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John David and Abbie 9: Yet Another Baby Watch - Grace is Here!

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Actually a really sad story: I was against circumcision but my husband really wanted it for our son so I gave in. My co-worker who had gotten pregnant on the verge of her divorce (and then had her baby alone) told me, “I wished I had had a man there to make that decision.” 

Ultimately my son, who will be 18 next month, says he is glad he is circumcised. Also, there is less risk of HIV in circumcised men as we know now.

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SorenaJ

They have invented something else that also greatly reduces the risk of sexual transmission of HIV. They're called condoms, and they are actually really neat. Also greatly reduces the risk of getting other STIs and reduces the risk of unwanted pregnancies. 

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Sullie06
17 hours ago, adidas said:

I begged daily ... and wore my parents down! 21 became 18, then 15, then 13, then 10 ... and I got them done for my 8th birthday ❤️ I still love buying earrings to match my outfits. 

 

Same to the bolded. I have like 180 pairs of earrings and my husband is always like are you buying more earrings. Of course I am, you can never have to many earrings. 

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Mama Mia

I had my daughters ears pierced as infants, it was just common at the time. For multiple piercings or non-ear piercings they were in their teens at their request. A couple of the boys also got piercings in middle school. One kept his and went on to get the ear gauges when older  - that seems like more of an adult decision as they leave more than a tiny pinprick if they change their mind. I’m glad they can’t legally get tattoos until 18. Most of my kids (now in their 30’s) have several and that doesn’t seem like a decision that should be made lightly. 


 

 

They’ve all handled ear piercing with their daughters in different ways - there are a ton of little girls in the family, I think the youngest was 1, most were 6 ish, 1 didn’t until she was 10.  But out of 8 girls currently aged 4-11  I believe they all have pierced ears (maybe 1 doesn’t) . 

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Snarkasarus Rex

It’s funny, because I remember getting my ears pierced was such a big thing when I was little. But it’s just not a thing in my family now.  I got my ears pierced when I was 9. 

I think I brought the topic of ear piercing  up with my girls when we were watching an episode of Dr. Pimple Popper. One of the patients regretted getting gauges and wanted to get them sewn up.  My daughters wanted nothing to do with pierced ears after that, even though I told them it was nothing like getting gauges 😂. I rarely wear earrings, so maybe that has influenced them.

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therulesofjinx
18 hours ago, adidas said:

I begged daily ... and wore my parents down!

Same here! I also got mine pierced when I saw 8. I think my mom was tired of me asking. Then we both went to get our cartilage pierced when I was in the early years of high school and she eventually let me get a second hole in my cartilage as well. The begging worked yet again when I wanted my belly button pierced and she went with me when I was 17 to get it done. I got second holes in my earlobes on my 18th birthday just because I could. And then I got my nose pierced at 21. The only ones I still wear now in my mid-30's are the nose ring and first holes in my lobes. Haven't worn earrings in the second holes or cartilage in years, although they have not closed. I try them out from time to time...the belly button has closed.

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Flossie

Regarding circumcision for boys.  My family did it routinely, it was the way things were done.  My husband's family was the same, but he was born prematurely and the doctor told his parents to wait until he was older.  By the time he was considered old enough, his parents were still paying off hospital bills and trying to keep their home.  They decided to wait a little longer.  No insurance back then, at least not for them.  In the end they never had it done.  

My MIL confessed that she always worried about health and cleanliness issues and the strangeness of it all.  My husband remembers that during baths, she would insist on having him pull back the foreskin and really wash his penis well, maybe too well.  He hated it and resented the intrusion.  I assumed that happened when he was still a small child, but I found out from other family members she would invade his baths until he was in his teens to oversee the washing of the penis.  It took the family doctor to tell her that someone of that age knows how to wash their body and leave him alone.  Finally able to bathe alone, he ignored pulling back his foreskin and just washed however.  

When I first got with him, I admit that the only other penis's (penis'?) I'd seen were circumcised and it was weird, but the damn thing worked just fine, if you know what I mean.  Initially, we just had regular missionary sex.  The first time he asked me for a blow job, I couldn't do it.  His penis smelled nasty and there was some yellowish pasty stuff under the rim of the head.  I got him to wash by making the cleaning of the penis into foreplay.  It became our thing.  Over time, he completely washed his penis without the promise of sex afterwards.  Once, when drunk, he admitted that he ignored washing his penis because he resented his mother making it such a big deal that she insisted on overseeing the process.


Regarding pierced ears, my mother wouldn't allow it.  She'd had pierced ears when she was a teen and once pulled a tight sweater over her head and the earring caught on the sweater.  It tore through her ear lobe, which hurt like heck and the blood ruined her sweater.  By the time the wound healed, she was done with earrings, and wouldn't let my older sister get it done.  Big sis was quite the rebel, and showed up one day with pierced ears.  She'd got a friend of hers to take her to a beauty shop.  Mom acquiesced, and let sis keep them, predicting that eventually she'll regret it.

I had my ears pierced when I was 16.  I was visiting my father and my step mother took me to have it done, I suspect as an FU you yo my mother.  Horrible experience, the aftercare of taking care of newly pierced ears was a chore and I got a mild infection from not following the instructions correctly.  I found that I was only occasionally interested in earrings and would wear the same pair for months on end.  Eventually I stopped wearing them completely and let the holes close.  One time I decided to reopen them and pushed the sharp pointed piercing studs through my ears by hand.  Again, after a couple of years I took my earrings out and can't imagine bothering with them again.

I've offered my kids the option of having their ears pierced, but only after they got into their teens, and told them about the initial pain and the aftercare, but admitted that if you like earrings, it can be fun.  My oldest elected to have it done, but eventually found it to be too much of a bother.  She doesn't wear earrings very often, so I'm surprised that her holes hasn't closed up.  None of my other kids have ever been interested in it.

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neuroticcat
On 7/14/2020 at 6:06 AM, CarrotCake said:

But you make a decision about their body that they cannot change back.

Maybe they never want their ears pierced and they will always have the scar.

Yeah my mom pierced mine as a baby so people would know I was a girl. 
i don’t know if I would have wanted pierced ears as a teen/tween - probably since I got my nose pierced then.

But I dislike it now. I never wear earrings, have permanent holes, and a nickel allergy which is super common after ear piercing. I didn’t even consider it for my daughter. 

We circumcised our boys. I left it up to my husband. It is becoming less common here though. If it were my decision I probably wouldn’t have. 

I don’t know if the cleanliness thing is true or not but if so I’m glad. It’s hard enough to get tween/teen boys to shower let alone clean anything properly (and I’m not going to be that mom checking on them!)

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SorenaJ

I got my ears pierced at age 12, because I wanted to, and I was happy I did, because I would be too scared to do it now as an adult, because I hate needles, but I was less afraid as I child, and I don't remember the pain. I saw a 5 or 6 year old girl having her ears pierced in a jewelry shop, and I thought that was a good age, because she is braver at that age, than as an adult, and she won't remember the pain. But I wouldn't do it to a baby, but a 6 year old, sure. 

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HereticHick

JD and Abbie are so quiet, they may make it to Baby Watch #2 before this moves on to a new thread.

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EmiSue
2 hours ago, HereticHick said:

JD and Abbie are so quiet, they may make it to Baby Watch #2 before this moves on to a new thread.

Almost like, gasp, normal people who don't have reality shows. 

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Audrey2

I know that Torie Bates did that as well.

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neurogirl

I got my ears pierced at 13. I didn't want to beforehand because I was too scared. I still rarely wear earrings. 

My husband is uncircumcised. His was the only male undercarriage I've ever seen so I didn't know any different! His father either experienced or knew a circumcision went wrong so he insisted his three sons remain uncut. It was weird for someone of my husband's age but the times are changing. My friends' male partners who are uncut feel for the most part strongly against circumcision. It was the fashionable thing to do for a while, but unless there are health or religious reasons, there's no impetus anymore. Plus the US was always by itself in its popularity.

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