Mrs Midwest

[Firefury14620]

12 hours ago, Missindependent said:

She used to post on Reddit and said her mom was against her marrying her now husband and said he was evil. She seems to have some mommy issues and maybe that’s why she favors men. 

She is also on LinkedIn as a marketing manager. This is her current position . Why doesn’t she ever mention that she is an independent contractor ? Is the full housewife thing an act. She lurks on redpill reddit and is obsessed with men approving of her so I wouldn’t be surprised if she acts this way to be more popular with men. 

She may not have updated her LinkedIn since she decided to stay at home. That or she does her job online, that would work with that career.

Regarding the Reddit post, a good quote from a movie is, "Don't make a decision you wouldn't tell your mom about." I think that can translate over to this situation where her mom wouldn't even go to the wedding. She has talked about her mom positively in videos so I think that she hasn't been honest about her relationship with her mom. I'm pretty conservative, but the red pill subreddit is just horrible and sexist. It's not a good idea to take advice on gender roles from someone who lurks on that subreddit.

[raspberrymint]

We don't know anything about Mr. Midwest as a person.  Mrs.'s mom could have been one of those controlling abusive parents who didn't want her child out of her own control.  Mrs. could be lying about this now to appeal to her audience.

[Marmion]

2 hours ago, raspberrymint said:

We don't know anything about Mr. Midwest as a person.  Mrs.'s mom could have been one of those controlling abusive parents who didn't want her child out of her own control.  Mrs. could be lying about this now to appeal to her audience.

It makes me wonder though what kind of church she grew up in , and how it compares with the one she's in now .  From the sounds of it , it seems as if she either was raised in a conservative , yet not cultist church , and is now part of an extremist cult , or she grew up in a cult , and ended up going from that to yet another cult , upon marrying into it , via her husband .  

[ViolaSebastian]

She does like to talk about how her mother was a speech language pathologist and how she felt neglected because her mother had to work.

[kaluce]

4 hours ago, raspberrymint said:

We don't know anything about Mr. Midwest as a person.  Mrs.'s mom could have been one of those controlling abusive parents who didn't want her child out of her own control.  Mrs. could be lying about this now to appeal to her audience.

She stated in an old reddit post that her husband had a "sexual past" and was addicted to porn, but overcame it because he found God.  

Based on her numerous "husbear" photos, I wonder if he just sort of puts up with her blog and the amount of sneaky photos she takes. It'll be interesting to see if her channel really blows up how he'll react. 

[ViolaSebastian]

This one is pretty inane, but I think the award still goes to the Disney Princess Energy one.

In any case:

1. Pick jewelry that looks ladylike and keep your wedding/engagement ring clean to "show your appreciation" to your man.

2. Stud earrings make your teeth look brighter.

3. Pick a ladylike purse. Throw out old and shabby purses. Avoid purses that are super colorful and look like a child carries them. Don't have a bag that has metal studs or words on that.

4. Wear ladylike glasses that are flattering to your face. Don't wear sunglasses on the top of your head; fold them up and tuck them into your shirt. 

5. Have a variety of shoes in different styles. Make sure they fit the event you're going to. Don't wear "grubby flats" to a formal event. Learn to walk in high heels. 

6. Belts "cinch in things" and scarves can be a "pop of color." Wear a belted coat in winter. Belts are ALSO practical--they hold up your pants!!!!1!!1!!111!!! 

7. Driving gloves are great in the fall, winter, and spring. (She shows photos of just plain gloves. Which is fine. But they're not what I'd think of as "driving gloves").

8. Wear hats. She wears one on her third-day greasy hair. Choose classic colors. And they protect you from the elements.

9. It's a struggle to look ladylike and feminine in a coat. Get a longer coat that goes past your bottom. Make sure your coat is warm. 

So, in other news, I take the exact opposite approach, down to my shabby old purse.

[JermajestyDuggar]

19 minutes ago, ViolaSebastian said:

This one is pretty inane, but I think the award still goes to the Disney Princess Energy one.

In any case:

1. Pick jewelry that looks ladylike and keep your wedding/engagement ring clean to "show your appreciation" to your man.

2. Stud earrings make your teeth look brighter.

3. Pick a ladylike purse. Throw out old and shabby purses. Avoid purses that are super colorful and look like a child carries them. Don't have a bag that has metal studs or words on that.

4. Wear ladylike glasses that are flattering to your face. Don't wear sunglasses on the top of your head; fold them up and tuck them into your shirt. 

5. Have a variety of shoes in different styles. Make sure they fit the event you're going to. Don't wear "grubby flats" to a formal event. Learn to walk in high heels. 

6. Belts "cinch in things" and scarves can be a "pop of color." Wear a belted coat in winter. Belts are ALSO practical--they hold up your pants!!!!1!!1!!111!!! 

7. Driving gloves are great in the fall, winter, and spring. (She shows photos of just plain gloves. Which is fine. But they're not what I'd think of as "driving gloves").

8. Wear hats. She wears one on her third-day greasy hair. Choose classic colors. And they protect you from the elements.

9. It's a struggle to look ladylike and feminine in a coat. Get a longer coat that goes past your bottom. Make sure your coat is warm. 

So, in other news, I take the exact opposite approach, down to my shabby old purse.

Her advice sucks. Who watches this garbage?

[ViolaSebastian]

You can pry my dangling hippie earrings and canvas purse bought from an outdoor shop out of my cold, dead hands.

[Firefury14620]

52 minutes ago, ViolaSebastian said:

This one is pretty inane, but I think the award still goes to the Disney Princess Energy one.

In any case:

1. Pick jewelry that looks ladylike and keep your wedding/engagement ring clean to "show your appreciation" to your man.

2. Stud earrings make your teeth look brighter.

3. Pick a ladylike purse. Throw out old and shabby purses. Avoid purses that are super colorful and look like a child carries them. Don't have a bag that has metal studs or words on that.

4. Wear ladylike glasses that are flattering to your face. Don't wear sunglasses on the top of your head; fold them up and tuck them into your shirt. 

5. Have a variety of shoes in different styles. Make sure they fit the event you're going to. Don't wear "grubby flats" to a formal event. Learn to walk in high heels. 

6. Belts "cinch in things" and scarves can be a "pop of color." Wear a belted coat in winter. Belts are ALSO practical--they hold up your pants!!!!1!!1!!111!!! 

7. Driving gloves are great in the fall, winter, and spring. (She shows photos of just plain gloves. Which is fine. But they're not what I'd think of as "driving gloves").

8. Wear hats. She wears one on her third-day greasy hair. Choose classic colors. And they protect you from the elements.

9. It's a struggle to look ladylike and feminine in a coat. Get a longer coat that goes past your bottom. Make sure your coat is warm. 

So, in other news, I take the exact opposite approach, down to my shabby old purse.

I don't even know what to say about this one... Apparently girls aren't allowed to have fun with their accessories and clothes. I'm pretty modest but within that boundary, I'm going to wear whatever clothes I want with whatever accessories I want and whatever purse I want and that doesn't make me any less of a woman.

[ViolaSebastian]

3 minutes ago, Firefury14620 said:

I don't even know what to say about this one... Apparently girls aren't allowed to have fun with their accessories and clothes. I'm pretty modest but within that boundary, I'm going to wear whatever clothes I want with whatever accessories I want and whatever purse I want and that doesn't make me any less of a woman.

She really likes to use the words "feminine" and "ladylike" to describe things, but as far as I know, she hasn't defined those terms. So things like "choose ladylike earrings" means different things to different people. I know women who I think are "feminine" but don't do the traditional pearls-and-diamond-studs-type stuff.

[Firefury14620]

1 hour ago, ViolaSebastian said:

She really likes to use the words "feminine" and "ladylike" to describe things, but as far as I know, she hasn't defined those terms. So things like "choose ladylike earrings" means different things to different people. I know women who I think are "feminine" but don't do the traditional pearls-and-diamond-studs-type stuff.

I think she's just trying to throw around buzzwords to grow her following. I also think that she's probably involved in some kind of religious cult to be talking and acting like this. She's just a little too "traditional". Also, the stuff she talked about in her video about her religion just didn't sound right to me. I'm a practicing Protestant in a very traditional church (Trinity Evangelical Church) and denomination (Communion of Reformed Evangelical Churches) and the stuff she was saying sounded super extreme even to me. I'm someone who takes the Word of God very seriously in practice in my everyday life and would be considered oddly traditional for a girl my age (18) by more modernist Christians. Even then, I still think that the stuff she said in that video and has brought up in other videos sounds too extreme. I think she's Christian for the wrong reasons and is following the wrong crowd in regards to what she's being taught. I hope that she's ok and is a willing participant in it. If not, I hope she can get out.

[Firefury14620]

Ok so I just did some sleuthing and I was able to figure out that she is probably still working. It looks like she works from her computer designing webpages and managing social media for different companies. She can do it all from home so she can technically be a homemaker to a certain extent.

[polecat]

5 hours ago, ViolaSebastian said:

She does like to talk about how her mother was a speech language pathologist and how she felt neglected because her mother had to work.

Jesus, I just had the craziest feeling sneaking feeling that her mom might've been someone I've snarked on in the past.

 I'm 99.999 percent sure she's not, though. But wow, was that the craziest. 

[WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?]

5 hours ago, ViolaSebastian said:

2. Stud earrings make your teeth look brighter.

Um, what? Do the stud earrings have tiny spotlights on them that I can aim at my teeth? ?

[thoughtful]

6 hours ago, ViolaSebastian said:

keep your wedding/engagement ring clean to "show your appreciation" to your man.

I don't think I've ever seen someone wearing a dirty wedding or engagement ring. Never mind that he paid for them, showing respect for both "your man" and yourself, by not having rings that are crawling with germs and bacteria, seems pretty basic.

6 hours ago, ViolaSebastian said:

Don't wear sunglasses on the top of your head; fold them up and tuck them into your shirt. 

Somehow, her conception of "ladylike" and the likelihood of always wearing a shirt with a pocket (so you can always put your sunglasses there) don't seem to go together in my mind.

[WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?]

6 minutes ago, thoughtful said:

6 hours ago, ViolaSebastian said:

Don't wear sunglasses on the top of your head; fold them up and tuck them into your shirt. 

Somehow, her conception of "ladylike" and the likelihood of always wearing a shirt with a pocket (so you can always put your sunglasses there) don't seem to go together in my mind.

I figured she meant more like the pic under the spoiler than in a pocket.

Spoiler

I couldn't find many pics, so I ended up with one that's rather Nike! and a good illustration of an eye trap.

 

Edited September 13, 2019 by WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?
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[thoughtful]

@WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?, probably. I didn't even think of that, having been trained in the care of glasses at such an early age that I would never think to do that!

Not that I ever take my glasses off, in any case. My time wearing contact lenses and sunglasses was comparatively short. So I never got the glasses-in-collar habit.

[WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?]

@thoughtful,  I got my first pair of glasses before kindergarten, and I never had the habit of hanging my glasses from my shirt until my eyes got old (presbyopia). I'm also nearsighted, so for now, I find it easier to read if I take my glasses off and hold things close to my eyes. If I don't have a safer place to put my glasses, I sometimes hang them from the front of my t-shirt. In my case, there's really no Nike to worry about!   

[smittykins]

14 hours ago, ViolaSebastian said:

Have a variety of shoes in different styles. Make sure they fit the event you're going to. Don't wear "grubby flats" to a formal event. Learn to walk in high heels. 

What advice does she have for women who can’t wear high heels, or, worse, need orthopedic shoes? ?‍♀️

[Four is Enough]

So I guess my dangllng, beaded, with skull beads and feathers, earrings are right out? I made those myself!!

Yeah. Fuck that.

Ladylike is a BEHAVIOR, not an ACCESSORY. Good Gawd.

Edited September 13, 2019 by Four is Enough

[AmazonGrace]

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8. Wear hats. She wears one on her third-day greasy hair. Choose classic colors. And they protect you from the elements. 

Is she against washing her hair?

[kaluce]

18 hours ago, ViolaSebastian said:

This one is pretty inane, but I think the award still goes to the Disney Princess Energy one.

In any case:

1. Pick jewelry that looks ladylike and keep your wedding/engagement ring clean to "show your appreciation" to your man.

2. Stud earrings make your teeth look brighter.

3. Pick a ladylike purse. Throw out old and shabby purses. Avoid purses that are super colorful and look like a child carries them. Don't have a bag that has metal studs or words on that.

4. Wear ladylike glasses that are flattering to your face. Don't wear sunglasses on the top of your head; fold them up and tuck them into your shirt. 

5. Have a variety of shoes in different styles. Make sure they fit the event you're going to. Don't wear "grubby flats" to a formal event. Learn to walk in high heels. 

6. Belts "cinch in things" and scarves can be a "pop of color." Wear a belted coat in winter. Belts are ALSO practical--they hold up your pants!!!!1!!1!!111!!! 

7. Driving gloves are great in the fall, winter, and spring. (She shows photos of just plain gloves. Which is fine. But they're not what I'd think of as "driving gloves").

8. Wear hats. She wears one on her third-day greasy hair. Choose classic colors. And they protect you from the elements.

9. It's a struggle to look ladylike and feminine in a coat. Get a longer coat that goes past your bottom. Make sure your coat is warm. 

So, in other news, I take the exact opposite approach, down to my shabby old purse.

So she basically just listed every type of accessory she could think of, described it's basic function, said "hey- make sure it's flattering to you!" and voila- you're a FeMiNiNe WoMaN now. Her content is so pointlessssssssss

[ViolaSebastian]

1 minute ago, kaluce said:

So she basically just listed every type of accessory she could think of, described it's basic function, said "hey- make sure it's flattering to you!" and voila- you're a FeMiNiNe WoMaN now. Her content is so pointlessssssssss

My favorite “tip” was wear a belt, because belts keep your pants up. They’re not just for show, people!!

Spoiler

 

[kaluce]

9 minutes ago, ViolaSebastian said:

My favorite “tip” was wear a belt, because belts keep your pants up. They’re not just for show, people!!

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This woman has 84K subscribers and her mindblowing fashion advice is "wear a belt" "gloves help keep your hands warm in winter" How is her channel blowing up like this?

[Sonic the Whoredgehog]

I get that some people feel their best when they dress or look traditionally feminine, and I'm not bashing that, but I just don't understand why it would be the most important thing like she and others of her ilk seem to promote. Your clothes can say all kinds of things about you; "I'm professional", "I'm quirky", "I'm athletic". Why would you aim for "I have a vagina" if you have other attributes that are more unique to you? 

Honestly I hope some of her subscribers are nonbinary/transgender/drag performers that don't have "female" bodies but want to look more like women sometimes. I'm sure she would hate that but those are the only people I can think of that this advice would genuinely help, except for maybe the completely fashion-inept.