Lori Alexander 69: cold, angry, mean and racist

[onemama]

21 hours ago, usmcmom said:

I, personally, think there is A LOT of dirt waiting to be dug up on Ken and Lori Alexander; especially Ken. And when that happens we all need to remember these words from a godly older woman. 

We, as Christians, have every right to rebuke them publicly.  Am I right?

Lori, please provide a chapter and verse for that assertion.  I'll help you: you won't find one single verse that supports your idea that Christians have the right to rebuke a Christian couple for getting divorced. 

Rebuking is not a right but a responsibility, and this is not a responsibility to be taken lightly or abused. Rebuke people who try to harm those in your care, for example, try rebuking Trey, Dave or Elias when they post hurtful comments on your blog.  That would be within your "sphere of authority" because you claim to run a teaching blog and want to minister to women.  But be careful when rebuking people you don't know. You see, Lori, you don't know what all has happened in the marriage of Joshua and Shannon Harris so you have no business rebuking them for separating (they haven't said that they're getting divorced, have they?).  

In other words, Lori, tend to your business and take heed of this verse:  "if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!" (1 Corinthians 10:12)

[Frog99]

@wallysmommy where is that exchange? I can’t find it. 

[wallysmommy]

@Frog99 It's on FB under this post:

 

[feministxtian]

forced BJ? I bite y'all!!!! I'd bite that sucker right the fuck off...you don't force me to do jack shit. 

[SweetLaurel]

16 minutes ago, feministxtian said:

forced BJ? I bite y'all!!!! I'd bite that sucker right the fuck off...you don't force me to do jack shit. 

  You get beaten down enough emotionally and/or physically and you will do whatever jack shit he wants not to be hurt anymore.   Until...  hopefully until.  Sadly, many do not get their until, thanks to people like Lori.  

Edited July 24, 2019 by SweetLaurel
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[Red Hair, Black Dress]

Trey is vile. Trey's thoughts on oral sex as humiliating discipline are disgustingly vile. BGR defending Trey's views is uber vile.

BGR posts on "caring" (I use that word advisedly) for a disabled wife is so uber vile that I need a word vile-er than vile to describe it. 

Obviously neither he nor "Bob" (who wrote in about his poor pitiful life and how he was emasculated and depressed by being a caregiver) said or meant the "in sickness and in health" part of their wedding vows.  Or does that only apply to women coddling men?

Edited to add:

I bet cash money Lori agrees with Trey on oral sex as discipline as well as BGR's 2 posts. Agrees for other women that is.  Didn't Ken do some caregiving and hire a nanny and housekeeper when Lori was so so "sick" for 25 years?

Edited July 24, 2019 by Red Hair, Black Dress

[PinkPrincess0213]

This is like the whole Lysa Terkeurst  thing. Lori had a field day over that too - then didn't say BOO (I don't think, someone correct me if I'm wrong) about when they reconciled.

Shannon's Instagram definitely hints at a change in faith, possibly even a de-conversion from a very conservative faith. That takes a toll on a marriage based pretty much entirely upon that narrative - I have personal experience with this and it is hard. She deserves peace and privacy, as does Josh, despite the damage he caused.

Honestly, she craves feeling superior to everyone. Must be nice to always know that you are better than EVERYONE else around you......

[Lgirlrocks]

Jesus never spoke once of gender roles. Not once. These guys that think they are entitled to sex and not having to care for the sick wives or helping their family are wrong. They are entitled to nothing. Marriage doesn’t guarantee sex whenever you want it. Who could have sex with a person that is in pain. That would be a turn off right then. My mom had to become the bread winner when my dad could no longer work. She is still a Christian. 

[wallysmommy]

How much do you want to bet BGR, Trey and company all have huge cable bills from the porn they watch on PPV.  Or the local porn shop knows them by name.

[hollyfeller]

3 hours ago, SweetLaurel said:

  You get beaten down enough emotionally and/or physically and you will do whatever jack shit he wants not to be hurt anymore.   Until...  hopefully until.  Sadly, many do not get their until, thanks to people like Lori.  

This is what happened to me.  I did everything I possibly could to make my ex happy, but it was never enough.  I described it best in a blog post years ago - after my divorce.

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"When it all boils down to it, you realize that you’re scared on him. Not because he hits you or verbally assaults you, but because he looks down on you. You’re his inferior. And you know that whatever you do, inevitably to try and please him, will more than likely fail. On some level, at least. For one detail or another he’ll look at you like you’re an idiot and you’ll curse yourself for screwing up yet again. You’ll berate yourself for not living up to his standards, even though the rational part of your brain knows that’s impossible. And after each incident you’ll be even more scared of messing up the next time. You’re afraid of his disappointment, his explanation of what you did wrong, and his lack of appreciation for all of your efforts. This is emotional abuse. Plain and simple. It’s not as obvious as physical violence or outright insults, but it’s just as damaging."

 

Edited July 25, 2019 by hollyfeller
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[Sarah92]

I am almost positive, as @wallysmommy mentioned above, that Trey and the like probably have a serious porn problem. Forcing Oral sex and the like is very indicative of porn which often has very little consent. 

Trey's wife commented on one of the posts about becoming a transformed wife and I can't help but feel like it's forced. 

[feministxtian]

4 hours ago, SweetLaurel said:

  You get beaten down enough emotionally and/or physically and you will do whatever jack shit he wants not to be hurt anymore.   Until...  hopefully until.  Sadly, many do not get their until, thanks to people like Lori.  

Yeah, I bit my X's dick...I drew blood. He didn't touch me again. He was a fucking bully who, like so many others, backs down the minute you stand up to them. 

[Lgirlrocks]

Most people look at negative reviews when they are deciding if they want to by something. I always read the negative reviews because a lot of people post a positive one right after they buy the item and haven’t really used it. 

[Sarah92]

Set aside all critical thinking skills and ignore the one star reviews! 

[Lgirlrocks]

5 hours ago, Sarah92 said:

Set aside all critical thinking skills and ignore the one star reviews! 

Women aren’t supposed to use their brains. God gave us a brain so we could submit it to our husbands. 

On another note Lori is on her god called us to suffer kick. God called us to suffer for him. Like the persecuted church in China and other countries in the world. Where people are being tortured for their faith. He never called women to suffer in marriage. 

[Free Jana Duggar]

Ok Lori, God talks about suffering for the cause of Christ, saying Christians will be persecuted for their faith.  

Suffering does not mean God wants us to be miserable. John 10:10 says Jesus came that we may have life and life abundantly. Yes, trials will come, but God does want us to enjoy our life. The Joy of the Lord is our strength.

[Koala]

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No, they believe no woman should suffer and if she’s suffering, she needs to get out of the marriage and divorce, but this isn’t scriptural. 

Ken?  Hi.  Check out the above quote.  That kind of incoherent rambling is one of the reasons people are concerned that Lori may be suffering from some kind of cognitive decline.

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I have been told that no one listens to me and many enjoy mocking me because what I teach is “dangerous.”

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 It’s easy in our culture to escape suffering through medical advances, drugs, alcohol, materialism, and the many comforts we enjoy. 

Lori?  You just equated "medical advances" (like, I don't know....Cyber Knife) to drugs and alcohol.  Seriously.  You sound like an unhinged person.  You are 100% dangerous to people who don't have the sense to see just how crazy you are.

Edited July 25, 2019 by Koala

[Imrlgoddess]

I get the sneaking suspicion that Trey was either a victim of some crazy abuse or a long time witness to it.  Adding up some of his comments between BGR and TTW, he seems to really believe the whacked out shit he writes.  

Lori has no idea what suffering is.  She has been the sick one, she's never had to watch knowing she was powerless to do anything.  She has lived in comfort her entire life, never to worry about where the next meal comes from or if she's going to make it to work on the little bit of fuel left in her car.  She's never had to take charity.  

Spoiled, privileged little twat.  

[feministxtian]

Once again, Lori would have never survived my life. 

[HoneyBunny]

1 hour ago, feministxtian said:

Once again, Lori would have never survived my life. 

So much this, and I’m sorry that you can make that statement and we all know it to be true.

I feel much the same, and I know that no small part of my dislike for LazyLori comes from knowing that the things I’ve had to work so hard for, she had served up on a silver platter and still discounts their value, not just for herself but for all women. 

[feministxtian]

The thing is...my life is what has made me strong. Yeah, it SUCKS right now and has sucked in the past. But...adversity builds muscles you never knew you had. It's why I can get up every morning, deal with the shit, get shit done, yell at the appropriate people and end up feeling quite accomplished. 

Lori will never know that feeling of accomplishment from digging yourself out of a shitty hole or fighting tooth and nail for someone else, loving someone passionately and completely, the willingness to put self aside to do what must be done whether you want to do it or not. 

Snots and bitches like her can look down on me all they want...thing is, I KNOW I'm a badass bitch who's survived some shit and succeeded at things beyond her wildest dreams. I can look at myself in the mirror and honestly say that I've done the best I knew/know how to do and fought like a lioness to protect me and mine. 

[thoughtful]

2 hours ago, feministxtian said:

Once again, Lori would have never survived my life. 

Hell, Lori wouldn't have survived my life, and, believe me, my life hasn't been that hard.

I worked hard and enthusiastically in school - I still try to learn. After major surgeries and illnesses, I have gone back to being responsible. I work hard at teaching, cooperate with others, guide children with kindness and logic, care for loved ones (human, canine and avian, including through illness and death), budget and shop frugally, care for a home, and pay my own way. I try to admit when I'm wrong. I have never hung on to a man using fake subservience or any other kind of manipulation, just so I could have a man/meal ticket.

Pick any of the above, and Lori either wouldn't or couldn't do it. She lives the life of a whiny, spoiled toddler.

Edited July 25, 2019 by thoughtful
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[Dreadcrumbs]

If Lori were in my shoes, she'd be further behind than I am, provided my life didn't do her weak ass in.

[kpmom]

7 hours ago, Koala said:

 

Lori?  You just equated "medical advances" (like, I don't know....Cyber Knife) to drugs and alcohol.  Seriously.  You sound like an unhinged person.  You are 100% dangerous to people who don't have the sense to see just how crazy you are.

Yes, as I recall Lori was very grateful for medical advances when it benefited her.  IIRC, her surgeon suggested she wait to have her tumor removed until he got back from vacation or something.  Lori told him she was too sick to wait and had the surgery as soon as possible.

 

[usmcmom]

I really think that book review from “Anna” was written by Ken. It hits all of their favorite words - starting right off with “angry feminists.”  “Anna” is sure to use the words “godly,” “older woman,” “mentor,” and “spew.”

Regarding  the “feminist” hate, I have been around my share of fundies and ultra conservative couples and not one of them blames all the world’s evils on feminism. I have never heard anybody in real life refer to it as the cause of the church’s decline.  Nor have I ever heard feminism blamed for the decline of the family - never in real life conversations.

I do know one family who frequently says “It’s humanism. Humanism is wrecking our homes and churches.” Of course, I hear a lot of comments like “The Devil has them in their grips.”  But, feminism? Nope.