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On 1/1/2019 at 6:32 AM, Sarah92 said:

What people also don't know about government health care is the amount of people who go to the ER for simple things. Now that I'm in the ER a lot for work, I see how much it's used for non emergencies because apparently there's a less chance of having to pay a bill because the hospital will just lose money on those who can't pay. I don't know the details on how it works. But those who are uninsured clog the ER when they should be able to visit a doctors. Or their sickness shouldn't get to the point they need the ER but that happens too. The government also shells out a ton for ER visits that should be managed elsewhere. 

I know there's a lot of people who use the ER for non-emergency issues, but when you have no money, no PCP, and no insurance, what the fuck are you supposed to do? (Not directed at you, Sarah, I'm just mad about how fucked up healthcare is in the US). I live in a state that didn't expand Medicaid. A lot of people in my area fall into the area of too much money for medicaid, not enough for useable insurance. A PCP cash pay visit is around $100 or more. The "Urgent Care" is freaking expensive for cash pay too (like $500 for a flu visit). And anything more than flu or strep and you're shunted to the ER anyway. 

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37 minutes ago, Lisafer said:

I know there's a lot of people who use the ER for non-emergency issues, but when you have no money, no PCP, and no insurance, what the fuck are you supposed to do? (Not directed at you, Sarah, I'm just mad about how fucked up healthcare is in the US). I live in a state that didn't expand Medicaid. A lot of people in my area fall into the area of too much money for medicaid, not enough for useable insurance. A PCP cash pay visit is around $100 or more. The "Urgent Care" is freaking expensive for cash pay too (like $500 for a flu visit). And anything more than flu or strep and you're shunted to the ER anyway. 

This. So much this. 

Then there are people stuck with horrid insurance plans. Mr. 05's company did us the favor of a warning about the change they are making in one year. As of next January 1, we will have a low premium plan with a $3000 per person deductible. The plan will pay for absolutely NOTHING until we have reached the deductible. We will pay 100% out of pocket for every doctor visit, every dental check up, every eye exam, every prescription. 

I'm fully prepared to no longer seek health care other than vision. And I have no idea how we will pay for my vision care. A check up at the retinal specialist is around $600 without insurance coverage. It is likely that I will no longer see him. We can't pay for that. 

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On 1/1/2019 at 4:32 AM, Sarah92 said:

their sickness shouldn't get to the point they need the ER but that happens too. The government also shells out a ton for ER visits that should be managed elsewhere.

If you have Medi-cal it's almost impossible to see your regular doctor for the flu or some other "minor" ailment. Doctors are so overbooked that the appointment schedulers or even the nurse will tell you to go the ER. I once waited five hours to be seen and ended up leaving before getting help after I saw a wheel chair piled high with pizza boxes headed through the double doors. If a fucking pizza took priority over me, I probably wasn't going to die. 

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2 hours ago, delphinium65 said:

Today our Godly Mentor claims that 'When I was in high school, I dated two guys long-term. They weren’t believers but they knew I had strict standards concerning sexual morality. Even though both of them had had sex with other girls before me, it’s me who they wanted to marry and be with.'

Yeah, that happened.  Sure it did.  Also, if you're in the market for a bridge, I may be able to hook you up.

I know it's not unheard-of for high schoolers to think the person they've been dating "long-term" (read: 2 months) is their soulmate and they'll get married, but I have a hard time believing that Lori inspired this sentiment in not one, but two hormonal, previously sexually active teenaged boys because of her insistence on no-touchies. 

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2 hours ago, delphinium65 said:

Today our Godly Mentor claims that 'When I was in high school, I dated two guys long-term. They weren’t believers but they knew I had strict standards concerning sexual morality. Even though both of them had had sex with other girls before me, it’s me who they wanted to marry and be with.'  I'm not buying it. Lori just wants her followers to think that she was oh-so-desirable when she was younger, but sacrificed it all for a Godly Man.

Being the cynic I am, I don't even think that Lori was a virgin in her wedding night nor that Ken was even her first. She went to highschool and college in the 1970's, way before the purity movement. And while she isn't the brightest candle on the cake in terms of education, I think she learned pretty fast how to use her looks and physical attraction to get what she wants.

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18 minutes ago, FullOfGravy said:

Yeah, that happened.  Sure it did.  Also, if you're in the market for a bridge, I may be able to hook you up.

I know it's not unheard-of for high schoolers to think the person they've been dating "long-term" (read: 2 months) is their soulmate and they'll get married, but I have a hard time believing that Lori inspired this sentiment in not one, but two hormonal, previously sexually active teenaged boys because of her insistence on no-touchies. 

I assume it went something like this: 

Lori: No, stop. I'm waiting until I get married. 

Horny teenage boy: Uh, but we're getting married, baby. You're the one, yeah, I'm going to marry you so we don't have to stop. 

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On ‎12‎/‎31‎/‎2018 at 3:26 PM, ladyicantxplain said:

Adoption is not a game.  Not a cute little solution.  I was adopted. I was in foster care prior (I don't recall this as I was very young).

NO ONE has any business adopting who is not EDUCATED about the implications of adoption physically, emotionally and spiritually. It is often not very pretty.  The child has a WOUND.  That wound must be bound up and healed.

 

So true. I'm adopted myself. Back in the 90s, there was very little information about the implications of adoption like you have stated. I was in my 20s before I got the  therapy I so desperately needed. My parents are incredible people, and we had tried other counselors but they didn't specialize in adoption trauma. We found one (the one I see now) and it has changed my life for the better.

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26 minutes ago, klein_roeschen said:

Being the cynic I am, I don't even think that Lori was a virgin in her wedding night nor that Ken was even her first. She went to highschool and college in the 1970's, way before the purity movement. And while she isn't the brightest candle on the cake in terms of education, I think she learned pretty fast how to use her looks and physical attraction to get what she wants.

I was thinking the same thing. The fact that she has to publicize how "pure" she was makes me think it was just the opposite. I think Lori was willing to do anything to make a boy "fall in love with her" and want to marry her. This is, after all, a woman who poked a hole in her diaphragm when she was married. What might she have been willing to do before that to "just become a wife and mother"? 

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30 minutes ago, klein_roeschen said:

Being the cynic I am, I don't even think that Lori was a virgin in her wedding night nor that Ken was even her first. She went to highschool and college in the 1970's, way before the purity movement.

Well she did say in her book or a blog post (I'll have to go find it now), they they were "technical" virgins when they got married.  I interpreted that to mean, maybe there was a lot going on, but they stopped at actually intercourse.  I had a friend in HS who liked to brag about this...that she was a "technical virgin" on her wedding night...but the truth was she and her boyfriend would fully be messing around (in bed, undressed) every time her parents were away.

I'm guessing Lori did a version of this. According to her book (I got my copy last week!) She visited Ken for a month in Miami after they graduated and Ken actually lived with her family for a period of time leading up to their wedding.  I'm sure some stuff was going on and she wasn't as "pure" as she wants people to believe. 

 

 

34 minutes ago, louisa05 said:

Lori: No, stop. I'm waiting until I get married. 

Horny teenage boy: Uh, but we're getting married, baby. You're the one, yeah, I'm going to marry you so we don't have to stop. 

That was exactly my thoughts!

 

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2 hours ago, Lisafer said:

I know there's a lot of people who use the ER for non-emergency issues, but when you have no money, no PCP, and no insurance, what the fuck are you supposed to do? (Not directed at you, Sarah, I'm just mad about how fucked up healthcare is in the US). I live in a state that didn't expand Medicaid. A lot of people in my area fall into the area of too much money for medicaid, not enough for useable insurance. A PCP cash pay visit is around $100 or more. The "Urgent Care" is freaking expensive for cash pay too (like $500 for a flu visit). And anything more than flu or strep and you're shunted to the ER anyway. 

Oh I know it's not directed towards me. I'm right there with you raging about it. I was kicked off my parents plan when I was 19 and someone told I couldn't get on Medicaid unless I got pregnant. (Was this accurate? Idk but it scared me off even trying). I briefly got temp insurance for 6 months for my study abroad (heavily scholarshipped) but the deductible was so high it was useless. I couldn't get on permanent because I weighed about 20 Lbs over at the time. I got health insurance through my job this year. I went to my first gyno appointment in December 2018 at 26. People look at me strangely when I say this but I was poor and had no way of paying for it. I think the bill is like 400? And I'm waiting to hear back from my insurance on what they'll cover. I know full well that I got pretty damn luckily to never get sick enough to need the ER because that's where I'd have to go without insurance. 

It makes me sick when people talk about not wanting any reform or leaving things as they are. 

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47 minutes ago, klein_roeschen said:

Being the cynic I am, I don't even think that Lori was a virgin in her wedding night nor that Ken was even her first

I'll cynic you one better.

I don't think Ken was a virgin on his wedding night either.  I think Lori insisted on "no touching, no tongues, I'm pure as the driven snow" during their dating/ engagement and made Ken believe she was a virgin. I think Lori manipulated Ken into believing she was a godly pure virgin, the kind of girl a future minister would want.  I think she then manipulated him into marriage, because ... she wanted to be married... didn't matter to whom. Look at the picture of them when they are dating. Lori is smiling and laughing and Ken looks like a deer in the headlights.

I'm pretty sure Ken figured out she'd been lying to him on the wedding night And that was the start of 23 (38?) years of miserable married life.

I knew plenty of good Christian girls who slept around in high school and college all the while pretending and having nearly everyone believe they were still pure virgins who didn't even french kiss.

No shade on sleeping around, but at least admit you're not a virgin. Don't lie like Lori did.

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My how things change:

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Lori's high school years must have been VERY busy.  She says she dated 2 guys "long-term", but here she says she dated "several guys":

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It seems college was a rather busy time as well- at least for Godly Lori:

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Yes, you read that correctly.  She went out with quite a few guys in college AND didn't date much in college.  Different post, different truth.

But back to her assertion that:

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and:

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-They knew she had standards regarding "sexual morality"

-They appreciated those standards

-They wanted to marry and be with her (in high school????)

-They were great guys

-They treated Lori well

Interesting.  Especially in light of these posts:

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He appreciated her standards so much that he became enraged and nearly flipped the car driving her home?  I guess after that he proposed?
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This guy respected her standards so much that he picked her up completely shit faced, and then tried to lure her into a bedroom- to ask her to marry him I guess?  To tell her how godly she was?

Just in case you aren't sure about Lori's ever so godly "standards":

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he was so angry I wouldn't have sex with him at the drive-in movie theater.

Someone enjoyed Grease, I see.

 

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I would have loved having boundaries that would have protected me.

For all the lies Lori spews, I can easily believe that she had some unwanted or threatening experiences in high school and college - it's all too common today in the age of #metoo, and was certainly common enough during her youth.  However, the best protection she could've had back then, the best protection girls and women today could have, is a culture where sexual education, safety and consent are emphasized.  And yet here she is basking in the attention and approval of MRAs.

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I can’t find her post for today- not on FB and not on the actual blog. Has she taken it down?

The most recent thing I see is her twitter post. I know that’s not a new platform for her- but it still seems like an attempt for increased traffic and attention. I bet they will try and monetize this year (if it’s not already monetized- she claims it isn’t but who knows). 

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1 hour ago, SassyPantswithASideofClass said:

So true. I'm adopted myself. Back in the 90s, there was very little information about the implications of adoption like you have stated. I was in my 20s before I got the  therapy I so desperately needed. My parents are incredible people, and we had tried other counselors but they didn't specialize in adoption trauma. We found one (the one I see now) and it has changed my life for the better.

I was adopted mid 80s. I was told I was immediately taken from my birth mother and put in a closed off room all by myself and only medical staff could see me for 2 days until my parents got to take me home. 

There's no doubt in my mind that some of my mental illness stems from this.

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Oh Lori, its the second day of 2019, and you have managed to yet again tick everyone off. You contradict yourself so much. If those guys truly respected you as you claim, they would have never done what they did. Or did they? Lori, I am a Christian. I have a faith that is very strong and deep. However, I am far from the perfect Christian. I still sin, I am human, and I admit my flaws. Chronic people pleasing and yes I struggled with lying. I struggled with being truthful. The reason? A lot of it had to do with trauma from childhood, it was a coping mechanism for me. Does that make it right? Heck to the NO. I am now learning and have improved greatly in being truthful, and honest. Gone is the mask. A young woman has emerged. A woman whose been through a lot, yet has learned to love others deeply, be truthful and honest, to set proper boundaries when needed, and to be myself.

Lori, you still harp on working women, newsflash, I'm one of them. I work hard, save, pay my bills and so forth. Single mom too but dang it I love my munchkin more than the very air I breathe. She is cared for deeply by my family and close friends. She is learning and will learn basic life skills. However munchkin will learn that life isn't served on a silver platter amongst other things.

Lori, I will be getting a tattoo one day soon. Its to signify something special that only I understand. Oh and at one time I was in debt, but I paid it off.

and Lori? ONE last thing. I know of several young men who have wanted to date and pursue a relationship with myself. I am just now letting myself be pursued. You know what else? They love my daughter and she loves them.

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I had a moment of panic yesterday when I opened what I thought was just a random paper statement envelope from my dental insurance.

It said something to the effect of “you will be reenrolled. but you need to make sure you sign up for your medical plan again at healthcare.gov” Which would have been by 12/15

Ok that’s mildly confusing. It was annoying enough to enroll in medical coverage that i didnt want (and then just get blasted about it while I didnt pay) because believe it or not...You can’t check a box saying, my work gives me medical I only need to pick dental please.

And I religously pay for my dental because they will drop it with no grace period. You also can’t get back on the same plan for two years. Or reenroll till the end of the year. 

I still hate going and avoid it. But I pay. 

Internet confirmed I am still covered but fuck, I had a solid ten minutes of “if I have no dental coverage I will call big guns (I know big dental-affiliated guns) and attempt to make noises about stupidity”

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OK...I found the passage from Lori's book (page 16) that refers to being a "technical" virgin. So she practically admits she wasn't nearly as pure as she's trying to make herself look.   Nothing wrong with waiting til marriage or doing it before marriage. Just be honest about it. Would resonate with more people and make you look more genuine...and not put yourself on a pedestal like you tend to do (talking to YOU, Lori!)

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I really get tired of Lori blaming her mother for every bad decision Lori made in her life. Lori has said that she always got her way. What good were "boundaries" going to do her? Regardless of what her mother taught her, Lori would do exactly whar Lori wanted to do, this includes anything regarding sex, in my opinion.  

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3 hours ago, Frog99 said:

I can’t find her post for today- not on FB and not on the actual blog. Has she taken it down?

The most recent thing I see is her twitter post. I know that’s not a new platform for her- but it still seems like an attempt for increased traffic and attention. I bet they will try and monetize this year (if it’s not already monetized- she claims it isn’t but who knows). 

I have the same problem today. I did find today's  blog post on the actual blog, but it's just odd that it's not showing up for me on FB. Nor is her usual afternoon post, if she has one up. There's no new instagram post today, I just checked that.

I think I need to get a life. :laughing-rolling:

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2 hours ago, SongRed7 said:

OK...I found the passage from Lori's book (page 16) that refers to being a "technical" virgin. So she practically admits she wasn't nearly as pure as she's trying to make herself look.   Nothing wrong with waiting til marriage or doing it before marriage. Just be honest about it. Would resonate with more people and make you look more genuine...and not put yourself on a pedestal like you tend to do (talking to YOU, Lori!)

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I'm normally not squeamish or avoidant when it comes to talking about sex, but Lori's description of herself as a "technical virgin" just strikes me as so childish and gross. She's an adult, writing a book for adults--she can totally say "oral sex" and "anal sex." Geez. 

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I want Lori to define what she means by "technically a virgin." Because that could be 'we did everything except PinV'  to 'I was kissed before marriage by someone other than Ken' and anything in between.

Calling BS on knowing her sisters were also technical virgins.  I doubt, given Lori's judgmental attitude, her sisters told  her one damn thing about their "sex lives."  Lori would have tattled straight to mom.

I also want Lori to define dated a guy "long term." Is that 2 dates, 2 weeks, 2 months, a year?  Because it seems, if we are to believe her, that Miss Lori sure did get around. 2 long term relationships, dated lots of other guys, on the Homecoming court, a cheerleader(?).  Gee that's a lot of popularity for someone who has repeatedly said she had no friends, was bullied, and was picked on for being a Christian.  Plus she seemed to like the wild ones. One guy picked her up for a date completely plastered, and another tried to have sex at the drive in movie. And these are just the stories she's told us.  Wonder what else we don't know.

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