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5 hours ago, Red Hair, Black Dress said:

I firmly believe she'd counsel any other woman to stay, tough it out and forgive. She on the other hand gets to divorce.

Also, “he’s obviously not getting what he needs at home.  What do you think it could be?”

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She has actively harmed so many people. She has stalked abortion clinic doctors and picketed their homes. She has bullied anyone and everyone in the LGBTQ+ Community. She has gotten drag queen story hour shut down again and again. She has spread hate all over the internet. She has raised her 10 children to be just as hateful as her. All of these things amount to me not feeling much sympathy for her. I tend to automatically have sympathy for women in her situation. But she has spread so much hate in this world that I just can’t seem to muster any. And to be honest, it’s because I’m pretty positive this situation won’t change much for her. She will keep hating the LGBTQ+ community. She will keep spreading lies and hate. Her children will still suffer from her. I feel sorry for most fundie kids. But I really feel sorry for her kids. 

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6 hours ago, Ozlsn said:

I really want to know what changed. Did he father a child with someone else? Did she find out it was on again? Did she just have enough? Otherwise I'm with you - 16 years and multiple children is a long time to keep going in that situation.

It could be a few things. The three oldest Johnston children are legal adults. She only has 7 left to homeschool. But I think her older children do most of the homeschooling of the younger children. Therefore that aspect of her life has probably gotten easier. Plus her husband’s Christian movie already came out. Getting a divorce while that movie was about to come out would have been bad press. She might now feel more confident to leave now that she is “the activist mommy” and will likely garner some support from her humpers and she can make some extra money of her own as “TAM.”

Even though I don’t have sympathy for TAM, I have sympathy for her kids. And I am glad they are divorcing for the children’s sake. 

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Total speculation but maybe her husband decided he didn’t want to be married any more and was going to file for divorce and she is spinning it to her advantage. She can still play the endlessly self-sacrificing model of the perfect Christian woman but now with the extra added bonus of expecting sympathy for everything she put up with.

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12 hours ago, Lgirlrocks said:

As horrible of a person as she is I still feel sorry for her. Hope her and her family are able to find healing. 

Same. And good for the kids not to be in a situation like this any more.

8 hours ago, Red Hair, Black Dress said:

I'm just trying to wrap my head around the fact he's been doing this for 16 years and yet she kept on having children with him. 10 children!  While he's being chronically unfaithful and psychologically and emotionally abusive.

Seriously, is she that much of a martyr?  And trust me, the children know about dad -- all but the youngest ones do.

I'm trying to have a tiny bit of sympathy for her, but........ uh ...... not yet.  I firmly believe she'd counsel any other woman to stay, tough it out and forgive. She on the other hand gets to divorce.

I think our brains are very powerful. We can convince ourselves of all manner of things to avoid the pain and trauma a big disruption or challenge to our foundations would make. In a way that seems absolutely wild to anyone outside of the situation. We can hang on too long.

She's obviously had enough, though, and good for her.

8 hours ago, AmericanRose said:

Isn't her husband the "doctor" that believes ectopic pregnancies are actually viable?

I hope this teaches her empathy, but I'm not holding my breath.

Absolutely yikes

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The oldest two girls rarely post tributes to their father. But they will post things about how much they love and admire their mother. They’ve known for years what goes on between their parents. The same parents that beat them the Pearl way and advocated for others to beat their children into submission too. TAM’s husband has a ridiculous amount of guns and has been associated with the army of god (the violent anti abortion group). TAM better be careful.

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I wonder if the dad was going after the kids as well (physical/emotional abuse) and that's why she mentions that she hates to be away from her kids for even short periods of time.  Like others, you have to wonder about the last straw...

Things are gonna change for her.  She's got a ton of kids and no way to support herself in the way that she's accustomed.  Also, to out her husband, the father of her children, as an abusive, unfaithful, porn-addicted ass on social media...just wow.  She could have simply announced a divorce. 

 

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I think he left her, and she’s trying to spin it her own way.  I think she’d have stayed in her bad marriage forever, because she’s all about appearances, and always has been.  She’s trying to claim martyr status with her announcement.  Putting up with 16 years of infidelity and abuse, or claiming that she has, will make it look like she spent all that time fighting for the “godly” marriage she pretended to have for all of those years, more than it will look like she’s been faking it and lying to her followers, which is what she’s done for all of her time in the public eye.

She has her own money, at least she did.  Her father owned Lending Tree/Money Tree, and based on some court proceedings I read about a long time ago (I wish I could find this info now), she ended up with a lot of money from it.  I don’t think her lifestyle is going to change much.
I think she’ll lose a number of speaking opportunities over this.  She no longer exemplifies the perfect Christian woman and mother, and a lot of people in her world treat divorce like a contagious disease.  She’ll lose a lot of her following, too, I imagine.  

She may well have cheated, herself.  She’s constantly posting photos of herself with men, travels alone frequently, and is so incredibly vain that it probably wouldn’t take too many compliments before she’d drop her drawers.

Married or divorced, she’s a vile human.  

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I think she announced now because coronavirus is dominating social media and headlines. She was likely hoping she would announce under the radar. Sorry but people are still talking about it.

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Look at what little Charlotte Boyer wrote under TAM’s divorce statement. I can’t roll my eyes any harder. Charlotte’s parents absolutely failed her. 

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Obivously, it's all her fault. She was not submissive enough to her husband.

Isn't that the fundie train of thought on men & women?

I don't feel sorry for her. I wish I did have sympathy, but I can't muster it. 

I also don't believe for a second that she is the innocent victim she makes herself out to be. 

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Years ago, TAM made a blog post about wives or having a litter of kids or some shit. And I shit you not, Lori Alexander commented on it that she completely agreed with TAM. 

I would love it if Lori made a post about how disappointed she is in TAM’s divorce. Because they are both equally vile.

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I wonder if hubby 's cheating had anything to do with their move a couple of years ago? Like she forced him to move to get him away from the latest girlfriend.

Count me in as someone who believes he's leaving her -- betcha he has the new younger, prettier wife all lined up. Natty Darnell's brother did  -- he totally justified his divorce because his first wife wan't submissive enough.  Maybe all this flying around and being a public figure isn't submissive and SAHM enough for Dr. Ectopic Pregnancies are Safe?

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Here's Patrick Johnston's bio on Amazon: 

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Dr. Johnston...and his wife, Elizabeth (AKA "The Activist Mommy), have a passion for strong families, restored marriages, Christian education, protecting the preborn, and the restoration of godly government.

This needs an edit STAT! 

Whatever transpired, it was "unforgivable."  This will not be an amicable divorce. 

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3 hours ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

Years ago, TAM made a blog post about wives or having a litter of kids or some shit. And I shit you not, Lori Alexander commented on it that she completely agreed with TAM. 

I would love it if Lori made a post about how disappointed she is in TAM’s divorce. Because they are both equally vile.

Lori did not.  She did, however, post something about how awesome it is that moms are being forced to stay home with their kids, because schools are closed. Because "they can protect them from the virus and homeschool them." Who knew Christian homeschooling moms had antiviral properties?

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Apparently she was feeling down today, so she went to yell at women outside a clinic and it cheered her right up! Ugh.

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Be prepared for a lot of TAM justifying her divorce (only)—just like Gwen from The Remnant Church.  No grace for anyone besides themselves.

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17 hours ago, HereComesTreble said:

Be prepared for a lot of TAM justifying her divorce (only)—just like Gwen from The Remnant Church.  No grace for anyone besides themselves.

These people have zero ability for self reflection or introspection, but that's no surprise.  They've been projectile vomiting religious dogma for so long that critical thought withered away in the distant past. 

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This is why covenant marriages or no, I wouldn't be surprised if a Duggar child ends up divorced some day. Fundies justify the hell out of divorces when it's their divorce. 

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9 minutes ago, Pecansforeveryone said:

This is why covenant marriages or no, I wouldn't be surprised if a Duggar child ends up divorced some day. Fundies justify the hell out of divorces when it's their divorce. 

I’m counting on at least one Duggar divorce. And actually my guess is that there will be more than one.

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22 minutes ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

I’m counting on at least one Duggar divorce. And actually my guess is that there will be more than one.

I’m just wondering who. It may not necessarily be the one(s) we think. 

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3 minutes ago, mango_fandango said:

I’m just wondering who. It may not necessarily be the one(s) we think. 

Or they may not be married yet. One of the middle boys could jump too hastily in a marriage that’s all wrong for him. Or one of the littlest girls could accept the first boy that even looks their way.

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I would tend to predict one of the middles on down myself, anxious to get out of house or for some attention and love. 

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