. She only had an 8th grade degree. She had 7 grand children and 5 great grand children, she passed away a few years ago. All of her living children, all women, got some kind of degree or certificate. My mom had three kids, wanted four, my grandma said that was too many. My mom pushed for all of her kids to get some kind of degree or trade. She knows first hand how hard it is to find a job without a degree. Most guys aren’t looking for a women who stays home full time and takes care of kids and him. They are looking for a partnership. Even if I had had no debt while living with my x he would not have wanted me to just stay home full time. He knew I would have hated it. I don’t want children. It has nothing to do with my college degree. I have never wanted kids. 
my mom is friends with a women who is a stay at home wife. She was never able to have kids. Not getting a degree doesn’t mean you will have lots of kids or grand kids. 

[louisa05]

My best friend from college has two degrees—a Bachelor of Arts and Bachelor of Music.  She also has seven children. No grandkids, but the oldest kids are just turning 17 next month. My dad’s lifelong best friend has a wife with a masters degree. They had six kids and all six have their own kids —don’t know how many, but they definitely have a lot of grandkids. I also know a few women my age with no college degree, never married and no kids. 
It’s almost like having a degree has nothing to do with it. 

Beyond that, what a weird thing to say that no one can find any joy in a degree. First of all, it’s an accomplishment.  Secondly, many people actually do find joy and fulfillment in their job. I’m very sad for Lori’s long ago students. Children shouldn’t have to endure a self centered teacher who hates being with them.  I complain about teaching for sure.  But the kids aren’t the problem. Administration and politics are the problem. The kids are what makes it joyful and fulfilling.  

[Melissa1977]

On 5/15/2020 at 9:10 AM, fluffy said:

Looks like lady parts Alyssa took down her instagram. Wonder what's going on. That account always looked it was like her whole identity. My impression is that all of Lori's children seem broken in some quintessential way. 

Alyssa has not closed her IG.

[FluffySnowball]

On 5/15/2020 at 11:24 AM, hollyfeller said:

This one is from Lori's bikini rant last week.  Simon Spreckels is a special man.

OF COURSE modesty is defined by culture. From what I’ve heard from my hubby (who’s from the Gulf), Saudi men - who usually only see women with veiled faces - tend to dream about their hands or beautiful eyes and it doesn’t take much skin to make them “interested”. But in tribal cultures where people only cover their genitalia (despite the prejudice, actually naked peoples don’t exist as far as I am aware), I’m sure the focus is on other aspects of the body. And for all these people, they dress in a way that seems appropriate and modest.

(I don’t want to over-complicate things, but there are many Saudis, male and female alike, who find their legally mandated dress codes not modest but oppressive, but that’s not the issue at hand.) 

[klein_roeschen]

2 hours ago, Lgirlrocks said:

my grandma didn’t have a degree. She had four kids, one who died at a few days old. This was in the late 40’s to mid 50’s. She stayed home when the kids were young then went back to work. She only had an 8th grade degree. She had 7 grand children and 5 great grand children, she passed away a few years ago. All of her living children, all women, got some kind of degree or certificate. My mom had three kids, wanted four, my grandma said that was too many. My mom pushed for all of her kids to get some kind of degree or trade. She knows first hand how hard it is to find a job without a degree. Most guys aren’t looking for a women who stays home full time and takes care of kids and him. They are looking for a partnership. Even if I had had no debt while living with my x he would not have wanted me to just stay home full time. He knew I would have hated it. I don’t want children. It has nothing to do with my college degree. I have never wanted kids. 
my mom is friends with a women who is a stay at home wife. She was never able to have kids. Not getting a degree doesn’t mean you will have lots of kids or grand kids. 

Having 12 children and all homeschooling them doens't prove anything. Let me guess, her husband worked a good paying job that allowed her to stay home and homeschool without worrying to much about bills and how to feed the blessings? And while we are guessing, the daughter who is a nun, it isn't the oldest and she was heavily involve in sister moming her younger siblings?

My paternal grandmother was born in 1915 and came from a poor farming background. She very likely left school after 8th grade to work, that was the thing you did back than. All of her children learned a trade after school, but that's costumary here and her second youngest son did night school after work and became a teacher. She had the first 8 in 11 years and my father was the unwelcomed surprise 10 years later and felt that growning up. Non of her children where close to her at the time of her death and at least on of her children, my father, became an alcoholic as an adult. I suspect more than him, but I don't have any contact with my aunts and uncles. The high number of children my grandmother had didn't prove her lack of education was superior or that she was a wonderfull woman, only that she was fertile and had no birthcontrol back than.

[Dana723]

On 5/14/2020 at 10:27 AM, louisa05 said:

We have a neighbor who is constantly in his yard with no shirt.  Let’s just say he’s in the “ put a shirt on! No one wants to see that!” category. But you know, we just don’t continue to look in that direction. 

From today’s comments: This is all going to lead to killing Christians! It’s so obvious and logical, isn’t it? 
 

 

 

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Boy, that escalated quickly. 

[fluffy]

1 hour ago, Melissa1977 said:

Alyssa has not closed her IG.

Thanks. You're right. 

[Imrlgoddess]

Well, she's hit the sex button twice in a row this week & has hundreds of comments.  Get that viral post Lori! Get your attention while everyone is home & bored online! 

Ken must have gone back to work lol. 

[Sarah92]

I really think these people just don’t get out much in general. Their thinking is so black and white that they can’t possibly find nuance in different situations. 

I got my master’s degree and I certainly doubt I’ll die alone. I’m very close with my family and have developed good friendships.  I’m not sure about wanting kids mostly because chaos and loud noises set me on edge. My grandfather was one of like 13 kids and their life growing up was difficult. After he married my grandma no one in my family had more than 4 kids that I know of, three is our magic number. Lots of teachers and educated people in my family. We still somehow manage to have fairly close relationships with each other and get along despite those damn degrees desperately trying to keep us apart. 
 

That being said if someone wants to be a housewife and raise 12 kids go for it if it can be done in a healthy, wise way. However, as someone who works in rural mental health in a setting that only accepts Medicaid it’s not wise to do this while in poverty. The whole doing it with only 30,000 and being comfortable is a lie unless everything is completely paid off. There’s no way they’d have healthcare, eye and dental if they had other bills to pay. Furthermore, the kids I work with have much better outcomes if parents are able to give them regular, consistent attention which is difficult with so many children.  

[hollyfeller]

This dude never disappoints

[Caroline]

14 minutes ago, hollyfeller said:

This dude never disappoints

Shaun. like the majority of Lori followers don't know much about the world at large, which I guess is the reason they say such simplistic things.  I have two MA's in two different foreign languages, and I have used those degrees every day of my working life for the last 38 years.  They have provided for my  family and me and have given me a lot of personal satisfaction.  Also, I'm severely allergic to cats, so I have no plans to be surrounded by cats as much as I like them.  I wonder what's so unsatisfactory and empty about Shaun's life that he would say something so stupid?

[HoneyBunny]

2 hours ago, hollyfeller said:

This dude never disappoints

Says a man-boy hanging out on a site for Christian women. Oh yeah, I’m crushed. 

[Loveday]

Simon Speckels wasn't around all day. But this evening he's making up for it, responding to almost every single comment on this morning's FB post. It's like Lori hired him or something. 

[Fallgirl30]

1 hour ago, Loveday said:

Simon Speckels wasn't around all day. But this evening he's making up for it, responding to almost every single comment on this morning's FB post. It's like Lori hired him or something. 

He’s her hype man. 

[wallysmommy]

No, Shaun, I'll be surrounded by my dogs.  Get your insult right, idiot.

@Sarah92 Here's the typical Lori acolyte -- I know, I'm related to one of the chief fangirls.  She graduated high school, had a scholarship to Christian college, went for a year or so came home, sat home, waited to get married, married the first dude she dated,  Had 5 kids (and some miscarriages in between, I think), homeschools.  All 5 kids are grown -- 4 are married by the age of 18.  Has 6 or 7 grandkids.  Laments that she didn't marry at 18 because she would have had more kids.  The last kid was born when she was in her 40s.  Never worked a job.  She and some of my other cousins are all into the "Q" crap of conspiracy theory.

Vacations are to Amish country or the Museum of the Bible.  Husband works and seems to be a nice guy.  Can't go to family reunions because they have something to do at church every year on the reunion date.  

If she's happy, that's fine, but don't tell me I'm sinning because I have an education and worked.  She actually told me I wasn't following God's perfect plan for my life.

Edited May 17, 2020 by wallysmommy

[pamplemousse]

4 hours ago, hollyfeller said:

This dude never disappoints

If I had to choose between this loser and my not-worthless degree and my cats, guess who/which won't be with me? Three guesses and the first two don't count.

[Imrlgoddess]

Snagged this gem under the post about kids & grandkids.  

I'm sure it'll stay there, untouched by Lori or @Ken. This is the psychopathy the Handmaid's Tale is born from....

TW: it's sickeningly racist & it'll make you ragey.

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Edited May 17, 2020 by Imrlgoddess
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