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In my area we usually do at least a sprinkle for non-first babies. If it's a different sex than the previous kid/s it's a little bigger and maybe even full shower because people like to buy baby clothes, especially if it's a first girl after boys. If there is much of an age gap things like carseats will need to be replaced.  With my 2nd we had a 'meet the baby' gathering and friends brought little consumable item gifts like soaps and binkies and diapers/wipes and stuff that we wouldn't have as hand-me-downs. Sometimes people just like to have an excuse for a party I think. And if somebody has twins.... FORGET IT...we all lose our collective minds and throw them a huge shower like they need everything provided no matter how many kids they already have ?

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6 minutes ago, Grace said:

In my area we usually do at least a sprinkle for non-first babies. If it's a different sex than the previous kid/s it's a little bigger and maybe even full shower because people like to buy baby clothes, especially if it's a first girl after boys. If there is much of an age gap things like carseats will need to be replaced.  With my 2nd we had a 'meet the baby' gathering and friends brought little consumable item gifts like soaps and binkies and diapers/wipes and stuff that we wouldn't have as hand-me-downs. Sometimes people just like to have an excuse for a party I think. And if somebody has twins.... FORGET IT...we all lose our collective minds and throw them a huge shower like they need everything provided no matter how many kids they already have ?

Timing of baby's birth is actually an issue for some things. My friend with seven had all of them in late spring or summer except number six who was born in early February. When he was born, I asked her what she needed and she said that basically all the clothes from 1-4 (born in June and August) were the wrong season. She needed warm 0-3 month clothes and summer things in different sizes as well. 

 

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3 hours ago, GuineaPigCourtship said:

As do freezer meals! 

Yes! This is what I did when I threw my friend's sprinkle. It was her third baby, but her husband left her when she was 4 months pregnant so she was suddenly a single parent to a 3 year old, 1 year old and now newborn. So when he was born, we did a meet the baby sprinkle and instead of gifts, people brought freezer meals for her. 

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3 hours ago, viii said:

Yes! This is what I did when I threw my friend's sprinkle. It was her third baby, but her husband left her when she was 4 months pregnant so she was suddenly a single parent to a 3 year old, 1 year old and now newborn. So when he was born, we did a meet the baby sprinkle and instead of gifts, people brought freezer meals for her. 

We prepared our own freezer meals, and while it felt kind of over the top and we basically only did it because we like cooking and the midwife recommended it, those meals were a LIFESAVER when baby boy was born, when I was in so much pain for weeks after an unplanned c section and my husband was juggling taking care of me, a newborn, laundry etc.

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My favorite baby event I attended was after baby was born. Our friends had a “brew and view” where they basically had an open house to meet the baby and provided snacks and a variety of beers to sample. It was the best. 

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On 4/16/2021 at 7:19 AM, just_ordinary said:

Well, if that doesn’t scream Fundie what does. Moving because of a church seems completely crazy to me.

Me too.

I grew up LDS and your congregation and place of worship (usually two or three congregations per building) is designated by the address of your house, and there are all kinds of jokes and references of living in the same house for 20 years but having been in five different wards, four different buildings, and three different stakes via the church changing boundaries as the populations shift.

You'll also get stories in Idaho and Utah, where people will live on the same block as one building but the boundaries assign them to a different one a mile or two away.

I have to admit, while it makes sense, I'm still weirded out by the idea that practitioners of other denominations actively choose their place of worship rather than having it assigned.

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We had a tiny little covid-regulations compliant sprinkle for one of my friend recently. Just three of us, take away lunch, and a small present. Not like the shower for her first one, which was 15 people, lots of food and cake, and a total surprise!

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On 4/17/2021 at 9:12 AM, janey said:

My favorite baby event I attended was after baby was born. Our friends had a “brew and view” where they basically had an open house to meet the baby and provided snacks and a variety of beers to sample. It was the best. 

Sounds fun. Didn’t one of the grandDuggars have a “sip ‘n’ see,” with the hostesses being utterly oblivious that the idea is to sip alcohol?

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6 hours ago, QuiverFullofBooks said:

Sounds fun. Didn’t one of the grandDuggars have a “sip ‘n’ see,” with the hostesses being utterly oblivious that the idea is to sip alcohol?

Well, a sip-n-see is very southern and doesn’t necessarily imply alcohol, I don’t think. 

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13 hours ago, JemimaPuddle-Duck said:

Well, a sip-n-see is very southern and doesn’t necessarily imply alcohol, I don’t think. 

Breakout the sherbet in 7 UP!

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45 minutes ago, CaptainFunderpants said:

Breakout the sherbet in 7 UP!

I freaking LOVE sherbet in punch. only with ginger ale and red fruit punch. I make it at every get together, well I did in the pre-covid days. This summer for sure I will be making this. 

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When I was little my dad would put lime sherbet and lemonade in the milkshake maker as a summer treat. So good and refreshing. But now I can't eat sherbet and I can't find lime sorbet, so I do lemon sorbet and limeade. Not quite the same put still delicious. 

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3 hours ago, OHFL2009 said:

When I was little my dad would put lime sherbet and lemonade in the milkshake maker as a summer treat. So good and refreshing. But now I can't eat sherbet and I can't find lime sorbet, so I do lemon sorbet and limeade. Not quite the same put still delicious. 

You can easily make lime sorbet in a blender! Here's a recipe. You can use either a blender or a food processor; no ice cream maker nor vitamix required ?

I would also think you could use a bit of coconut milk to get the concoction creamier, so it's more similar sherbet.

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3 hours ago, fluffernutter said:

I freaking LOVE sherbet in punch. only with ginger ale and red fruit punch. I make it at every get together, well I did in the pre-covid days. This summer for sure I will be making this. 

Raspberry sherbet and frozen raspberries in raspberry ginger ale and 7-Up is my Christmas punch. 

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On 4/13/2021 at 11:09 PM, QuiverFullofBooks said:

Every baby is a new person. How is child #2 supposed to feel when she looks at the photo albums and finds out that her older sibling deserved a party but she wasn’t important enough to get one?

Because there's a big difference between celebrating a new baby and having a shower to buy a ton of things for parents who should already have everything they need. It's gift-grabby and not a great look. 

And furthermore....I highly doubt a kid is going to look back and be upset or offended they didn't get a party. They're likely not even going to know. I am a second child, my mom didn't have a second shower, and I'm not harboring resentment over the fact my brother got a party. My sister is my stepmom's only child, and due her lack of friends or social circle didn't even have a shower at all, and never once has my sister asked about it or given it a thought. Honestly that whole theory just feels like a big reach to me to justify having a shower for additional kids.

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On 4/14/2021 at 6:08 AM, CarrotCake said:

On the topic of registries for showers, I always wondered: do people actually give big gifts like carseats, strollers etc.? Or do they pitch in with a group. I just can't imagine spending that much money on babyshower gifts.

I think it all just depends on your family and friend group. I had big ticket items on my registry with my first, not because I intended anyone to buy them, but because at the end you get a completion discount code to buy up what's left and it would be silly not to be able to get the discount on them. Some of the bigger ticket items were purchased, but mostly by family and my best friends. My MIL ended up buying the crib ($400) and my parents got my stroller ($1,000....which was actually a joint Christmas/baby shower gift since it was super expensive). My core group of best friends typically each spent around $150-250 on a gift...things from the baby monitor to mamaroo bouncer. Everyone else bought smaller much less expensive stuff, which is to be expected. I spend a similar amount on my closest friends, but friends I'm not close with I tend to spend in the $50 range. 

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Friendly reminder that in some countries, bridal showers and birth showers don't exist, but it doesn't mean there are no gifts. It's just a different organisation. Instead of a big party/gathering, gifts come slowly: in a diner with friends, they give the present. In the workplace, workmates give. Relatives take presents when they come to meet the baby, etc. 

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We do bring gifts when the baby is born but $150-$250 seems outrageous for a friend, definitely not common here.

I spend around 100€ on a gift for my sister with both my nieces. For a friend I spend between 15€ and 50€ based on how close I am.

But registers in general are super uncommon here. It is expected that the parents-to-be buy everything they want for themselves and gifts are just there for fun and for the gesture.

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I’m 56 and in England; there were no baby showers when my generation were having babies. I’ve noticed they are becoming a thing now- usually for first time mums. I actually witnessed one pre pandemic when I was in a pub restaurant - it seemed a jolly affair - afternoon tea and cake, the table nicely decorated, everyone dressed up and pregnant lady brought by her sister and genuinely didn’t seem to know about it beforehand. From what I could see there were gifts but it seemed more about having a get together with friends - which seemed nice to me.

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Hi everybody!  I just wanted to say 7UP is riddled with gluten.

.......that is all.

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6 hours ago, Don'tlikekoolaid said:

Hi everybody!  I just wanted to say 7UP is riddled with gluten.

.......that is all.

Wait...what? That’s a joke right? Because none of the ingredients in 7-Up contain gluten (which isn’t bad for most people anyway)

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31 minutes ago, Mama Mia said:

Wait...what? That’s a joke right? Because none of the ingredients in 7-Up contain gluten (which isn’t bad for most people anyway)

Those of us in the Celiac community can assure you 7UP has gluten.  As someone who drank it without knowing this I can tell you it has gluten.  Makes no sense why they do this but there it is.

7UP has 20 parts to a million of gluten, which is no good for Celiac people.

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17 hours ago, CarrotCake said:

We do bring gifts when the baby is born but $150-$250 seems outrageous for a friend, definitely not common here.

But registers in general are super uncommon here. It is expected that the parents-to-be buy everything they want for themselves and gifts are just there for fun and for the gesture.

I agree/can confirm this. 

We spent around 50 euro's for a baby present for my SO's best friend. And I considered that a lot. That's something I would only spend on a very close friend.
My brother and SIL are expecting and I'm crocheting a mobile (for over the baby's bed) for them and I'll also gift them a "smash the patriarchy" romper for the baby. Total costs are around 75 euros. If we had more disposable income (my SO is currently unemployed and I only work part-time), I would probably buy a few more 'fun' things for the baby, but the total wouldn't exceed 120-150 euros.

My brother and SIL buy all the necessities themselves, though I wouldn't be surprised if my parents and/or her parents would offer to contribute to a pram or a car seat, because those are more expensive items. 

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17 hours ago, Idlewild said:

I’m 56 and in England; there were no baby showers when my generation were having babies. I’ve noticed they are becoming a thing now- usually for first time mums. I actually witnessed one pre pandemic when I was in a pub restaurant - it seemed a jolly affair - afternoon tea and cake, the table nicely decorated, everyone dressed up and pregnant lady brought by her sister and genuinely didn’t seem to know about it beforehand. From what I could see there were gifts but it seemed more about having a get together with friends - which seemed nice to me.

yes, here in the UK that's the only kind of baby shower I've ever been to - a bit of a get-together with tea and cake, and maybe cocktails/mocktails. Really not gift-focussed at all, more of a chance for the mother-to-be and her friends to all be together and do something a bit nice before the baby comes along. I suppose 'baby shower' is a total misnomer really but there we go.

I didn't have a baby shower, but my friendship group always clubs together when someone's had a baby, and gets them an item of their choice coming in around the £150 price point. One couple chose a sheepskin pram liner, another a Sleepyhead (I know these aren't advised in the US but they are popular here), another an Ergobaby carrier... I think we asked for a really good breast pump ? so, not crazy expensive when everyone's chipped in, but the chance to have something brand new and good quality that a couple might not feel able to buy themselves. My mum bought our travel system, and other friends sent us gift cards.  But my experience was more that every day after our baby was born, something new would arrive in the post, or be dropped off. Clothes, cards, toys, baked goods, freezer meals... It was great, like a really extended birthday. Felt like a star ?

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