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AmericanRose

Mrs. Midwest 3: Feminine Racism

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JermajestyDuggar
50 minutes ago, Timetraveler said:

Husbear's name is Grant right? Grant Jr. it is.

It’s funny that I’m expecting this too. I wanted to name our son after my husband because his name was one of my favorite names. My husband didn’t ever consider naming a kid after himself. He’s not a narcissist that would demand it. But I could see Grant saying it has to be Grant Jr if they have a boy. I’m not a fan of men emanding it without their wife’s opinion taken into account. 

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Seahorse Wrangler

Our son has as his first name my grand-father's name which was the first born son's name in his family going back to the early1800's, it is also my FiL's name and my late husband's middle name.

My late MiL was upset that the oldest grandson wasn't named for her husband because I'd claimed the name first. He was instead named for his maternal grandfather.

 

My sister named her second son after our father while my older daughter has the feminine form of his middle name as her middle name.

My mother and grandmother didn't want their names to be passed down and given how my name is associated with not being smart, I don't want another generation being blessed with it. 

 

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kaluce

I bet it'll be something boring and biblical. I rewatched the intro to her video and she really... doesn't seem that excited lol

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cartouche
3 hours ago, kaluce said:

I bet it'll be something boring and biblical. I rewatched the intro to her video and she really... doesn't seem that excited lol

I'll put my bets on "Matthew" LOL.

You're right, she doesn't seem very excited.

She's always seemed a bit bored and like her whole brand is a cope for her life. Now she's probably like, oh sh*t, this is real. It's not just a LARP anymore.

Call me cynical, but I feel that with how image-conscious she is, she probably sometimes resents that she settled for her hubby since he's below her league, doesn't have any traits that make him a desirable partner, and doesn't seem very caring towards her. In vlogs she's so performative about serving him that it's like, "Look how lucky you are to be with me!" I guess she'll cope harder by going on about how much more attractive her husband is to her than her better-looking Christian ex because he "puts her in her place" like she did before on Reddit.

I'm usually excited for people having kids, even fundies, but there's just something off about their relationship. I feel like MM tries too hard to convince herself and her viewers that she didn't settle.

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AmericanRose

I notice MM removed her blogging/YT schedule from her Insta bio. Wise choice - she wasn't following it pre-hiatus anyway.

She seems to be back to her regular posting on Insta, however, and she also posted a new blog:
Sunday Series: Hope and the Invasion of Fear

She is quoting verses and for all her 'everyone is welcome!*' on her channel, I feel she's deep in the religion.

I feel sorry for their kid. And for Michigan.

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We may think we know what we need or want in our lives, but God always knows better. And unlike the modern teachings of many American churches, we must remember that God DOES allow us to go through the refining fire. He allows His flock to experience hardship, persecution, sickness, and trials so that He may be glorified.

As humans, we have a very black and white view of "good things." To us, good things are having a lot of money, getting the milestones we want, having happy times with friends and family, and laughing and enjoying life.

Yes, these are all good things, and they are pleasurable, but not all good things ARE pleasurable. Some good things are extremely unpleasant, disagreeable, or downright painful. [Emphasis hers]

 

She seems so light and fluffy, but I read her blog and I'm like... eeeek.

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kaluce
13 hours ago, AmericanRose said:

She seems so light and fluffy, but I read her blog and I'm like... eeeek.

This blog post reads like she's INCREDIBLY unhappy right now:

"this is life we are talking about, not a Disney Channel sports movie! It's a broken system in a broken world, and the only thing we are guaranteed in this life is some form of disappointment or heartbreak along the way."

Holy shit- like, isn't this supposed to be a joyous time for her?  Why is she so focused on SUFFERING right now when she should be happy that "God" blessed her?

Going farther into the post, it's obvious that her issues with getting pregnant caused her to get more invested in this Doom and Gloom Christianity (my pet term for christianity where suffering is almost like, fetishized). Like in this statement; "And unlike the modern teachings of many American churches, we must remember that God DOES allow us to go through the refining fire." Allows you to experience great hardship and suffering? I'll pass, thanks. 

 

ETA: they also recently switched churches. I wonder if their old one was "too positive" for them. 

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Marmion
7 hours ago, kaluce said:

Going farther into the post, it's obvious that her issues with getting pregnant caused her to get more invested in this Doom and Gloom Christianity (my pet term for christianity where suffering is almost like, fetishized). Like in this statement; "And unlike the modern teachings of many American churches, we must remember that God DOES allow us to go through the refining fire." Allows you to experience great hardship and suffering? I'll pass, thanks

This has not been all that unusual within American evangelicalism  .  For example , take these two songs .  

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Giraffe

@Marmion, I listened to (well, a minute and a half) Blessings. It's the first time I've heard it since leaving Christianity. I was funny when that song came out and felt really guilty that I never liked it! There was something about it I found off-putting but I couldn't put my finger on it. @kaluce you're right; pain is fetishized in the fundy world! That song in particular was the go-to in my circle for those going through a hard time and at the time I was convinced I had some hidden sin and that was why I didn't like the song! 

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kaluce
3 hours ago, Marmion said:

This has not been all that unusual within American evangelicalism  .  For example , take these two songs .  

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I’m definitely a total outsider to evangelicalism and while I grew up like, in an area where it was around, only the past few years have I been really learning about it. It’s absolutely so strange how these people are so content with feeling such heavy GUILT and shame allll the time. I don’t understand how they function 🤯

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Petronella

It's important to acknowledge pain, and I don't find it weird that religious people try to find a place for it in religious context.

Fetishizing it is gross, but to me that's a problem with extremes, not with accepting the reality of difficult times and still believing in God.

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kaluce
5 hours ago, Petronella said:

It's important to acknowledge pain, and I don't find it weird that religious people try to find a place for it in religious context.

Fetishizing it is gross, but to me that's a problem with extremes, not with accepting the reality of difficult times and still believing in God.

Acknowledging pain is fine, but there seems no room for celebration. It feels more like constant self denial 😕 but again- I’m not super educated on all the inner workings and details of that specific faith so this is my outsiders ~uneducated opinion lol

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