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The tweet right after it is a gem too:

I've been to a funeral where the officiant followed this advice. It was vile, disrespectful to the memory of my friend, and accomplished nothing except to hurt and anger those of us who had gathered to remember his life. 

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18 minutes ago, NachosFlandersStyle said:

The tweet right after it is a gem too:

I've been to a funeral where the officiant followed this advice. It was vile, disrespectful to the memory of my friend, and accomplished nothing except to hurt and anger those of us who had gathered to remember his life. 

That’s horrible. And I would love to know how the officiant would acknowledge the baby bump and then address the sin. That’s one awkward wedding if you ask me. I’ve definitely been to shotgun weddings. Thankfully the officiant never addressed the sin...

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He doesn't even care if you're a good husband and father?

Any old fool can get married, sire children and ruin a number of lives besides their own.

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I have been at a wedding in an IFB church where the bride was pregnant, and the pastor mentioned it during the service. I can't remember the exact words because it was at least 10 years ago, but I remember everyone's jaw dropping. I do remember it was judgy as hell & he called the baby a "mistake" and then said something about God bringing beauty from mistakes if we repent from our sins.
No one knew she was pregnant except bride & groom (& the pastor, of course). Not even their immediate families.

The couple were more angry than embarrassed.
 

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8 hours ago, FeministShrew said:

I have been at a wedding in an IFB church where the bride was pregnant, and the pastor mentioned it during the service. 

I don't know what denomination, but I went to a wedding where the pastor talked about it at great length. It was, hmm, over 30 years ago, and I still cringe every time I think about it. 

Bride was a few weeks away from 16 and groom was 18. Cake and punch reception surely did not make up for the horror of that wedding. 

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I wonder if that marriage survived.

(My guess would be no.)

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When my cousin got married for the second time to her twice-previously married (control-freak, stuck-in-patriarchy, she-has-a-house-and-pension-coming-grifter) husband, the Pentecostal minister went on and on about their baggage. He never did get to the part where they have hope for the future. 6 years later, they are still together, and his future is much brighter, because even if she dumped his sorry ass now, he will still get part of her pension and house.m

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My transgender friend commited suicide about 7 years ago. She was told she was head to toe full of cancer from all the hormones her sex change required her to swallow.  The funeral was beautiful.  Even though our church had not embraced the LGBTQ community yet (and is still struggling to do so) and suicide is seen as a sin the pastor did a beautiful job.  He explained how he had many conversations with my friend about her situation and that he could truly say that GOd welcomed her with open arms.  Everybody really felt at peace leaving the church

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Pastor presiding over wedding or funeral ought not lie or be inane.

I'm confused about how celebrating a wedding with joy or comforting with compassion those whose loved one took his or her own life is lying or being inane.  These people who are obsessed with sin to the exclusion of everything else drive me crazy. 

But that's just me as a Buddhist.  I find this more appealing than the sin and redemption model.

 May all beings, without one exception, know happiness and the causes of happiness. 

Tim Bayly actually sees only sin, and no redemption, and to remind people that really, they are just miserable f**king sinners who can't be redeemed because miserable sinners, and therefore, do not deserve joy and Tim sees his job as pointing this out constantly.  I'm not seeing much, if any, true joy in Tim Bayly.  This is a man profoundly lacking in empathy. 

 

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The lack of logic is once again astonishing. Fundies fail to connect the dots between the young woman who has an abortion to avoid being shamed for having an "out-of-wedlock" child and the very real way in which they contribute to a woman being more likely to seek an abortion.  (I know their are a myriad of reasons why women seek abortion. I am just pointing why fundies can and do make more abortion more likely not less likely.) 

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I was 5 or 6 weeks pregnant when Mr. Briefly and I re-married.  I never considered that we were sinners because of the divorce, nor that we were sinners because we finally managed to get pregnant before we officially re-wed, and I would probably go full RedHead Woman on anyone who said we were.

@hollyandivy I am so sorry about your friend.  I'm glad that the pastor was so kind and caring towards/about your friend. Her life mattered, she deserved to be loved and remembered in such a loving way.

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On 6/20/2019 at 12:36 PM, FeministShrew said:

I have been at a wedding in an IFB church where the bride was pregnant, and the pastor mentioned it during the service. I can't remember the exact words because it was at least 10 years ago, but I remember everyone's jaw dropping. I do remember it was judgy as hell & he called the baby a "mistake" and then said something about God bringing beauty from mistakes if we repent from our sins.
No one knew she was pregnant except bride & groom (& the pastor, of course). Not even their immediate families.

The couple were more angry than embarrassed.
 

I myself once attended a wedding service in which case the couple had committed premarital sex . The minister , who was United Methodist , for what it's worth , believe it or not , lectured on how a woman is not a sex machine .  We in attendance felt very uncomfortable by his words , especially since there were children present .  I think that if he had any qualms about sanctifying the marriage in the church , under the circumstances , he should have either refused them , or at the very least only denounced them privately , in premarital counseling , rather than shame them in front of their loved ones . 

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@briefly  thank you for your kind words, yes, she deserved it, she never meant any harm to anybody but was met with so much prejudice.....

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On 6/22/2019 at 8:33 PM, Marmion said:

 I think that if he had any qualms about sanctifying the marriage in the church , under the circumstances , he should have either refused them , or at the very least only denounced them privately , in premarital counseling , rather than shame them in front of their loved ones . 

Mr. Kittens and I were married in a Lutheran church and the pastor specifically avoided the topic of premarital sex in our counseling sessions, saying we’re all adults and he doesn’t need to know what we chose to do or not to do. He, instead, chose to focus the conversation on sex within the context of our upcoming marriage. 

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20 hours ago, Quiver Full of Kittens said:

Mr. Kittens and I were married in a Lutheran church and the pastor specifically avoided the topic of premarital sex in our counseling sessions, saying we’re all adults and he doesn’t need to know what we chose to do or not to do. He, instead, chose to focus the conversation on sex within the context of our upcoming marriage. 

Oh , I understand what you are saying .  I only meant that at the very least , if he had wanted to chide them , he should have done so privately , rather than publically shame them .  Also , in case some here might not know , the United Methodists , though perhaps not to the same extent as the Holiness movement , which has proceeded from Methodism , still holds to a doctrine of Christian perfection .  So the idea of keeping oneself pure before the Lord is emphasized , especially as it pertains to having good standing within the church . 

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On 6/23/2019 at 9:00 PM, Quiver Full of Kittens said:

Mr. Kittens and I were married in a Lutheran church and the pastor specifically avoided the topic of premarital sex in our counseling sessions, saying we’re all adults and he doesn’t need to know what we chose to do or not to do. He, instead, chose to focus the conversation on sex within the context of our upcoming marriage. 

We pretty much admitted to premarital sex in passing and our pastor didn't care.   

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My Dublin cousins call their mum 'mam'. So every time I see the typo in the title I think about Tim Bayly trying to be more motherly.

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On 6/25/2019 at 7:41 PM, EmainMacha said:

My Dublin cousins call their mum 'mam'. So every time I see the typo in the title I think about Tim Bayly trying to be more motherly.

The typo actually is ironically perfect!  ??

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I will never forget the pic on the old Bayly Brothers blog showing the two of them together in tuxes and boutonnières—and how quickly it was yanked when people started congratulating them on their marriage.

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5 hours ago, Hane said:

I will never forget the pic on the old Bayly Brothers blog showing the two of them together in tuxes and boutonnières—and how quickly it was yanked when people started congratulating them on their marriage.

"My Two Fundie Dads"

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On 6/29/2019 at 12:37 PM, Hane said:

I will never forget the pic on the old Bayly Brothers blog showing the two of them together in tuxes and boutonnières—and how quickly it was yanked when people started congratulating them on their marriage.

I’m sorry to know it’s gone. It was one of my favorites. 

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