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after skimming some of her posts, I'm mildly convinced that this woman is a russian bot that exists to spread conservative feminity bullshit.

... jk, but her sentence structure is weird as hell.

Her content screams "thirsty" and "major self-esteem issues," in a way, I feel sort of bad for her.

 

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21 hours ago, dripcurl said:

 

Some other random atrocities from this post:

”Girly and childlike speech and actions provokes warmth and good feelings from others unlike being childish and immature making others feel uncomfortable around her causing drama. She infuses peace in her speech.”

 

My nephew's fiancee (wedding is in two weeks) talks in a high pitched little girl voice when he's in the room. She has a normal adult voice when he's not. It makes me want to slap the girl. 

She's not religious and neither is her family, so no idea where it came from with her. 

And I do not understand what the appeal is for men. Who wants to listen to that all the time? 

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10 hours ago, Howl said:

Damn, but this chafes my chaps.  No, it doesn't "provoke" warmth and good feelings.  It's grotesque. It provokes, WTAF is wrong with this woman; she doesn't have normal adult speech patterns

Mrs. Pecan Thief, at least in past videos, has this type of affected speech. I've seen a few fundie women on video speaking this way.  Teaching girls that this is how adult women speak, and then that little girl growing up and continuing to speak that way, IMHO, is profoundly damaging. 

Isn't that Michelle Duggar's thing?  The childlike speech, keeping her voice low and sounding like a defenseless child is supposed to make the menfolk feel protective and manly.  Or some such crap like that.

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4 hours ago, dripcurl said:

Good Lord. That sounds like it came straight out of a nervous breakdown. 

 

Here is a post from her other blog

https://sifttwice.blogspot.com/2019/09/when-man-makes-up-his-mind-its-finished.html?m=1

 

It’s a short read, and I feel like she is either actively being abused, is mentally unstable, or both and I don’t know where one ends and the other begins ?

When I asked my husband for a divorce he pleaded with me to reconsider.  When I didn't bend to his will he berated me for being stubborn.  He basically bragged about how he was "convincible," but I wasn't (to my detriment).  As if it was a bad thing to stand your ground.

Much to his chagrin we have been divorced for 7 years.  :) 

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1 hour ago, SunnySylvia said:

From the article , 

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Update: 
A gentleman named Roosh has a ebook/audio out called Lady.
 He has informed me this is a book for those beginning to sleep with men, but looking for a good one. 

I have purchased his ebook to show my support and being in a relationship with a good man. If I figure out how to insert the links it into this blog, I shall add it.
 

I see that she has made mention of Roosh V .  So , in case anyone missed the connection , " Feminine Belle"  seems to be yet another alt-right woman , who tends to mix together traditionalism with racialism  .  

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6 hours ago, SunnySylvia said:

We are former & current neighbors, coworkers (of her husband - she has never worked), and former friends who have all been burned by this hypocrite. What caused the most anger (and pain) was discovering her comments and blog entries about intimate, private details of our lives that we had confided in her. Every single time she was pointing out our flaws and mistakes (i.e. my pregnancy BEFORE my wedding day) belittling and ridiculing us to these people online who don’t know the REAL Lisa. 

https://obesitybelle.blogspot.com/?m=1

 

 

 

Since you seem to know this feminine belle woman in real life, can you explain this? Who writes this blog you linked at?

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It’s written mostly by her former next door neighbor but also some other women who know her personally. 

“Feminine Belle” (AKA Surfercajun, Belle Bayou, and other names I forgot) developed an imaginary relationship with a waiter at a restaurant she occasionally visited. Mind you, she is a 50 year old housewife. He is a young starving musician. He probably smiled at her an was polite - always helps to increase the tips - which led her to believe he wanted her. lol She wrote about him every day on her blog... how much she admired him, how she was the only woman who deserved him...

Feminine Belle’s former neighbor created an account and catfished her using the info she (FB) wrote about this man on her blog. 

One of the women who write on that blog making fun of Feminine Belle tells about how when she finally ended their friendship, Belle left a book on her front porch. It was either Fascinating Womanhood or Created to Be His Helpmate - I cant remember which. Very passive aggressive. 

The “blog” making fun of her is mostly just copied & pasted  stuff that Feminine Belle wrote online - either on her own “blogs” or comments to others. I think the authors were more commiserating & sharing the things she did to their families. There are a few other websites we chat on. 

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3 hours ago, SunnySylvia said:

It’s written mostly by her former next door neighbor but also some other women who know her personally. 

“Feminine Belle” (AKA Surfercajun, Belle Bayou, and other names I forgot) developed an imaginary relationship with a waiter at a restaurant she occasionally visited. Mind you, she is a 50 year old housewife. He is a young starving musician. He probably smiled at her an was polite - always helps to increase the tips - which led her to believe he wanted her. lol She wrote about him every day on her blog... how much she admired him, how she was the only woman who deserved him...

Feminine Belle’s former neighbor created an account and catfished her using the info she (FB) wrote about this man on her blog. 

One of the women who write on that blog making fun of Feminine Belle tells about how when she finally ended their friendship, Belle left a book on her front porch. It was either Fascinating Womanhood or Created to Be His Helpmate - I cant remember which. Very passive aggressive. 

The “blog” making fun of her is mostly just copied & pasted  stuff that Feminine Belle wrote online - either on her own “blogs” or comments to others. I think the authors were more commiserating & sharing the things she did to their families. There are a few other websites we chat on. 

I am not a fan of what you are doing to this woman. The cat fishing is not cool. She is obviously mentally ill. I am not sure we should be talking about her.

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That blog seems just bullying and fat shaming a person who is clearly not fully there. I agree with @nelliebelle1197, it's clear to me that this woman is mentally fragile and her religious delusions don't seem to me a reason enough to mock and bully her on fj.

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14 hours ago, SunnySylvia said:

We are former & current neighbors, coworkers (of her husband - she has never worked), and former friends who have all been burned by this hypocrite. What caused the most anger (and pain) was discovering her comments and blog entries about intimate, private details of our lives that we had confided in her. Every single time she was pointing out our flaws and mistakes (i.e. my pregnancy BEFORE my wedding day) belittling and ridiculing us to these people online who don’t know the REAL Lisa. 

https://obesitybelle.blogspot.com/?m=1

 

 

 

Is this a group of people posting? 

The link doesn't work anymore. Why did you guys decide to make it private? 

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Just now, SunnySylvia said:

It is set to private readers so as not to trigger anyone re: the content. 

Well if whatever is written is bad enough that they now want to hide it I sure hope they realize that they weren't any better than their neighbor.

I'm still confused. Are you one person, a group of people, did you write on the blog if you are one person? 

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Ugh this thread has turned into a cluster of assholes.

Neighbors sound like horrible bitches - who the hell CATFISHES someone?  

Feminine Belle sounds like a woman with very low intelligence and mental health issues. That doesn't excuse - though it may be driving - her posts trying to teach us that  women are worthless morons compared to men.

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I am one person. I did not “write” anything on the blog, but some of the information/content came from me. (I.e. screenshots of conversations I shared with others.) The “blog” consists of things shared by probably 12 or so individuals. The main author was very close to Feminine Belle at one time, but after the author suffered a miscarriage, Bell did some horrible things to her. I believe that’s the main motivation. 

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14 hours ago, SunnySylvia said:

We are former & current neighbors, coworkers (of her husband - she has never worked), and former friends who have all been burned by this hypocrite. What caused the most anger (and pain) was discovering her comments and blog entries about intimate, private details of our lives that we had confided in her. Every single time she was pointing out our flaws and mistakes (i.e. my pregnancy BEFORE my wedding day) belittling and ridiculing us to these people online who don’t know the REAL Lisa. 

https://obesitybelle.blogspot.com/?m=1

 

 

 

Welcome to FJ.   I am a bit confused by your use of "we" in the quoted post.  FJ does not allow accounts to be used by more than one person per our TOU which you agreed to when registering.  If you are using the royal we that is ok, but if "we" means more than one person using this account that is not ok and each person will need to register for their own account.

We allow "insider" info, but that blog you posted seems to be talking shit about a woman that is abused, mentally ill, or both and isn't really the kind of thing we do here.  We are devoted to discussing the dangers of extreme religion, which she does seem to fall under based on the OP.  Perhaps you can tell us more about her religious beliefs rather than the "mean girl" type stuff.

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On 9/20/2019 at 12:53 PM, WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo? said:

She homeschools her kids? From her post on ironing:

I hope none of her kids dreams of being a writer when they grow up. 

Her kids will have better sentence structure if they were homeschooled by Yoda, they will. 

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Belle’s husband, “Peacock Man”, has guest posted

https://femininebelle.blogspot.com/2019/09/just-few-thoughts-on-what-marriage.html?m=1

He ended with a super weird PS:

”PS – for those who think this is Feminine Belle writing under a different persona, think again. As I have stated, I WILL and MUST jump in between her and what ever is impacting her negativity.”

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37 minutes ago, dripcurl said:

Belle’s husband, “Peacock Man”, has guest posted

https://femininebelle.blogspot.com/2019/09/just-few-thoughts-on-what-marriage.html?m=1

He ended with a super weird PS:

”PS – for those who think this is Feminine Belle writing under a different persona, think again. As I have stated, I WILL and MUST jump in between her and what ever is impacting her negativity.”

He talks about - gasp - compromise!  A concept that so many fundie families find inconceivable since the MAN must make the decisions.

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9 minutes ago, hollyfeller said:

He talks about - gasp - compromise!  A concept that so many fundie families find inconceivable since the MAN must make the decisions.

He doesn't sound fundie at all and seems to genuinely love her. And writes a lot better than her.

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I knew he wasn’t fundie when he talked about respecting his wife. The principle of the man being respected and the woman being “loved” is not limited to fundie world but permeates most of evangelicalism. You NEVER hear about the woman being respected. When I had my first boyfriend, my pastor at the time had us read a booked called “Love and Respect”. It was ridiculous, it drew a very black and white line between men needing respect, and women needing love, is if the two are exclusive. My evangelical parents found it odd, because they always believed men should be taught to respect women, and both parties need love more than anything - that’s where it all begins. I hated the book, but my emotionally abusive ex loved the shit out of it. He saw it as a golden ticket - he was obsessed with it. But it was eye opening to see how that is such a common principle in patriarchy. Men are an authority figure, and women are given this false hope that they somehow have the better deal since they are being “cherished”. 

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Peacock Man sounds like a super hero whose super power is vanity and dressing gaudy.

They both have some grammar/proofreading issues but his sentence structure seems less weird somehow. The profile was created this month.

His train of thought is somewhat muddy as well as his wife. In the first paragraph he tells us what he intends to write about:

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Back in December, I stated why I disdain the word “Homemaker” to my wife’s amazement. In our years together, I had never made such a statement. As a result, she asked me to write a post and share my thoughts. She was fascinated and thought other people would be too. As I was writing, I was about to take a turn and go way off topic so, I reined myself back and stayed on topic. Today, I would like to cover at least a few of those thoughts. 

But in the end, the post does not contain any explanation about why he disdains the word homemaker, just some general thoughts about values, honesty and marriage.

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One of the worst things I think anyone could say, is “I should of or could of”. This means, there was a very short thought process involved in their decision. Only one prospective was involved – their own. This indicates a selfish person to me. Giving me every indication of a lack of respect.

Error= does not compute... Having regrets for some things in the past in no way means that those choices were made impulsively or selfishly or without respect for others.

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I use to think my wife could not possibly go any where else. Even though she told me differently, I did not understand. I know we were put together for a reason. We are, for many reasons, different sides of the same coin. Even though we were raised by different people and born in different parts of the country, we have too many similar childhood experiences not to be put together for a reason. I also know, that she loves me with all her heart. Her going to someone else was not a concern.

On a December day a few years back, I found out differently. It was a shock. We eventually looked back and saw that we both had lost our focus. Because we are a team, we must fix this. We looked at the entity we started with. We saw how outside forces (work, so called friends, and children, to name a few) had divided us apart. We also noticed that we had fallen from our values, trust, respect, and honesty. With help, time, and a lot of effort from both of us, we came out the other-side putting ourselves and our marriage back together. Piece by piece, we put our values, respect, honesty, and trust back into each other. Like repairing a foundation, we repaired what made us work before. As a result, WE changed. We became much stronger and different people than we where before.

As I said, I have changed too, I know I can lose her. As her husband, I need to protect her always. When she ask me to do something and I don’t, then she loses respect. Without respect, other parts of our values will crumble. I have not always done this. So now, I MUST protect her at all cost. I MUST jump between her and what ever is impacting her negativity. This is why NO ONE, will come between us ever again. I will NOT put our values at risk, again!

Is he saying that she cheated on him, or was tempted to?

I'm not sure that a marriage in which the husband has to do all that she wants or she loses respect for him and all their values crumble sounds all that ideal to me but whatever floats their boat. 

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20 hours ago, AmazonGrace said:

Peacock Man sounds like a super hero whose super power is vanity and dressing gaudy.

They both have some grammar/proofreading issues but his sentence structure seems less weird somehow. The profile was created this month.

His train of thought is somewhat muddy as well as his wife. In the first paragraph he tells us what he intends to write about:

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Back in December, I stated why I disdain the word “Homemaker” to my wife’s amazement. In our years together, I had never made such a statement. As a result, she asked me to write a post and share my thoughts. She was fascinated and thought other people would be too. As I was writing, I was about to take a turn and go way off topic so, I reined myself back and stayed on topic. Today, I would like to cover at least a few of those thoughts. 

But in the end, the post does not contain any explanation about why he disdains the word homemaker, just some general thoughts about values, honesty and marriage.

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One of the worst things I think anyone could say, is “I should of or could of”. This means, there was a very short thought process involved in their decision. Only one prospective was involved – their own. This indicates a selfish person to me. Giving me every indication of a lack of respect.

Error= does not compute... Having regrets for some things in the past in no way means that those choices were made impulsively or selfishly or without respect for others.

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I use to think my wife could not possibly go any where else. Even though she told me differently, I did not understand. I know we were put together for a reason. We are, for many reasons, different sides of the same coin. Even though we were raised by different people and born in different parts of the country, we have too many similar childhood experiences not to be put together for a reason. I also know, that she loves me with all her heart. Her going to someone else was not a concern.

On a December day a few years back, I found out differently. It was a shock. We eventually looked back and saw that we both had lost our focus. Because we are a team, we must fix this. We looked at the entity we started with. We saw how outside forces (work, so called friends, and children, to name a few) had divided us apart. We also noticed that we had fallen from our values, trust, respect, and honesty. With help, time, and a lot of effort from both of us, we came out the other-side putting ourselves and our marriage back together. Piece by piece, we put our values, respect, honesty, and trust back into each other. Like repairing a foundation, we repaired what made us work before. As a result, WE changed. We became much stronger and different people than we where before.

As I said, I have changed too, I know I can lose her. As her husband, I need to protect her always. When she ask me to do something and I don’t, then she loses respect. Without respect, other parts of our values will crumble. I have not always done this. So now, I MUST protect her at all cost. I MUST jump between her and what ever is impacting her negativity. This is why NO ONE, will come between us ever again. I will NOT put our values at risk, again!

Is he saying that she cheated on him, or was tempted to?

I'm not sure that a marriage in which the husband has to do all that she wants or she loses respect for him and all their values crumble sounds all that ideal to me but whatever floats their boat. 

It sounds to me like he was being a dick and she either had an affair (or maybe an emotional one) or was seriously considering it and that gave him a wakeup call to stop his douchery.

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The English teacher in me just wants to take a red pen to this whole thing.

On 9/25/2019 at 12:57 AM, AmazonGrace said:

One of the worst things I think anyone could say, is “I should of or could of”. This means, there was a very short thought process involved in their decision. Only one prospective was involved – their own. This indicates a selfish person to me. Giving me every indication of a lack of respect.

Grammar kitty is crying ?

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