Mrs. Midwest 3: Feminine Racism

[JermajestyDuggar]

1 hour ago, cartouche said:

She's trying way too hard to stay within her brand! Like girl, you can do a finance video without making it "feminine"

What’s next? 

Elegant driving? 

Lovely toilet scrubbing? 

Feminine flossing?

[kaluce]

1 hour ago, Mushroom said:

Elegant finances?!

Hide all your debt from your husband? Color in your dollar bills with pinks and purples? Make sure your budget workbinder is pink so your husband won't look in it?

[AmericanRose]

I got too curious about how finances can be elegant.
Game: Take a shot every time she says 'timeless' or 'elegant'!

7 Ways to Have Elegant Finances || Handling Money With Elegance

She says 'our money', buuuuut. It's a little funny she panders to incels, but MGTOW's rail against this very thing (women using men for money). I do think incels and MGTOW's are pretty similar.
Today she's being sponsored by SkillShare. Do they know about her white supremacy leanings?

Spoiler

1. Avoid discussing finances with other people unless appropriate. You don't want to ask how much things cost, you don't want to ask how much someone makes, you don't want to talk about how much you make, because this can cause uncomfortable tension in social situations. She advises protecting yourself and not blabbing about how comfortable you are to acquaintances and friends.
2. Be generous in your own way. This doesn't have to be monetary, but it's important not to go overboard because you can make someone feel overly indebted to you or uncomfortable. An elegant woman is thoughtful with her generosity. Take into account the personality of whom you're gifting. Tip well when you go out. Take care of yourself and make sure you don't get taken advantage of.
3. Be wise and avoid debt. Not all debt is avoidable. Elegant finances is about having that timeless wisdom. Invite wise people to advise you. A lot of women are pressured to go to universities these days, and it just seems like an extension of high school for many, but it can be an unwise decision if you don't know what you want to do, if you have to take on 6 figures of debt to go, if it's an unreasonable dream, or maybe you don't even want to go. Be wary of MLM's. Having a discerning heart with your finances, not a bleeding heart.
4. Don't obsess over money/material goods/consumerism. Find your identity outside your social class/tax bracket/etc. We can lose all our finances by next year. You can't purchase elegance or a ladylike attitude.
5. Avoid silly purchases. Buy quality over quantity, and things you're actually going to use. There's nothing elegant about trashing up the planet unnecessarily. Be thoughtful with your purchases. An elegant lady will always plan for her day and her future.
6. Remain frugal and well-planned. She's had comments suggesting she didn't marry well because she talks about budgeting, and she wouldn't have to if she had married higher up. It's part of the Christian way of life to be frugal. MM will always prescribe frugality no matter how rich someone is. 
7. Care for the things you own. It's a great thing for women to become more useful at home and learn to sew. Read reviews before purchasing, leave reviews after purchase. 

So there's nothing I really disagree with here (though how does a SAHW plan for retirement...?) but I don't understand how it's elegant. Or timeless. Does she think people in the 'good old days' weren't poor...? Poverty was rampant and a lot uglier than it is now 100 years ago.

I also think people, if they're comfortable with it, should be more open about their salaries, especially at work.

Edited June 16, 2020 by AmericanRose

[Pleiades_06]

For someone who doesn’t “obsess over consumerism “ she’s actually quite consumeristic with her focus on clothes. The whole influencer thing in general is based on selling a lifestyle and the accompanying stuff. 
 

[Marmion]

On 6/15/2020 at 3:12 PM, JermajestyDuggar said:

What’s next? 

Elegant driving? 

Lovely toilet scrubbing? 

Feminine flossing?

Here's what all I found .  

{ http://www.elegantdrivingschool.com  , https://www.pinterest.com/pin/828592031424789252/ , 

Spoiler

 

}  I couldn't find any results for feminine flossing though . 

[kaluce]

Looks like Grant finally wised up and made everything on his facebook private. Don't wanna be a racist cop with a popular youtube wife, rn I guess

[Perrierwithlemon]

5 hours ago, kaluce said:

Looks like Grant finally wised up and made everything on his facebook private. Don't wanna be a racist cop with a popular youtube wife, rn I guess

So THAT'S what he's been doing on his laptop!!! I KNEW he was up to something!!!

(jk, i know he does some sort of trading thing and helps Caitlin with editing)

[mymelody]

12 hours ago, Perrierwithlemon said:

So THAT'S what he's been doing on his laptop!!! I KNEW he was up to something!!!

(jk, i know he does some sort of trading thing and helps Caitlin with editing)

everytime I see him with a laptop I think of caitlin's reddit where she talked about his... let's call it adult films addiction that he asked for forgiveness for his sins. Also does anyone remember when she said they both waited until marriage but her reddit stated otherwise lol

[kaluce]

5 hours ago, mymelody said:

everytime I see him with a laptop I think of caitlin's reddit where she talked about his... let's call it adult films addiction that he asked for forgiveness for his sins. Also does anyone remember when she said they both waited until marriage but her reddit stated otherwise lol

I can't imagine waiting until marriage to lose my virginity to a tubby man with a porn addiction. How low must one think of oneself ugh. 
 

[Alisamer]

On 6/15/2020 at 3:12 PM, kaluce said:

Make sure your budget workbinder is pink so your husband won't look in it?

I bought a bright pink Xacto knife for work in hopes the guys wouldn't steal it like they did the plain one.

It only partially worked - they do sometimes steal it, but it always gets brought back while the plain one sometimes disappears for weeks on end.

[EmmaWoodhouse]

10 minutes ago, Alisamer said:

I bought a bright pink Xacto knife for work in hopes the guys wouldn't steal it like they did the plain one.

It only partially worked - they do sometimes steal it, but it always gets brought back while the plain one sometimes disappears for weeks on end.

My grandmother has a pink can-opener so that she can find it easily in her utensil drawer. It’s honestly kind of genius.

[Perrierwithlemon]

1 minute ago, EmmaWoodhouse said:

My grandmother has a pink can-opener so that she can find it easily in her utensil drawer. It’s honestly kind of genius.

I can attest to this. After repeatedly losing silver tweezers, I got neon pink ones -- always super easy to find!

[Hane]

I have a really nifty convertible-head screwdriver with a pretty green leaf pattern on it. This way, guys who come to do work in my house can’t accidentally walk away with it.

[cartouche]

12 hours ago, mymelody said:

everytime I see him with a laptop I think of caitlin's reddit where she talked about his... let's call it adult films addiction that he asked for forgiveness for his sins. Also does anyone remember when she said they both waited until marriage but her reddit stated otherwise lol

OMG did she really lie about her husband's virginity? That's hilarious! I don't remember her saying he waited until marriage in her videos (pls link, anyone, if you remember where she does!), but I definitely remember her Reddit post talking about his porn addiction and his past relationships with sl*tty women (not sure if she used that word, but that was the gist). Maybe he just fooled around with those women but didn't actually lose his V card? Idk. Don't want to contemplate that too much. ??

But MM definitely has a tendency to lie considering her video praising her mom being so wonderful and perfect VS. her Reddit posts about their dysfunctional non-relationship sooo it wouldn't surprise me if she lied about several big things.

[Intothewind]

I'm pretty sure she has said her ex-bf was a model and the sex wasn't that great, whereas sex with her husband the thumb is a-plus ???

[Hane]

@Intothewind, boogie nights with Ex-Mr.-Hane-#2 were usually pretty good, but I decided they were no reason I needed to stay married to him. I hope MM wakes the heck up.

[JermajestyDuggar]

Sorry but the model sex must have been really awful for her to think Husbland is better. He looks like the type to do nothing for her in the bedroom and only focus on himself. 

[snarky_snark]

She's coping.

She makes a ridiculous amount of effort to perform femininity and submission (as Red Pill men define it). And she does it all for an average-looking, tubby man, who isolated her from her family and friends, who makes her count pennies to shop at Goodwill, and who needed to be coerced into showing his wife affection on camera after she reads threads like these. Livin' the dream! 

And of course, she is also virtue signalling to her incel/MGTOW followers that she married Toesbear. (She's not HyPERgamOuS she's a GoOd WoMAN *flashes lingerie*) 

Disclaimer that there is nothing wrong with shopping at the Goodwill or budgeting. I just think it's funny that this Red Pill alpha male can't do more for his wife, considering what he probably believes about gender dynamics. 

[Petronella]

On 6/19/2020 at 11:17 PM, cartouche said:

OMG did she really lie about her husband's virginity? That's hilarious! I don't remember her saying he waited until marriage in her videos (pls link, anyone, if you remember where she does!), but I definitely remember her Reddit post talking about his porn addiction and his past relationships with sl*tty women (not sure if she used that word, but that was the gist).

I haven’t seen the claims myself, but it’s possible for someone to say that they, as a couple, waited until marriage, without that claim necessarily implying that one or both are virgins who have individually waited before they met.

[ignorantobserver]

On 6/19/2020 at 8:32 PM, Hane said:

I have a really nifty convertible-head screwdriver with a pretty green leaf pattern on it. This way, guys who come to do work in my house can’t accidentally walk away with it.

I hide my "good" scissors and other tools in my sewing basket. No need to buy girly designs, my husband wouldn't ever try to search for something inside that horrible thing full of confusing yarn and ribbons !

Edited June 22, 2020 by ignorantobserver

[kaluce]

I'm surprised she's still staying quiet on insta and her blog. It seems like things have quieted down on the BLM front on social media for influencers (I have feelings about that, but I digress), and more so for influencers in her sphere. You'd think she'd be back to posting dumb ass OOTD's regularly. I wonder if she's going to slow way down with content creation since it's pretty obvious she's running out of ideas. 

[MrsTruth]

She has to stay quiet long enough for people to think it had nothing to do with BLM. She is still on Pinterest, following and unfollowing people on Instagram. She is around. 

[AmericanRose]

Well, after a 3 month break from Twitter, she's resurfaced!

She 'liked' 2 posts (one from TTW ?) and retweeted this from the ever-wise Lori:
Be a wife who is greatly offended if another woman speaks negatively about your husband. Stand up for your husband. Defend him. Let no one put him down in front of you, no, not even your mother. Build him up. This, hopefully, will encourage other women to do likewise.

[fluffy]

13 minutes ago, AmericanRose said:

Well, after a 3 month break from Twitter, she's resurfaced!

She 'liked' 2 posts (one from TTW ?) and retweeted this from the ever-wise Lori:
Be a wife who is greatly offended if another woman speaks negatively about your husband. Stand up for your husband. Defend him. Let no one put him down in front of you, no, not even your mother. Build him up. This, hopefully, will encourage other women to do likewise.

What about Lori's advice on being impossible to offend? That women should not engage in conflict? That we should heap burning coals on our enemy's head? Of course, Lori doesn't take her own advice, but it is a heap of a lot more traditionally "feminine" (and Christian) to turn the other cheek.

Clearly, this is a sensitive subject for Mrs. Middle West, whose husband does not likely garner great praise from others. She's stuck with such a lump of a man and backed herself into an impossible corner with probably few friends in real life. As my friend in a bad marriage said, "It's a long dang life."

Edited June 25, 2020 by fluffy

[kaluce]

11 hours ago, AmericanRose said:

Be a wife who is greatly offended if another woman speaks negatively about your husband. Stand up for your husband. Defend him. Let no one put him down in front of you, no, not even your mother. Build him up. This, hopefully, will encourage other women to do likewise.

Maybe if her toesband wasn't an obviously racist cop (we have the screenshots, Cait), there wouldn't be any reason for people to comment on him. No one's ever said anything negative about my husband (to my face or otherwise that I know of), but he's also not a monster sooooo...