Lori Alexander 62: A Few Fries Short of a Happy Meal- TRIGGER for child sexual abuse

[lilwriter85]

14 hours ago, Sarah92 said:

One lady on her page commented that she had ten kids and that it was totally doable to raise them. Uhhh congrats you can afford to raise ten kids. That would have killed my family because we wouldn't have afforded it and my mother too because she wasn't supposed to have kids after me let alone my little sister. 

 

And Lori is writing a Bible Study?.... that will be a treat. I'm wondering if it will do better or worse than her book?

When some of the Lori's fangirls with large families post comments like that I bet some of them have or had major financial problems, but they won't admit to it because they want Lori to like them. I remember a woman posting a couple of years ago that her family of 10 lived on 20k. 

 

I also saw a string of comments regarding staying at home and affording it. One woman is trying to stay home. If this woman's husband is really unsure of trying to support a family on one income and she keeps pushing him, I feel sorry for him. The reason I feel sorry for him is because his wife is taking advice from an idiot like Lori who has probably never faced any kind of major financial struggles. 

One of the replies was from a woman who just stopped working now that most of her kids are out of the house. Now, it's possible that she and her husband now have a lot of money saved up. If she had quit working years ago it would have been a different story.

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Brenda-I'm working towards this. I put the seed in my husband's mind yesterday. He said we would have to down size on our house and live on a tighter budget. Im okay with that!❤ God will provide?

 

 

 

 

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Ailene-Brenda- I did just this in June. I have multiple children most are adults. This is the first time in my adult life that I did not work a job..most of the time it was multiple jobs. I have never been more confused. One side of me pulls at the fact I have always been proud of the hard work I did for my family..the other side reminds me that I traded and won. I work hard for them now. My youngest is going in to high school. I make him breakfast. Drive him to school. Dinner at the table at 530. My son looked at me a few weeks ago and said "Mom, you are so wonderful. I am glad you are home now." My son got the worst part of me always. I was tired. Worn to the bone. So his childhood memories are not as fun and full as my older children. I have time to work with him now. On what a healthy home looks like. His faith. It truely was a battle for me but the reward has been so much greater.

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Rachel- Brenda  we did this 13 years ago and I’ve never once missed my paycheck or bigger house/budget! Yes, God will provide!

 

 

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Liz-  Brenda when my husband and I were contemplating me come Ming home from work we pretended I didn’t work by not using any of my income EXCEPT to pay daycare. We paid daycare out of my check because we knew it wouldn’t be paid out of his when I came home. We got to practice and see what reality was for us.

Many people value money because they need it to pay the bills and possibly have access to things like health insurance, a home in a mostly safe neighborhood, and other things that just needed in life which aren't material things. 

Even if you cut out certain expenses, other shit in life happens. 

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Red Creek Farm I have friends who ask how I am able to stay home, who say they wish they could. I explain all the ways I have been able to save us money and they reply they just must be spoiled. There is a way, it's just learning to live differently, it's making a conscious choice of where happiness truly lies and not following the crowd who values money & things over time, quality of home life and those you love.

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Lisa- If I could go back and do things differently, I definitely would have made our budget work with my husband's income, getting rid of unnecessary things and stay home. I missed out on so much of my kids toddler, elementary, preteen and high school years and I honestly think things would've been better for all of us, if I would have been home. I am now a stay at home wife and the happiest I've ever been. All the time while I was working, I hated it...I kept thinking, "I need to be home, I want to be with my kids, I would love to be making them a healthy snack for when they get home from school, etc..." Yes- I would've been much happier as a SAHM/W. I look up to ladies that stay home and seek to take care of their husbands and children. It isn't easy and they often are put down as selfish and lazy, BUT to me, they are extremely successful!!

 

I have to give this woman credit for having a backup plan in place. I wouldn't be surprised if this woman gets slammed by some of Lori's other readers. If Lori does see this woman's comment, I would laugh if she told the woman not to worry about the "what ifs". 

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Shain -you can, but your children benefit much more having a full time mother.. I have done it the last few years and have loved it. We have 4 children so, it was also a relief never having to pay for child care. Although, I will mention that I am now a full time student working toward a nursing degree, and the reasoning behind it is simply that my husband is quite a bit older than myself, and sadly one day I may need to provide for everyone on my own. If you can make it work though, you should! It's a blessing.

 

[wallysmommy]

She can't use too much of the King James because she'll have to deal with copyright from whichever publisher she uses.  It's the perfect excuse for her to skimp on the actual scriptures.  She can fill the pages with her own slathered blather.  

Maybe she'll give Ken a special catfood salad for dinner.  He can have an extra ounce of sardines (yuck!).

 

PS.  I love "scheming for Jesus" as my level.  When I was young and worked for an attorney, one of the older attorneys was from Cuba, and he would tell me "Little girl, what are you scheming now?"  This was the early 80's and he was probably 85-years-old and a refugee from the Castro regime.  

[SongRed7]

15 hours ago, Pammy said:

Page one: a post on why you can ignore the entire Old Testament. Done!

with the addendum about how it selectively still applies (NO TATTOOS LADIES!!)

[Frog99]

Comments from her blog post yesterday: 

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I spent over 20 years in a strict Pentecostal. First and foremost was the salvation message, repentance, baptism by full immersion, receiving the Holy Spirit by the evidence of speaking in tongues. No smoking, drinking, swearing, absolutely no pre-marital sex. Yet, our pastors never taught us that the whole meaning of life for women was marriage and babies. They had no problem with women who worked, pursued higher education, couples who had only 1 or 2 children. It wasn’t seen as their business. Regular church attendance was. And women were never allowed to preach in any form. Once again you get different churches and different belief systems

Silly me. I thought we- men and women- were to share God’s word and love with others. 

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With the exception of a handful of conservative Mennonite women, Lori is one of the only women in ALL of modern Christendom who publicly teach the traditional role of biblical womanhood. Please don’t stop, so many of us benefit from hearing these things for the first time. A woman faithfully doing what she was told to do in trying to rear up younger women to do likewise. 

Hosea 4, the whole chapter is good, but verse 6 is most memorable: “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee…”

Until “Christian” women embrace God’s established order of benevolent patriarchy, the world will continue on the path to self-destruction. 

There are men among the various branchings of conservative Baptist denominations who turn men towards traditional biblical wisdom regarding gender roles… for Reformed Baptist, there’s Paul Washer, and Voddie Bauchaum who faithfully teach the roles of men and women… Robert Breaker for “Bible Believing” Independent Fundamentalist Baptists is one of my favorites… there are also some conservative Mennonites, and conservative Plymouth Brethren. Outside of that, you rarely see anyone teaching/advocating/living traditional gender roles in modern Christianity. Women rebel against that teaching, because there’s more world in the church than church in the world. Very few men want to challenge them on it out of COWARDICE, and there are even fewer women with the spiritual fortitude to speak painful truths.

From a man, of course. 

Today she is essentially copying a post that I think was on Wintery Knight’s page (why oh why did I go down that rabbit hole???). It’s a jumbled mess of words but the takeaway is about women’s modesty. In the comments old PJ acknowledges he once had a porn addiction. Like we couldn’t see that from a mile away. 

[Alisamer]

13 minutes ago, Frog99 said:

Yet, our pastors never taught us that the whole meaning of life for women was marriage and babies.

Maybe it says something that the people whose entire job it is to study and explain the Bible did NOT get that message from the Bible - and that many of the pastors who do, are the self-educated type with no real theological training. 

15 minutes ago, Frog99 said:

Hosea 4, the whole chapter is good, but verse 6 is most memorable: “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee…”

Lori rejects the knowledge of the vast majority of pastors - many of whom have (genuine, not basement bible college) masters and doctorates and have spent their entire adult lives studying the Bible. Because a woman who didn't follow any of her own teachings, is susceptible to conspiracy theories, doesn't seem to actually go to church, is actively hurtful to her own daughters online, has directly contradicted scripture quoted to her, and brags about how little she learned in college knows better than thousands of educated theologians.

Hey Lori, my pastor is male but strongly supports female leadership in our church - it's been years since we didn't at least have a female children's minister, sometimes ordained, sometimes not. My pastor's wife works full time. His daughter (their only child) is in college, studying SCIENCE. God gave us brains. We are meant to use them. I know yours is questionable in quality at best, but try to keep it working. 

[Loveday]

What the fuck is 'benevolent patriarchy?' I picture a man patronisingly patting his wife on the head with one hand while holding an open Bible in the other. With a piece of plumbing line sitting in plain view on the table so the kids know not to question his authority.

[wallysmommy]

I grew up much like the blog commenter did -- dresses only, no make-up, big hair, not a lot of jewelry, no movies, no dancing, lots of speaking in tongues (otherwise you weren't considered saved), fire and brimstone preaching, baptism by dunking.  But the pastor's wife pretty much ran the church, and most of the women, including the pastor's daughters, worked and went to college.  For all of our lunacy, there were very few big families in the church.  Most had 2 - 4 children.  All of the young women used birth control.  I don't even remember that as part of the Church of God preaching from visiting preachers in revivals or at camp meeting.  

[dairyfreelife]

1 hour ago, Alisamer said:

Maybe it says something that the people whose entire job it is to study and explain the Bible did NOT get that message from the Bible - and that many of the pastors who do, are the self-educated type with no real theological training. 

Lori rejects the knowledge of the vast majority of pastors - many of whom have (genuine, not basement bible college) masters and doctorates and have spent their entire adult lives studying the Bible. Because a woman who didn't follow any of her own teachings, is susceptible to conspiracy theories, doesn't seem to actually go to church, is actively hurtful to her own daughters online, has directly contradicted scripture quoted to her, and brags about how little she learned in college knows better than thousands of educated theologians.

Hey Lori, my pastor is male but strongly supports female leadership in our church - it's been years since we didn't at least have a female children's minister, sometimes ordained, sometimes not. My pastor's wife works full time. His daughter (their only child) is in college, studying SCIENCE. God gave us brains. We are meant to use them. I know yours is questionable in quality at best, but try to keep it working. 

Lori rejects any professional in anything. Only she is the correct one. Doctors and scientists spend years studying medicine and doing research on real medicine and vaccines? They are all wrong and don't know anything. Black salve, oils, and slimy salmonella salads are best. Lori doesn't need to actually study anything because she, and only she, speaks for gawd. If she does not agree or like what you say or you tell her she is incorrect or every so much as tell her no, well then clearly it's you that is the problem and not her. 

[delphinium65]

We've got a twofer here, a claim that porn makes murderers, and f'ing Vaughn Ohlman weighing in.  

 

[SuperNova]

A comment on Lori's post:

"I know some men are successful at rerepresenting enticing imagery as something painful by wearing rubber bands as bracelets. Whenever their minds interpret a seductive image as good or enticing they pull the rubber band and snap their wrists hard. Eventually the brain starts new groves that associate porn as pain. Apparently this has about an 80% effective rate."

This is just the adult version of blanket training. No reasoning or self exploration to get to the root cause, just pain as a deterrent. Imagine how it would make you feel to see your husband snapping his wrist all day. 

Lori's post has nothing to do with helping our fallen brother or whatever stupid light she tries to paint it in. No, Lori's a dirty minded old woman who wants to talk about sex with a bunch of men who are showing her attention. The story of this so-called "brother in christ" is nasty and dirty and incredibly man-centric. There are no less than ten paragraphs of detailed descriptions of his sins. He could have summarized and still gotten his point across without all his perverted stories of prostitutes and strip clubs. It comes across as more of a brag than anything else.

The man never talks about what it did to his wife or how it affected his family. There is also no real story here about how he was able to overcome his addictions. He claims the usual strength in christ, pluck your eye out garbage. But the real source of the problem wasn't this man's inability to control himself, it was that women were tempting him. The whole point of his story is to tell women that it's our fault if a man is led to sin. 

 

[klein_roeschen]

I'm  a few episodes into second season of the Handmaid's Tale. I watch with my best friend and we can't stomach more than two episodes at the time and than had to switch to something lighter (like the 4th season of Outlander to fawn over Sam Hueghan, but that's another story). And everytime I see aunt Lydia, I must think of Lori. She would be a perfect aunt. Deliver her message with a cattle prod in her hand and stand by the poor women and berate her while they where mutilated as punishment for their "sins".

[Frog99]

34 minutes ago, klein_roeschen said:

I'm  a few episodes into second season of the Handmaid's Tale. I watch with my best friend and we can't stomach more than two episodes at the time and than had to switch to something lighter (like the 4th season of Outlander to fawn over Sam Hueghan, but that's another story). And everytime I see aunt Lydia, I must think of Lori. She would be a perfect aunt. Deliver her message with a cattle prod in her hand and stand by the poor women and berate her while they where mutilated as punishment for their "sins".

Speaking of Handmaid’s Tail- anyone a short distance away from DC? 

https://dcist.com/story/19/02/15/you-might-see-a-bunch-of-handmaids-on-the-national-mall-today/

I’m day trip distance away so not close enough to get there now- would have been a neat (?) pic opportunity. 

I’ve only managed to get through 2 episodes of season 1. I like it but it definitely leaves me feeling very unsettled. 

[Lgirlrocks]

I’m sorry but this is extreme. I grew up conservative Christian and I was allowed sleepovers. We never watched porn and did anything sexual. My parents stopped accompanying me to the bathroom when I was 8 or 9, unless we were both going to the bathroom or it was a place I’d never been at before. If you know who your kids are spending time with there shouldn’t be any issues. 

[EowynW]

40 minutes ago, klein_roeschen said:

I'm  a few episodes into second season of the Handmaid's Tale. I watch with my best friend and we can't stomach more than two episodes at the time and than had to switch to something lighter (like the 4th season of Outlander to fawn over Sam Hueghan, but that's another story). And everytime I see aunt Lydia, I must think of Lori. She would be a perfect aunt. Deliver her message with a cattle prod in her hand and stand by the poor women and berate her while they where mutilated as punishment for their "sins".

I really want to watch it but I'm not quite brave enough yet. 

[klein_roeschen]

4 minutes ago, Lgirlrocks said:

I’m sorry but this is extreme. I grew up conservative Christian and I was allowed sleepovers. We never watched porn and did anything sexual. My parents stopped accompanying me to the bathroom when I was 8 or 9, unless we were both going to the bathroom or it was a place I’d never been at before. If you know who your kids are spending time with there shouldn’t be any issues. 

Aren't her children all grown up, married and able bodied? What did she think will they be able to do on a short pee break at their church that they still need mommy to go with them to the rest room? Tell them to look straight at the wall and not on the dick of the guy next to them? And more importand, what think the other men in the restroom, when she is in there with her grown up sons to protect them against the perverse generation?

[SongRed7]

10 minutes ago, EowynW said:

I really want to watch it but I'm not quite brave enough yet. 

I've seen 4 episodes of season 1, Really good, but I feel like I needed therapy afterward.  I plan to watch the rest in good time, but it really is scary when you see things written by Lori or by people on her page.   Too close to the way real people think

[EowynW]

21 minutes ago, SongRed7 said:

I've seen 4 episodes of season 1, Really good, but I feel like I needed therapy afterward.  I plan to watch the rest in good time, but it really is scary when you see things written by Lori or by people on her page.   Too close to the way real people think

Some lines in the book were lines I had literally heard fundies speak!

[FullOfGravy]

2 hours ago, SuperNova said:

I know some men are successful at rerepresenting enticing imagery as something painful by wearing rubber bands as bracelets. Whenever their minds interpret a seductive image as good or enticing they pull the rubber band and snap their wrists hard. Eventually the brain starts new groves that associate porn as pain.

Well, that sounds like a great way to create some decidedly impure kinks.

[EowynW]

Mystery of the unknown grandchild is solved! So happy for her. 

 

[SweetLaurel]

2 hours ago, Lgirlrocks said:

I’m sorry but this is extreme. I grew up conservative Christian and I was allowed sleepovers. We never watched porn and did anything sexual. My parents stopped accompanying me to the bathroom when I was 8 or 9, unless we were both going to the bathroom or it was a place I’d never been at before. If you know who your kids are spending time with there shouldn’t be any issues. 

Maybe we are a strange family, but I can't imagine my grown, adult, married kids saying to me, "Mommy, thank you so much for never letting me pee alone."     Is that sort of like Lori asking her dad about anal sex when he was in his 80's?  Maybe that's what her family sits around Door County doing every summer,  quizzing each other about sex and pee habits?  Who knows?  

[EowynW]

Mystery of the unknown grandchild solved! So happy for her. Hopefully she'll break the unhealthy parenting cycle. And I hope she won't completely lose her identity to motherhood. She is an interesting person. 

[Lgirlrocks]

6 minutes ago, EowynW said:

Mystery of the unknown grandchild solved! So happy for her. Hopefully she'll break the unhealthy parenting cycle. And I hope she won't completely lose her identity to motherhood. She is an interesting person. 

I hope she eats and doesn’t let her eating disorder get the best of her. 

[ViolaSebastian]

16 minutes ago, EowynW said:

Mystery of the unknown grandchild solved! So happy for her. Hopefully she'll break the unhealthy parenting cycle. And I hope she won't completely lose her identity to motherhood. She is an interesting person. 

Aww, I'm happy for them. I truly hope that Alyssa refuses to follow her mother's guidance on child-rearing. 

[usmcmom]

I am really happy for Alyssa but I also find it odd and kind of cruel that Lori referred to their unborn child before Alyssa and John announced the pregnancy.  Lori should have let her daughter set the timing for any mention of their growing family. 

 

[ViolaSebastian]

18 minutes ago, usmcmom said:

I am really happy for Alyssa but I also find it odd and kind of cruel that Lori referred to their unborn child before Alyssa and John announced the pregnancy.  Lori should have let her daughter set the timing for any mention of their growing family. 

 

I guess "grandmother of nine" is somehow more Godly and sympathetic than "grandmother of eight?"